Why I love Being a Single Mother - Page 9

[Glover_Girls]

Originally Posted by Wolfcat

I get to Feng Shui my home, and put the changing table in the corner of the dining room while leaving more space in the bed room and turning the second bed room into an office/play area. Maybe the crib should go in the living room for naps...

I don't have to watch someone elses shows. The TV is mine, and sometimes that means off!

I don't have to worry about someone else remembering to get stuff done. I remember or it doesn't get done. And if it's important to me, I remember.

to all that above!!!!

[Glover_Girls]

And in fact, our second bedroom is my office and dd's playroom. She just moved into her own bed which is next to mine. My sister jokes that we are dorm roomies!

[goldgypsymama]

I am a newB to mdc and I am delighted that I came across this thread!
I too being a single mother. It comes with its own benefits.
I love the possitive vibes this thread is shedding!
Thanks!

[kathirynne]

Exactly!!!

I was reading Peggy's latest essay, and I came accross the following words: "my children know that I will take care of things, know that I will be there, that I will stand by them no matter what." (Raise your hand if you are crying after reading that!)

That's why I love being a single mother. Despite all the difficulties, the "it's so unfair" moments, the times when I don't get everything done, the times when we have to make do or do without, my children still have that fundamental truth. And I'm not sure they would have that if I wasn't flying solo.

[mamatoady]

how could i not reply...ohhh, I needed this!

I love that I don't shave my legs or my pits anymore--i happen to like my hair!

i can wear the same clothes 3 or more days in a row and nobody looks at me funny or wishes I dressed up a bit

i feel more connected with my babe's because I do everything for them--i don't share night-time, park time, or diaper time

I LOVE LOVE LOVE having the whole king size bed for me and my littles! everyone is happy and safe!
Sarah

[SoulJourney]

I love knowing that, every day, I make educated decisions based upon what I feel is in the best interest of my son. There is nobody to tell me to do things differently, *EVERY DAY*, just b/c he was "told" that's how it should be done!

[Lucy VanPelt]

Okay, haven't read this entire thread, but I have to add:

I really appreciate that we are toilet paper-free and I don't have to worry about that bothering anyone. When company comes over, I put out some paper, then put it away, again, when they leave. It is sooooo wonderful to just be able to keep my home the way I want to keep it! My kids usually love the ideas I have for our home.

[m1992]

I can get rid of so much of the clutter! He's gone and his stuff can go too.

[Jilian]

Originally Posted by m1992

I can get rid of so much of the clutter! He's gone and his stuff can go too.

I think that was my favorite part of being a single mom. I got to do everything MY way. I got to decorate the house how I wanted to, I got to pick out DS's clothes, and what we'd eat for dinner, and what we'd do for the day. It was such a great feeling of independence. Now I have a DP and I'm not so single anymore but I still feel a lot more independent and free

[RainMath]

I can just make my own choices (even if for certain things, I ask he dad's advice)
I am free
I can give all the energy to only one person
many things that have already been said

[forthebest]

It's great not being undermined all the time about the stupidest stuff. I don't feel nearly so used and stereotyped. We don't have to conform to someone else's 'norm'. I can do what I like without being narked,sleep,eat,work etc. My kids know I am there for them anytime. Don't feel I have to hold tummy in unless I want to etc etc.Good thread people, I actually enjoy being a sp these days.

[fluffernutter]

Most importantly, I love being single because I don't have to put up with emotional abuse every day. That has had a HUGE impact on my mental health.

I'm not short tempered with DD.
My brain doesn't feel foggy all time.
My memory is better.
I have energy.
I'm HAPPY!

Plus,
I get to do what I want, when I want.
I get to hang w/ my family more often (and don't have endure endless calls from stbx asking when I'll be home).
I get to go out with my friends.
I get to HAVE friends!

Soon after I left stbx DD and I went to a birthday party and my friend's DH said, "Now we get to hang out with you more! We couldn't stand that a******."

[lauraheartslittle1]

This thread just gives me the warm fuzzies.

[chefpaige1]

You should take the shirt he left on the floor at your house and clean the toilet with it. Then return it to him. Ha ha ha ha ha.

[chefpaige1]

I haven't seen this one mentioned, but I've realized how much I love to never walk into a STINKY bathroom now that he's gone!!

[mama40]

I love the non-stinky/hairy bathroom part, but this:

I got to do everything MY way. I got to decorate the house how I wanted to, I got to pick out DS's clothes, and what we'd eat for dinner, and what we'd do for the day.

kinda made me sad. I did all that anyway, not recognizing early on that stbx's total "I don't know, what do you want to do" had to do with profound anxiety/depression. Spent years trying to get him to be involved with these decisions, speak up about what he wanted, figure out what he wanted, contribute to the decisionmaking, etc. Frustrating for all involved, and ineffectual.

It'll be nice to have the bookshelf space back, though....

[maybelle]

Originally Posted by peacefulmommy

I love knowing that, every day, I make educated decisions based upon what I feel is in the best interest of my son. There is nobody to tell me to do things differently, *EVERY DAY*, just b/c he was "told" that's how it should be done!

: My ex is "told" how things should be done by his mother. :

So, I love that I am no longer raising a 46 year old damaged little boy.

And, I love that I can now wear patchoulli !

[graciemoma]

Single Moma and Loving it!

Man do I wish I had found this thread when I was going through a very tough pregnancy on my own...Wondering the whole time what I was in for with single motherhood! Just a few things here that I love about being a single mother!

1) I get to hear all the comments on how cute she is, and how she looks JUST LIKE ME!!
2) I can dress her in pink seven days a week without anyone complaining
3) I get to take the credit for how advanced she is on her milestones
4) I can make sure that she is fed a healthy well-balanced diet
5) I don't have anyone else telling me they don't want her sleeping in my bed
6) At the end of the day when I've been aching for her...SHE'S ALL MINE!

[Proud_Mommy20]

I think all of yous have wonderful ones! Good laughs, and so truthfull, for me it's
1. No more yelling in the house and worrying that my daughter has to see it.
2. No more having to explain why I'm too tierd.
3. My daughter and I sleep together and they're's no more nagging
4. No more picking up after another person
And there's so much more... almost everything everyone else said

[Bad Mama Jama]

1. I love snuggling with my dd in our bed and will continue to as long as we decide, not until her father kicks her out of the bed as he had said.

2. I love being able to make choices for her that I know are based in love and not opposition.

3. I like not having to fight over basic choices like daycare and my frugality when buying her clothes. Her father seemed to think that unless it was a brand name from Macy's or Lord & Taylor, she couldn't possibly wear it -- though, magically, he never bought anything like that for her.

4. I know that one loving parent is better than two who hate one another.

5. We can go wherever we please and be gone all day and not have to answer to anyone.

6. We don't have to watch TV if we don't want to. (This was a big fight with the ex...)

7. I love being with her because we can entertain each other.

8. Drumroll please.... Because we were always alone even when her father was here.