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post #81 of 103

TV or not TV? That is the question...

I think as long as what your children watch on the box is decent and age appropriate - there is not a whole lot to worry about.

I know all these anti tv mamma's would scream at me and point out all the studies that shows tv is bad bad bad! But they are always gonna be out there and I'd like to see how well they do banning the box from teenage kids who will just watch it at a friends house, anyway. I'd also love to see these anti - tv mamma's entertain a bedridden child for an extended period of time w/o it.

It's the same hysteria thru out the ages; Rock Bands lead to youth suicide, TV is a bad influence, Children should not eat sweets but c'mon! Give us a break!!! We will use our discretion and correct these problems as they arise - if infact they do arise at all!!! What do these anti - TV mamma's say when their child starts to use the internet at school or watches an 'educational' video in the classroom? Not all TV is bad for us or our kids and in moderation with adult supervision of programs allowed - it helps them to learn the basics and challenges them to ask questions about the world around them.

We dont tie our kids to the couch - they are free to play outside as well for crying out loud. I think parents that are too controlling are a bigger problem in society than tv junkies are anyhow. They will eventually become engaged in a power struggle with their kids that ruins a relationship between parent and child quicker than a few episodes of "Blues Clues". TV is here to stay - so kids may as well learn healthy TV habits now than later!

By the way, it is great when you are pregnant and require "bedrest" while you have a 2 year old to rekon with!! Sure gives me the slow down I must have to avoid another miscarriage - and it keeps my 2 year old boy happy too. Bed rest is impossible but using the tv to distract some of the never ending demands is the next best thing. We also read alot of stories together.

Do what you feel is right ... b/c it probably is!!
post #82 of 103
"My mom thinks it's why I learned to read when I was 3; there was nothing else to do."

FWIW, I beleive my son has learned all his letters, shapes, and numbers from watching Sesame Street so many times!!!

I strictly limit what shows my kids are allowed to watch. Any "new show" I will watch with them the first time, and then make a decision about whether or not I want them seeing it again. (OK, so maybe sometimes it's the 5th time they see a show before I watch it with them....I'm not perfect!!!) This is a much bigger issue with my older kids than with preschoolers- the only thing I limit with preschoolers is commercial television, since most (but not all) preschool shows are IMO appropriate for preschoolers.

My children also have blocks and dolls and trucks and all sorts of toys- TV is certainly not the only thing they do! But there does come a point when my energy is gone and the TV is the "electronic babysitter" because I really DO need a break!

I don't feel guilty about having a TV or letting my children watch it.
post #83 of 103

shrillness

Seriously wish we could discuss stuff without turing it into a defenisve pro-con game. What are our concerns worries involving TV and no TV and little TV? How have we navigated this issue? Answering/discussing this would make for an interesting and useful thread.

But instead we have yet another defensive pro-con thread . . .
post #84 of 103
For us, TV is not the anti-christ. On the other hand, I really do not want TV to become the backdrop to my childrens' lives. In our house we do not just have the tv on as background-ever. That said, DS does watch TV. Every morning for about 2 hours he watches Pooh, Caillou, and two others, if he's interested. Sometimes, he turns the TV off himself. Sometimes he has a hard time when I say TV time is over. Some days, like if he's sick, he watches more, some days nothing at all. It never interferes with our day, and if he starts getting grumpy about when I say something is over, I STILL turn it off. I refuse to let TV become a power struggle.

He's seen Blue's Clues 1-2x before. Today, out of nowhere, he asks, "Mom, can we watch Blue's Clues?". I made us mini bags of popcorn and we watched. We had fun. No biggie.

Don't you guys ever have a day when YOU want to lay on the couch, snuggle under a blanket, and watch a little TV? Well, somedays are like that for my DS. And I'm okay with that.
post #85 of 103
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Originally Posted by starlite
I know all these anti tv mamma's would scream at me and point out all the studies that shows tv is bad bad bad! But they are always gonna be out there and I'd like to see how well they do banning the box from teenage kids who will just watch it at a friends house, anyway. I'd also love to see these anti - tv mamma's entertain a bedridden child for an extended period of time w/o it.

