SAHMs, do you want your daughter(s) to SAHM? - Page 2

[onlyzombiecat]

I hope that if my dd has a child I would be supportive of whatever she feels she needs to do to take care of her family. I hope that either her or her partner will work things out so one of them is caring for their child- being a SAHP or just arranging their work schedules that way.
I'm sure we are raising dd to know money isn't everything and that the time we have together is very important.

[dharmamama]

Yes, I hope that my daughter stays home with her children when she has them. I have no qualms about her being "dependent on a man." I stay home and my husband earns the income but I don't see myself as dependent on him any more than he is dependent on me to have a clean home, laundered clothes, and groceries. He could do those things himself if it were necessary, and I could get a job if it were necessary. The whole idea of the at-home parent being "dependent" on the working parent strikes me as a scenario in which the parents are adversaries or pitted against one another rather than a partnership, working together in what they have determined to be the best interests of their family.

I wholeheartedly hope that my daughter stays home with her kids and isn't made to feel like it's a lesser choice than working.

Namaste!

[mamaduck]

Well, I don't have a daughter.....

But my son talks a lot about finding a career that will allow him to be a SAHP at the same time. In fact, anytime the conversation of "what do you want to be" comes up, he talks about raising his children and having an office in his home, and how he would like to negotiate these things with his wife. It really pleases me that comprehends the conflict that a parent can feel between work and family, and that he is already looking for creative answers. And it pleases me that he values the SAH role.

I agree with poster who hopes that the future brings more balance and flexibility between parents and roles -- so that its no longer a one-or-the-other kind of choice.

[AahRee]

I want my DD to have the option available to her if she wants to SAH. I don't want to tell her what she should or shouldn't do about something that important, but I want her to know that it is a good, important, noble option. It's not the only option, but I want her to know that it is an option that is equally valuable and important as working outside the home is considered to be by the rest of the world.

Selfishly, I think I'd like my DD to SAH because it would be sort of an affirmation of my choice to SAH with her. But above all, I want her to do what she believes is the right, best thing for her and for her family.

[carolsly]

My mom became a SAHM when my parents adopted me. They were very broke for a long time..and then suprise! She wasn't using BC because she never could get pg. Oops. Here comes Johnna. My sister if 5yrs younger that I, but my parents were not planning on her. My mom went back to work when my sister was about 9mos. She was one of the original crunchy mamas. She CD and nursed my sister (pumped and bottle fed for the babysitter..she used to express..bless her heart..I never could figure out how to do that..). We were no worse for the wear. Our babysitter was a nice lady who lived across the street from my school. My mom worked for a few years then we moved to California where she substitute taught but was home most of the time. Eventually when my sister and I were both in school she became a full time kinderagarten teacher. She is retireing this year.

When I had Marion I said I wasn't going to be a SAHM, but when we moved to AK I decided that it was meant to be! The only "work" I have done is work part time ish is work at my friends day care when she wanted to take a day off or when she had a Dr. appt., etc.

I am working on my BA right now and have timed it so I can go to work PT when youngest dd goes to Kindergarten, but...we are thinking of having one more kiddo when I graduate, so maybe I won't go back to work..or maybe I can do some consulting work. Maybe I'll need to homeschool then,and then..I won't be able to work either.

I would like my daughters to get their education, then get married, and have children. Oh, and go on a mission if they are called. They may still want to back and get their masters, but at least they have a good foundation..in case dh gets fired, gets hurt etc. Always good to have a back up. My dh has back problems..and I have to admit...if he got hurt and got medically retired right now, I would have a hard time bringing in the same amount of $$ he is bringing in now.

Dependant on a partner, no it's a partnership. I always tell dh..hey, if it gets bad, I can go to work on the weekends or in the evenings when you are home! I have an AAS in Computer Applications, spent 4.5 years in the Coast Guard and have worked in Accounting..I would probably work as a stock person at Wal Mart or something..HA. We're going to be comfortable...one of these days, until then..I love peanut butter, and I am very creative with beans.

I think it is our responsiblities as mamas and daddies to instill a love of education, and an appreciation for life and family (SAHP, HS if you want to etc.). If we show both our young women and men this, then we are building a society instead of tearing it down. After all of that..my girls can decide for themselves..but I've shown them that with a little sacrifice the reward is great. I had my very independant 6 yo tell me "momma, I want you to walk me into class today, not just drop me off at the front door." :LOL

[darsmama]

I don't want Darlene to be a SAHM any more then I want her to be a doctor/dentist/President.

I DO want her to do what makes her happy and is good for her family when she has one.

I hope that she sees the many benefits to being a SAHM and that our culture values SAHM MUCH more when she's that age.

Besides that though, she can be a dentist and HE can stay at home if thats what makes her happy