Well, that's a relief...that I DO belong here!
I could probably mentally 'flush' most of her 'stuff', but the hardest part of doing that is my husband, who (God love him!) firmly believes in hitting problems head-on and pulling no punches. He tries to get me to confront her, to be strong with her, to tell her 'no more junk-mail, or I'm sending back unopened!' *sigh* I love him to pieces, but he just doesn't understand that, having been accepted for decades, this behavior is not going to change. Not even with such harsh measures. Within months, the junk mail (and other behaviors) will simply slide back into place, as if the confrontation never happened, and we're back at Square One.
She will not admit there is a problem with herself under any circumstances, so counseling is out of the questions, unless we commit her as a family. My Dad has gone so far as to really confront her about her behavior, and, when cornered and forced to face it, she practically regresses, pulls a 180 and becomes a martyr: "You're right, I'm a terrible person, I'll never set foot in that house again, I'll never call them again, I'm just not wooorrrrrrthyyyy...." You get the idea. *sigh* Impossible.
I guess I need to know if any of her behavior sounds like it fits a certain category that I can go research (ie. bi-polar, schizophrenic, paranoid, delusional, regressive, all of the above???) and get a better handle on.
Thoughts? Ideas, from your own experiences?