someone said this a few posts back:
*i love how nobody makes me feel guilty about spending time with my children. loved this one!
*just doing what i feel like doing about me, my son, my house, everything!!!
i write this just as i`m moving out of my partner`s apartment, back to my mom`s and dreaming of my own place for my son and i!
I also love 'nobody makes me feel guilty about spending time with my children', so simple yet so articulate and true. Someone else also simply said ' we can be happy' that has been so true for us too. Also someone said 'I like coming home',so true and I still years down the line enjoy coming home to a happy home,every.last.time. A home with the potential to be happy is a great thing to work with. When that potential is never there we are left with pain and sadness. Incredible that we should end up feeling prisoners in our own homes and relationships, not a good place to be.
Someone else said, 'I don't have to be responsable for his moods'. I'm shocked at how many women have gone through such similar stuff to myself within partnerships.
This thread is really empowering and helps put things in a different, more positive perspective.
I've been on my own for many years now and I love the steady calm and emotional growth in my life this allows. Not that all men are selfish tyrants, I know some excellent Dads/hubbies/partners who really are there for their families and are obviously mature and happy within themselves but someplace down the line many,many men are unable to break out of the domineering role they play, such a sad thing as many families have to go through a nightmare to change course. This issue rarely comes up when the media discusses the 'breakdown of the nuclear family' or single moms, as in so many areas the 'blame' gets neatly placed on the womans shoulders, somewhere down the line SHE has gone wrong/failed and indeed forcing, by law, that women stay within abusive relationships was/is seen as justifiable in keeping marriages/family together. Now we can leave and survive maybe even thrive with some support, but people really don't like women being on their own especially with children cos they are still living the lie of man as provider, somehow it threatens them to face facts. Just like here in UK as I suspected substance/alcohol abuse can play a huge part in the inability to be a decent parent/partner. Good luck all.