Yay! Glad this thread is alive again! It's what helped me during the TWO YEARS it took to finally make the decision.
So here I am...the dust has settled, now it's just the legal stuff (will be pretty straight forward for us).
What I love:
*After bedtime is MY time!
*When my little guy climbs in (ok, I don't always love this at 2AM, but mostly!)
*Decorating with only my tastes to worry about! (PINK curtains in my room and I love them!!!)
*Having scrambled eggs and tomato soup for supper if we want! Or pancakes or whatever...meat and potatoes not required.
*Exploring more and more healthy foods (I've put on a lot of stress-eating-weight over the past decade and now it's time to relearn everything)
*Mama-only time when DS is having a "man weekend" -- this is more free time than I've had in years!!!!
*Having the guts to try something new...since after bed-time is my time, I've got time to take some classes and eventually go back to grad-school full time!
*Discovering true friends who maybe weren't such close friends before but were happy to lend support, or let me crash a date night to get me out of the house.
I've discovered that my work level when I'm "doing it all alone" is actually a little less than before. One less person to take care of. And since he's around here and wants to be involved, I actually get a couple weekends a month -- give or take -- to myself! And even on off-weekends, we can be flexible. Yesterday, when DS really wanted to see his dad, we made arrangements to meet up for breakfast and he went to play over at Dad's for a couple of hours.
This is such a different place to be in than a year ago! I am grateful for a resource like MDC for giving me a sounding board and having tons of BTDT posts to read!!