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post #21 of 103
ds is only 8 months old so doesn't get tv time per say. though I don't freak out if he watches a little when we watch a movie or the news or whatever (we only get 1 channel anyway so it's not much!)

we were really set on doing no tv pre-baby but now have decided to become a little more realistic about it. (for us) espeially as we watch it so we can hardly forbid ds from it and feel right about it. also we have a friend who does no tv and her kids come over and are GLUED to it..I mean they won't even acknowlegde you talking to them
post #22 of 103
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Originally Posted by Greaseball
I figure it's OK as long as they have plenty of non-TV things they enjoy doing.
ITA - My dd watches Noggin, PBS and a few DVD's. I'm not ashamed about it.
post #23 of 103
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are the adults also TV-free?
We are making that effort. We'll be cancelling cable soon (I know I keep saying this... I have to get the box over to the cable company...) but in the meantime we haven't been watching TV except for three rented movies and a handful of other times when DS was sound asleep - like a bit of the debates, or election coverage, or a bit of baseball. But we're committed to cutting the cable so we won't have any reception at all. And the TV remains concealed 100% of the time so none of us even thinks about it. It's not staring at us all day long!
post #24 of 103
Thread Starter 
Dd also likes to watch sports with dh, but that's more of a togetherness thing. It's different than her just being stuck in front of the TV by herself.
post #25 of 103
We don't have cable. Dh and I really enjoy watching PBS-- everything from Masterpiece Theatre to Frontline, which educates us about what's going on in the world. Dd just watched White Cloud, a documentary about a wild mustang in Montana. She was playing horses for days afterwards. Also asked some questions about death which led to interesting discussions. A few days ago dd and I did a Pilates video together and that was really fun. We were laughing at each other.

How can any of that be bad?

Darshani
post #26 of 103
We don't watch much television around here but I am also not opposed to it. The kids watch far more television than I do. I rarely watch a video and refuse to watch the junky reality stuff that is on network television.
post #27 of 103
Haley watches tv and has since she was 6 weeks...BE was the only thing that calmed her down when she was colicky. Max and Jack watch. I limit all of them but not severly. I'm more concerned with what they watch then how much (although I limit the amount and make sure they get lots of outside time, reading time, creative play time, etc.)
post #28 of 103
Well - we are a TV watching family....right now it is a bit more then I would like but being 8 months pg I am just not going to worry about it.

Typically DS wakes up at around 6:30-7:00 am and DH gets up with him. They watch Playhouse Disney and get ready to go to work/school - they leave at 8:00am. DD usually wakes up by 7:30 and will watch with them (Jo Jo's Circus in on then and it is her favorite show!) I wake up when DH and DS leave at 8am. I usually keep the TV on unitl about 9am - with DD watching if she feels like it or just playing. Usually I will put NickJr. on at 8am because Dora is on - but I *really* can't stand the commericals on that channel : so if I know I will be distratcted at the end of the show (I try to turn it off before they come on) I don't turn it on.

We pick DS up from school at 11:30 and are home by noon. DS is usually a bit 'tired' then and we have 'down time' while I make lunch - they watch Playhouse Disney - JoJo's Circus and Stanley (we love Stanley in this house - DS learns ALOT!) Then at 1 the TV goes off. Then we usually play outside or do whatever.

Usually around 3-4pm DD will get cranky and tired so I will turn PBS on and she falls asleep - then I turn it off and DS and I will do some 'big kid' acitivities that little sisters can't do Then depending on when DH is going to be home we may watch a video or not (if he is home late we will watch a video - if he is going to be home on time we don't - also depends on how I am feeling, which lately has been not so good )

Once DH gets home (around 5:30) we eat dinner or go to DS's sporting events and then start getting ready for bed. DS goes in for bed at 7pm. DD is our night owl and is up usually until about 10 or a bit later so between 7-10 she usually gets to watch one of her Dora videos. She is the one I am a bit 'concerned' about regarding the TV because she LOVES it and will watch non-stop if I let her....so I am working on cutting out the night time videos and such.

So anyway - that is TV viewing habits. DH and I also like to watch TV - I love Law and Order, CSI Miami, ect... and will usually watch them if DH is playing with DD - we don't have a VCR or Tivo so I can't tape them But if I miss it it really isn't a big deal.

