I am new to this site, but wanted to add my two cents in since this is a topic very near and dear to my heart. I am currently 23 weeks pregnant with my 4th child. I lost my 3rd child, Jordan Edward, 2 years ago to severe pre-eclampsia and HELLP syndrome. He weighed 13 oz. at birth. He was born during my 26th week of pregnancy via emergency c-section. He fought valiantly for 9 days in the NICU before he died. When I was pregnant with my first child, Sarah, who is now 13, I had the same thing. I had her via emergency c-section too when she was 35 weeks along. She was fine at birth, albeit a bit on the small side weighing in at 4lbs 14 oz. When I was pregnant with my second kid, I didn't experience any signs of pre-eclampsia at all.
I am terrified of going through that again, but have a wonderful, caring OB who has put me on a regimen of heparin shots, baby asprin and mega doses of calcium to avoid another micro-preemie. She is confident that I can make it till my 32nd week (early May). I am aiming for week 36, myself! Since I am coming into the same time in the pregnancy where things started going downhill with Jordan, I am getting pretty anxiety-ridden. My bp is really low though, which is great. I go in to see my OB every week until the end of the pregnancy. They check my bp, protein in my urine, and the baby's heartbeat every time. I am also taking cranberry concentrate so I don't get any UTI's or bladder infections. I had both with Sarah and Jordan and I believe that it started my health cycling downward.
My symptoms both times included an excruciating pain in my abdomen that wouldn't go away, I also couldn't keep any food down. The nausea and vomiting were horrible. With Sarah, I had the symptoms for a week. I called my dr. and was told that I had the flu and to rest. I had also stopped going to the bathroom for several days since my kidneys had already shut down and my liver was shutting down. I hadn't noticed it at the time, I was just too sick. When I finally got in to see the dr. and they took my bp, they had me rush to the hospital. With Sarah, my bp was 130/110. With Jordan, it got in the 155/130 range.
Medical experts have no idea how to prevent HELLP/pre-eclampsia. Unfortunately it is a human-only problem so they can't replicate it in any other species of animal. So us pregnant women who get it are the guinea pigs. It's scary to know that even if I do everything so perfectly, I might still be dealing with a micro-preemie in a couple weeks.
Gossamer, I am so sorry for your loss.