I just realized that while I've read this thread, I've never responded!
I was 29 when dd was born and I'll be 30 when our little potato arrives (I'm like 2 weeks shy of turning 31 by then). Dh will also be 30. We're about 5 months apart.
I'm the only mama of my small group of close knit friends. I haven't be fortunate enough to make any IRL mama friends (my part time work schedule has me working on those days when I could be going to LLL or Mom's Club
I think the push for career first, babies after is a very valid point. Most women I work with who are looking to advance place their careers first. So what tends to happen, I've noticed, is they have babies at 35+ (or forgo children and adopt pets to be their "babies.") Right now, one of my best friends is on her third attempt at fetching a husband. She feels she has to find that "perfect man" who is career driven, ambitious, and family oriented (especially now that she's over 30
) because I think she'll want to become a SAHM if they ever have children (she's never said, but that's the impression I get).
As for the mid-life babies of generations past, my grandmother had my uncle (her last child) at 44. Talk about being fertile! :LOL