Holly, I understand what you are saying. I don't like the label either but sometimes it is the easy way to relate a lot of information quickly. I never use the term around my ds.
I am currently in the process of finding a tutor for my ds in robotics. He is getting beyond me and I don't have that much interest in mechanical things. I want him to have time with someone who has as much passion for building and creating that he has! I don't have to know as much as he does, I just need to find him the resources to move ahead.
For me the biggest challenge comes with dealing with my ds's emotions. Accepting his intense feelings and trying not to stress when I realize how different he is are the biggest factors for me. Sometimes I expect to much of him and need a gentle reminder that he's still a 7 year old kid.
Here are some traits of gifted kids from the book I mentioned before. A quote from the book says "Keeping in mind the diversity of gifted or creative learners, we can find enough common traits and tendencies, however, to talk about them as a group".
*Precociousness, especially early language development
*A creative nature
*High levels of sensitivity
*Complexity of thought and personality
*Perfectionism and high expectations
*Highly developed or pervasive sense of humor
*Idealism and sense of justice
*Fascination with patterns
*Unusual ability to concentrate on topics of interest
*Strong drive and developed sense of self
The needs of this type personality are challenging but I think you will find that his need to learn will make him a delight to homeschool. Finding resources for him will be your greatest job and one that I am sure you can succeed in!
I hope this helps and hopefully we won't get flamed too much!