Sorry I've been missing in action the past little while- things have been nutso around here lately. I've been planning a baby shower for a good friend, getting my orchestra started up again, and planning yet another ward activity. Add a sick little one, and you have one crazy week. I mean, I like to be busy, but last week was a little ridiculous.
About church attendance- I have felt the same way a lot recently. DD is become more and more active and mobile by hte day, and sometimes the Sunday block of meetings feels like a giant circus trying to keep dd quiet and out of trouble. We never make it to Sunday school, and sacrament meeting is last, so by that time, she is usually so frustrated that we spend more time trying to keep her entertained than we do paying attention to the meeting. It's really frustrating, and there are times where I've felt so frustrated coming home from church that I wondered why I went at all. But I think we need to go because it's a commandment. Because we are told to stand in holy places, and we want to show our children a good example- going to church on Sunday because that is where we are supposed to be. But more than that I think we need to go for the spirit that is there. I think that there are times when the spirit can teach us through a lesson or a thought given, and if we're not there, we'll miss it. It doesn't happen everytime, but I don't have big spiritual experiences every time I read the scriptures, pray or go to the temple. But I keep doing those things because I hope and am searching for those spiritual experiences and uplift. Now, I just need to keep telling myself these things when I have Sundays like we did yesterday....
Drewsmom- we are really struggling with scheduling issues too. I'm teaching again now though, and I'm hoping that getting up and going to bed at a consisitent time each day will help the situation. Also, I'm going to tryi to shoot for a consistent nap time, or a nap at all... DD is not a great sleeper, and when she doesn't sleep, she gets even more cranky and wound up. So we're working on becoming more consistent, and I think she'll thrive on it. I also try and plan one "outing" every day, even if it's just a walk around the street, or a visiting teaching appointment. That way we don't end up in the house all day, and we both get a change of scenery.
Someone asked about marraige relationships the other day, and I didn't have a chance to respond, and I feel bad because I can't find the original post now. Marraiges are so hard- it's so difficult to constantly be with someone and try to make alife with them. No matter how much you love a person, it's still difficult to handle all the little, mundane, day to day things that come up. I think it's especially hard when there are financial troubles, or troubles with kids, etc- things that are common to young couples! I think the key would be honest but kind communication. DH and I have a tendency to be silent when troubles come up, and we could both spend days not talking to each other when we're upset. But if we take a minute to take a deep breath and discuss what's really on our mind in a quiet and kind way, things are usually resolved fairly quickly. I have a big tendency to blow things out of proportion, and one little irritation from my dh can sometimes have me stewing for hours about all his faults. When I give him the benefit of the doubt and realize that he doesn't mean to hurt my feelings/ be careless etc, I stop taking everything so personally. A couple of friends of ours are going through counseling theough LDS Family Services, and have had a great improvement in their relationship- is this an option? Being in counseling is not a failure- it's a way to make a marraige work. I
wish I remembered who posted the question so that I could give them a huge hug.... I guess one of these
will have to do!