During the times the the TV is on - they are not always watching it either.....but there are definatly shows that they enjoy and it dosn't bother me that much at all.

We ABSOUTLY DO NOT watch adult programming in front of DS - and now that DD is getting older we won't with her either. DH does watch sports with the kids and they both really enjoy it.
post #29 of 103
Count us in as a TV family. DS (1 week shy of 17 mos) doesn't watch our shows -- he just wanders around the living room playing with his toys. But if we put one of his DVDs on, he's happy.

It was just Baby Einstein at first, but I got the Signing Time DVD set off ebay a week ago ($20 cheaper from a wahm in Dallas, than from the signing time website -- contact me if you want her website), and DS has really been loving it. And he's picking up almost a sign a day from these DVDs. It's fascinating to watch him learn the different signs, and he loves watching the kids in the videos. We couldn't have done that if we were a no-TV family.
post #30 of 103
please share the baby signs website!
post #31 of 103
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Originally Posted by Greaseball
I figure it's OK as long as they have plenty of non-TV things they enjoy doing.

For those with TV-free kids...are the adults also TV-free?
Yes. We cancelled our satellite tv. We could have gotten an antenna to receive local tv, but we haven't. The adults watch videos occasionally, as do the kids.

I've seen this a bunch around here lately. This isn't a "ha, ha, I'm better than you because I don't watch tv." It really isn't a competition.

Really.

It isn't.

But I'm seeing people on both sides get defensive like they're way of life is being attacked. It isn't.

Don't be threatened because I turned my tv off.

I do it, because it is good for us. We are living much healthier now because it is off. My dd (3.5) only rarely asks to watch anything. When she does, I usually let her.

But she has found that there are usually things that she would prefer to do now. Before I shut the tv off, she never looked for those other things. She only wanted to watch tv.

A note about marketing, though, as it seems that people are very quick to assure everyone that their kids watch commercial-free shows. Those shows are one big commercial. Clifford has a whole line of toys that go with the show. As does every show on Disney, and almost every show on Noggin and Nick Jr. See the show, buy the stuff. Not to mention that Ronald McDonald is running around doing music videos on all these stations. No, we don't have burgers shoved in front of our faces, but our kids are smart. They see all the kids in the video running around with Ronald having a great time, and they want to go to McDonald's.

When she is older, I will be able to discuss these things with her. What do you think the commercial/show was trying to tell us? How did it make you feel? Do you think that is what was intended? Etc.

Right now, she's three, and all she knows is that the kid in her preschool class has a Dora The Explorer umbrella, so she wants one too. And she hasn't watched that show for 6 months!



Bec
post #32 of 103
No cable? No TV at all? You guys are scaring me. :LOL

I have no problem with my kids watching TV. I watch a couple shows (although I watched none until they were old enough to leave me alone for an hour) and I'm a total sports junkie so I've raised them up as sports fans too. They know they're allowed to watch TV whenever they want (my daughter even has a little TV in her bedroom) and I guess that makes it less desirable because they don't watch all that much. Go figure. They certainly have never had that "zombie" thing going that some kids do. Maybe because they're always trying to do three things at once. :
post #33 of 103
"Clifford has a whole line of toys that go with the show."

We only watch pbs, and yes, the shows have lines of products that go with them. But I really don't have a problem with that either. Dds have Clifford plates and forks and spoons. And they have ones with other characters that they like. I don't see any big deal - they also read books about Clifford and Thomas and other characters. They draw pictures of them, they talk about the stories, they read the stories, they tell stories...........not only about these characters, but about tons of other things too.

Now, I wont get into buying cereal or candy or plastic junk just becuase it has Clifford or whatever on it. They know that, and accept it.

The only way you get dragged into having to buy the stuff is if you let yourself. And as for dds eating dinner off a plate with Clifford on it, I dont see any big deal. Or if they are given a tshirt with one of their favourite characters on. Their favourite characters are from stories that I approve of, so it's fine with me.
post #34 of 103
Another comment about the merchandising...

Yes, a lot of PBS shows and other "quality" kids' shows do sell their licensing rights to toy comapnies and clothing companies and you can find Clifford and Dora and whoever else on everything under the sun. But I don't think that's a reason not to watch the shows if your child enjoys them and you approve of them. It IS a reason to set limits on what we call "character things" in our house.

