I've been a single mom since the start, 16 years, and can't imagine it any other way.
I love to see my son becoming a man who respects women
I get to say who's in my house
Although it was difficult to make some decisions, once I made them, I never had to defend them or have them ridiculed.
I don't have to be with a man from "need" or fear - I know I can do it on my own - the man in my life is there because he makes it better, not because I can't make it by myself. It's really awful to see all the responses about how much happier women are without men making fun of them or making difficult rules - I'm a single mom who now has a partner who's loving and supportive and helpful and supports who I am and how I raise my kid. Sometimes SINGLE isn't so much the goal as "not with someone horrible". Single is WAY better than a bad marriage.
My son once told me that although he was sometimes sad he didn't have a dad, he was really happy he didn't have a mean, horrible dad (this was when he was about 7). And that about sums it up for me, and allowed a lot of the guilt to wash away. I've raised my son in a family where honesty, respect and caring are the central tenets of his home - so what if it was a family of two? I'm seeing the results in a wonderful, open, funny, sweet 16 year old boy. Not that it hasn't been bumpy, with hard, scary, lonely and broke times - but who doesn't have that stuff? A good friend is way better than a bad husband for a shoulder to cry on - AND they like to go shopping
Thumbs up to all who make the courageous decision to care for themselves and their kids first, and ENJOY - it's great.