Nobody's screaming. Really. Nobody is even saying that tv is "bad, bad, bad!" All I have been saying is that my child isn't able to self regulate, and that I want to be aware of what advertising and marketing is coming at her. Period. She's too young to be able to analyze a show, commercial, whatever.

I suspect we will reconnect the satellite when they are older. We didn't climb up onto the roof and rip it down.

I also have mentioned several times that we have watched the occasional movie/video.

Oh, and as far as entertaining a sick child, btdt. So, if you'd really like to see it, come on over.

Ugh! That's it, I'm out.


Bec
post #86 of 103
Back to Harry Potter....

I really love the HP books.

There is a whole generation of kids growing up watching these movies who are too young to read the books! I know many kids who are 5 and 6 who have seen the movies.

My 13 neighbor (one of the few teenagers I know) doesn't read books because she "doesn't have time". She likes the Harry Potter movies, but hasn't read ANY of the books!
post #87 of 103
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Originally Posted by mamawanabe
Seriously wish we could discuss stuff without turing it into a defenisve pro-con game. What are our concerns worries involving TV and no TV and little TV? How have we navigated this issue? Answering/discussing this would make for an interesting and useful thread.

But instead we have yet another defensive pro-con thread . . .
I agree. I hope I don't come off as defensive and angry when I post about TV, because I am really not. I am fond of the saying "whatever works is whatever works". What my family believes about free access to TV is what works for us. I enjoy it when we can present what our family is doing, why we are doing it, and what the results are in a back and forth way that is free of the defensive attitude.
post #88 of 103
I have not read all the replies, but I wanted to chime in my two cents.

My 2yo DD watches "Sesame Street" every morning. She is in love with Elmo, and I honestly think she has learned a lot from the show. That is all she watches, and I'd like to keep it that way for as long as possible. It gives me an hour each morning when I can clean the kitchen a little or read a book, etc.

Greaseball, the only thing I question is you letting your child watch Jurassic Park. Yea, it has dinosaurs, but it is not a kids' movie.
post #89 of 103

Well...

Well, I did not find it necessary for a child under two to watch Tv. We had better things to do and explore. I don't think my kids even watched a whole movie with me until they were five. Of course, some of the playdate mothers used the tv quite a bit. You know, a box of goldfish and movie keeps everybody quiet for two hours. Jeesh!
post #90 of 103
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Originally Posted by Corvus
Yea, it has dinosaurs, but it is not a kids' movie.
When I was growing up my parents never distinguished bewteen kid and adult culture. We didn't have "kid music," instead our parents gave us records of music they listened to that we like (me -Joan Baez, my brother -rolling stones).

When it came to TV and movies, we watched whatever they watched (I remember being facinated with I Claudius on masterpeice theater at 7).

I guess I am pretty conflicted about this. Part of me thinks kid culture is just an adult invention (for the fantasy of childhood adult's create) and part of me wants to move my kid out to the woods so he/she can live a childhood free of media.

I guess I'm thinking now that kids will be my excuse to not be lazy and waste my own time with bad TV. I don't want to spend my night watching bad sitcoms, and so having kids will help steele me against such lazy waste. But I don't think, depending on my kid's sensitivities, that I will shelter my kid from adult culture. I knew about sex and war for as long I could remember, and I liked being able to grapple with "real" issues and questions at age 6 or 7 (I remember lying in bed at 7 planning how I would argue against the death penalty when I went on Crossfire - which was then on PBS.)
post #91 of 103
nevermind!
post #92 of 103
Rainbowmama, am I allowed to post in this thread or not? No kids yet. Hedging towards no TV, but I'm still considering my philosophy/practice.
post #93 of 103
You know, it really irritates me that this thread title clearly states :

DOES ANYONE ELSE NOT MIND IF THEIR YOUNG CHILD WATCHES TV ?


And yet we have now got a whole pro/con arguement going on. I respect the fact that there are people who choose not to own or use a television. Because that is your right as an adult and your choice for your family.

I would NEVER go to a thread devoted to those who chose NOT to watch tv and begin telling them about how much we liked tv so they should start watching it..yet I see that in reverse here.


Please give those of us who allow our children to watch tv some credit for thinking this through. I know about the research, I know about the books, I KNOW about all the thoguhts and theories and discussions regarding it.