Dd learned at an early age that the characters in some of her programs appear on lots of stuff, but that often this stuff is poorly made or not good for you (blue Blue's Clues applesauce, yuck!) or overpriced and not something Mommy and Daddy choose to spend money on. We satisfy her desire for such things with small items such as toothbrushes or pajamas (the Disney cotton pj's are actually pretty cute and inexpensive), because we don't like to completely forbid things unless they are truly harmful.

As long as a show was a show before it was a toy, I don't mind - if I've seen the show and think it's a good one. I do know that on network television there are a whole lot of cartoons that were actually created FROM the toys - such as those Yu Gi Oh cards or Pokemon, and then there are those Barbie videos...those sorts of things bug me because they seem to have been created for the sole purpose of selling toys. But even those...I borrowed one of the Barbie ones from the library and it was pretty cute...and DD already knows that I'm not going out to buy her all the Barbie Swan Lake stuff just because she saw the video. It's just about setting limits and sticking to them, IMO.

I have to admit that even though it isn't fair to judge, I do sort of cringe when I see parents who totally indulge their child's attraction to a tv character so much that it seems that the child is constantly surrounded by it - the Elmo stroller, the Elmo bedding, the Elmo snow boots, the Elmo crackers and so on. It just doesn't seem healthy to me.
post #35 of 103
DH and sib's were raised TV Free. Let's just say that it didn't work out too well. I mean they all turned out fine, but also TV Obsessed now that they have access to this "forbiden fruit".

I just hated the idea of a TV free household. I love TV. I also love to read, cook, volunteer in the community. I don't want to eliminate anything.


DH can't beleive how little the girls watch TV. He was shocked one Saturday when the girls were 3, 5, and 7 (the age when we stopped getting up with them in the mornings on weekedns). He came downstairs and they were all in their swimsuits. With towels laid out on the floor and some beach balls. They told him they were having a beach party. It lasted for about an hour. He couldn't believe that they would choose to do this instead of watch TV.
post #36 of 103
Ds watches about an hour of baby videos a week if we are doing something and we need him distracted - like the other day when we were moving furniture. We have some Teletubbies and Baby Einstein videos. But this is rare that we put tv on for him.

We watch a little, like the news and Simpsons, but ds usually ignores it.
post #37 of 103
We don't limit TV. Sam has discovered movies--we just got a DVD player--and he is fascinated. At 2.5 we were talking about villains and watching Home Alone and Wizard of Oz to see different kinds.

I would no more forbid him books than I would TV--it's all learning.
post #38 of 103
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Originally Posted by maya43
DH and sib's were raised TV Free. Let's just say that it didn't work out too well. I mean they all turned out fine, but also TV Obsessed now that they have access to this "forbiden fruit".

I just hated the idea of a TV free household. I love TV. I also love to read, cook, volunteer in the community. I don't want to eliminate anything.


DH can't beleive how little the girls watch TV. He was shocked one Saturday when the girls were 3, 5, and 7 (the age when we stopped getting up with them in the mornings on weekedns). He came downstairs and they were all in their swimsuits. With towels laid out on the floor and some beach balls. They told him they were having a beach party. It lasted for about an hour. He couldn't believe that they would choose to do this instead of watch TV.
We didn't have a TV until I was 12. You should have seen me. From around 3-5:30, I watched whatever I could on TV and then after dinner, I watched more TV. During high school, I probably watched a good 3 hours of TV every night. And I was busy too. I was on the swim team, in honors and AP classes and went to the beach on weekends. But I still found time for ALL my shows.

As an adult, I can give or take TV. I don't even care if I don't have a TV and I only watch it because we have TiVo and I can fastforward through commercials and watch whatever show I'm into. It happens to be Survivor right now and I will be watching Amazing Race too. But I sometimes watch them days after they have aired and always when the kids are in bed. I probably only watch 3 hours of TV a week. My kids probably watch more like 10 hours a week.
post #39 of 103
I love the BE stuff. Nitara sits in her highchair for tube feeds and I try to drag the chair around with me and read books to her, etc. But sometimes she gets restless and if there's a choice between watching Mommy clean the bathroom and watching Baby Mozart, well you can guess which one she wants.

Darshani
post #40 of 103
Our family really enjoys TV and we set no limits on it. I think it's a great thing, just like books and music.
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