Here is my story...
I can look at all sides nowadays...
But 20 years ago, I was a very naive new mama. Yes, I read as much as I could, did the CB classes, did unmedicated birth, did breastfeeding, etc. But I was still REALLY GREEN.
My baby was born at the end of November, and we had received gifts from people related to my husband's work. We were young and struggling. (The good 'ol days, you know...
) So when there was this holiday get-together, and we were invited and so was the baby, we went. And although the baby was in a quiet bedroom in the house where the party was, everyone kept going in to see him. And yes, touch, hug and kiss him...
Sooooooooo, at only 3 weeks old, this poor child had a bad COLD!!!
He had to sleep upright, usually on me, sometimes in the kangarockaroo, because he was all stuffed up.
So it should be no surprise to you, that when we had a second child 4 years later, NOBODY WAS ALLOWED NEAR HIM. And do you know what? This child did not catch his first cold until he was almost 2 years old. The main way I avoided people touching, etc. was to keep him cover with something. In a stoller, I draped the netting or a sheer blankie. In the carrier, I kept him close and covered most of his head with a soft flannel blankie or dipe. And then I pretty much did the same with baby 3, born 6 years ago and he was over 2 before he had a cold, and he has only had 3 colds.
Still, there were times when someone wanted to see the baby, sometimes it was an adult, sometimes it was a child. I would smile my sweetest smile and move away.
Realize that I am one of the world's most affectionate people, I am a hugger. My kids are all huggers. And oh, yeah, they tried to hug babies when they were 3,4, 5 years old. My last one would always try to "pet" babies on the head. Now he doesn't go near them, and acts "shy". New phase.
I am also a believer in old-fashioned handwashing.
So I have seen it from both sides.
You asked "what would you do?" We are all different people, unique individuals, not cookie cut-outs, so we all react differently. If it happened to me, I would have just smiled, said nothing, and go scrub the baby.
You did what you thought was right at the time.