However, it is MY choice in MY family home that we have a tv, and that it is ok with me for my kids to watch it. Why is that so hard for people to resepct?


So why is it that greaseball cannot open this thread fr htose of us who Do allow our kids to see tv with out those who do not coming and turning it into a debate of sorts?


Perhaps I take it too personally, but after a bit it all sounds very arrogant to me. You choose not to, good for you. I am glad it works for you. I allow certain things into my house. Please respect that. Thats really all those of us who aloow tv in our homes ask from those of you who do not..Please resepct that it is our informed family choice. Let it be at that. If you want to go and create a new thread about the risks of watching tv, or why you choose not to have own or allow your kids not to watch it..then go right ahead. Actually, I think you know that THOSE threads are in the majority here. I would htink that alone would please you?

I just wish that those of us who do allow TV could have ONE thread that was just left be with all the arguments about how awful it is and how we are damaging our kids and we will be raising these ADHD kids who will have no creativity or imagination or ability to freely think things through because we allowed them to watch Sesame street when they were 3 years old.

Please just let us have ONE thread with out this? Please?
post #94 of 103

Arguments against TV

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Originally Posted by michelemiller
It just bothers me that so many of the arguments against TV are pseudo-scientific, yet pretend to be hard science. As a social scientist myself, I am very bothered by irresponsible "statistics" and catchy phrases that misrepresent the realities of the studies, populations, limitations, etc. "TV Causes ADHD!" "TV Made My Child A Murderer!" sheesh.

Edited to add: i mean arguments in the media, not arguments on here.
Hey Michelle,

My husband is a social scientist too (professor of sociology). I'm an academic as well, I study art history and media. I'm actually researching the effects of TV watching right now. You are so right about the pseudo-science and how so much is mis-represented in the media.

Mary Beth
post #95 of 103

Harry Potter Books vs. Movie

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Originally Posted by Linda KS
Back to Harry Potter....

I really love the HP books.

There is a whole generation of kids growing up watching these movies who are too young to read the books! I know many kids who are 5 and 6 who have seen the movies.
Hi Linda,

I actually read the books to my kids at that age Maybe they didn't get all of it but they loved hearing it.

The audio versions are supposed to be excellent. That's another way to expose kids who can't or won't read.

Books vs. Movies is another subject though. I refuse to watch the new "Vanity Fair" because I have read the book (I'm rereading it now) and I've heard from reviewers that the director changed a lot of things. I may watch it someday but I know it'll drive me nuts and I'll be silently fuming "That's not what happened!" LOL
post #96 of 103
mamawanabe- sorry if I came across rude it was not intended for anyone in particular, that is why I erased my post!

anyway I was just trying to say this isn't a debate thread but I realized I came off snarky.
post #97 of 103
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Originally Posted by rainbowmoon
mamawanabe- sorry if I came across rude it was not intended for anyone in particular, that is why I erased my post!

anyway I was just trying to say this isn't a debate thread but I realized I came off snarky.
S'ok , I'm just being fussy. I actually may need to take a MDC break cause I seem to be getting too frustrated in threads. I go through periods when I love this place and when I am super annoyed by this place. Its a cycle and prob has little to do with posters and more to do with my own ambivalence about the stange (degraded/glorified) place of "mothering" and "mother" in our culture as well as my own unholy focus/planning on the kind of "mother" I want to be.
post #98 of 103
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Originally Posted by MaryBethMoore
Hey Michelle,

My husband is a social scientist too (professor of sociology). I'm an academic as well, I study art history and media. I'm actually researching the effects of TV watching right now. You are so right about the pseudo-science and how so much is mis-represented in the media.

Mary Beth
I would be so interested in hearing what you have found so far (as an "on-the-fence" person myself).
post #99 of 103
I let my children watch TV. I do limit the time and teh shows. They don't see any"prime timeTV" at all.
post #100 of 103
One of my son's fave movies when he was 8 ish was Jurassic Park. It never bothered him. I asked him if the scenes of the dinos in attack mode were scary, and he said not at all. He knew they were robotic or computer special fx (totally up his alley at the time) and that it was all make believe. Worked for me
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