by the way I was being sarcastic about the maid thing. I know not everyone here has maids, not even most. but it is REALLY common here. I do in fact see a maid comment nearly every time I log on. I think part of it is that the majority of us ARE financially stable (as opposed to poor). I see all the time comments about buying brand new expensive cars, expensive diapers, toys, clothes. And no one blinks. But this could also be attributed to the fact that there are thousands of people here, and mostly all of us have internet (still a luxury) and subscriptions to Mothering (luxury). My point being, we are a group of mainly financially stable people. Or else we wouldnt even be talking about 15$ diapers with 300TC and organic mattresses and stuff like that. I dont know, i'd be embarassed to tell anyone if I had a maid, I certainly wouldnt slip it into conversation like some of them do here. After all, we're Mothers. We work our asses off. We don't need to hear people bragging about how much help they have around the house. but that's a touchy subject for me, havign no help whatsoever around the house, I guess. I will try to stop ranting about maid-havers now.