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post #61 of 481
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Originally Posted by cresorchid
If that isn't the truth! I always have to choke myself to keep from telling people to dump their husbands. It kills me to listen to all these women complaining because they "can't do this or that" because hubby objects. And yet, you can't make other women wake up to reality. When they are ready, they will know it.

For the record, I wouldn't take a man if he begged me to. I like myself, my life, my son and my child-to-be far too much to throw it away on a man.

Exactly. Can you even imagine being told that you can't do something?!! I don't have enough time in the day to deal with some guy. Even the best guys take a lot of time and energy and I feel complete without one. In fact, I like myself better without one.
post #62 of 481
Can I just say how great it is to be able to file dead skin off my feet whenever and wherever I want? One thing that really bothered me about cohabitation is how annoyed men are about being "subjected" to our beauty rituals... yet they want us to look/feel/smell good all the damn time. : : :
post #63 of 481
This is by far the best thread that I have seen the reasons that I love being a single parent.

1.) I know that he will grow up to respect women
2.) Like someone else said I can parent the way I want to!
2.) I can take all the credit when someone says "ohhh what a happy baby he is!"
3.) When someone says to me "ohhh I wish I could do that, But my husband wont let me." It always makes me smile and chuckle a little because I know I can do whatever I want and no one can say I can't :LOL
4.) I know that my son will always be in a happy, loveing home.
5.) I know that he will truely grow up to be who he wants to be (no one saying boys don't cry or boys don't do that)
those are some reasons I love being a single mom but there are so many more!!!!
Karen and baby Joe
post #64 of 481
i love belonging to my kids and myself.
i love being able to change.
i love .
post #65 of 481
Tonight I bought a new set of sheets for my bed, beautiful deep pink with lavender blossoms scattered on them - and after I washed and dried them with my new lavender and vanilla fabric softener, I put them on the bed and rolled around on them - and it hit me...... I'm more feminine and feel more like a woman now that I'm single than I ever did as part of a couple.
post #66 of 481
i love being a single mommy!

i love rolling over in the morning and seeing his sweet little face next to me

i love being the one to decide how long we go shopping and how much money we spend

i love cuddling up at night with a book and both of us falling asleep together

i love deciding about no vaccines and not having to fight about it

i love taking him to work with me

i love that he cries when he can't see me and someone else is holding him ( how mean of me!)

i love being a mommy!
post #67 of 481
I LOVE this thread! I re-read it every now and then, and even if I don't chime in, y'all remind me to appreciate the wonderful life my Dumplings and I have. Today my 8YO Dumpling wrote a poem their Dad would never have appreciated:

There are icicles on the bicycles, and frost is on the grass.
If I went for a walk on the ice, I'd slip and fall on my ........


hands and knees.
post #68 of 481

So much healthier

Hi! This is my first post.

My son and I are both so much healthier than we were when we were with his father. Mind you, we left when AB was only 5 months old.

We live with my parents, so in fact AB has 3 parents, but I'm still the main parent.

I feel like I would just be repeating what you have said already, but here's my list:

- Not having to take care of two "boys"
- Not being cheated on or being dumped on for having post-baby body
- Raising my son with good values and positive male role models (my dad and other men in our family)
- Not having to ship my son elsewhere for visitation (his dad is not involved at all)
- Putting my son in things like swimming lessons (this spring)
- Having the support of my friends and family, who love my little guy so much!!
post #69 of 481
Thread Starter 
eamama, I am glad this thread provoked you to post

Very cool, and such a wonderful list. Thanks for adding some wonderful perspective.
post #70 of 481
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by mamarhu

There are icicles on the bicycles, and frost is on the grass.
If I went for a walk on the ice, I'd slip and fall on my ........


hands and knees.

mamarhu, that is gorgeous! Tell your dumpling I love it It made my day!
post #71 of 481
My 4 year old stayed up until 12:30 tonight... and nobody knows about it but you guys! Sshhhhh!
post #72 of 481
Thank all of you single mamas for helping me see the bright side.

I'm in the strategizing phase of the process of leaving my drunken H. Some days I feel strong about leaving, then there are these days where the fear looms up and sticks in my throat. Deep down, I know we'll be so much better off but taking the leap is the hardest part.

You mamas are an inspiration to me.
post #73 of 481
Thread Starter 
Autumschild--if you need to talk pm me. This is the hardest part
post #74 of 481
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by LongLiveLife
My 4 year old stayed up until 12:30 tonight... and nobody knows about it but you guys! Sshhhhh!

LongLiveLife, my son NEVER goes to sleep until at least 12:30
post #75 of 481
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post #76 of 481
Thread Starter 
Freedom, what a perk eh?
post #77 of 481
I know I am not a single mama anymore, but I want to share what I loved about it.

I loved being dependent on ME and only me for everything.

I loved having peace and tranquility, when before there was none.

I loved regaining my self-esteem and finding out who I am after being mistreated for so long.

I loved giving my kids a happy home, the kind they always deserved, but sadly had too little of.

I loved finding out how truly strong I was inside, and learning that I am lovable, I am worthy of being loved, and learning to love me all over again.

I loved having the responsibilty of the bills, and now that I have the house and bills in my own name, and have a savings account and good credit once again.

I loved succeeding when my ex was sure I would fall flat on my ass.

I love that I know I do not "need" anyone to survive and give my kids a wonderful life, I can do it alone, but I love that I have been blessed with Jeff, and I am with him not out of need, but out of love alone,
post #78 of 481
Thread Starter 
post #79 of 481
[QUOTE=eamama]Hi! This is my first post.

My son and I are both so much healthier than we were when we were with his father. Mind you, we left when AB was only 5 months old.

We live with my parents, so in fact AB has 3 parents, but I'm still the main parent.

QUOTE]

I think there are distinct advantages to being single and living with your folks. That's my situation as well. Though there are times I feel suffocated (7 of us in a 3 bedroom house - my bro and his 2 also!!!), I think it's such a good deal for everyone. My daughter and her grandparents really get to know and enjoy eachother, and they are good for eachother. Plus I have built in babysitting that I trust when I need it.

Anyway, I love this thread and I love being a single mommy for all the reason already listed!
post #80 of 481
I love this thread!
Ditto to all the responses - I just read all of them.
One of my personal favs is allowing my dd to wear whatever she wants and not having to hear that it doesn't match or whatever.
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