Annette; we are done @ three! Actually we we pretty done at two, but of course we couldn't imagine life with out Dylan. My boys are two years apart (21 mos), and the baby is 3 years 4 mos after Preston. I have to say that everyone that said "oh it gets easier with three, the BIG adjustment is having two." for us, it was a lie!!
I honestly don't remember it being this hard when I had Preston. We lived close with family, and for awhile with my grandmother, so I'm not sure if that had anything to do with it or not. I guess some of it did play a part, b/c she could get Spencer things he needed when I couldn't. But anyway, not to discourage you, but (for us) it is hard. Maybe if the boys were in preschool or went to mothers day out 1 day a week, and I had more friends and family around it wouldn't be so hard, and of course moving to another state @ 7 mos preggo probably didn't help. Dh is also working 7 days a week, so it is double hard.
On Christmas, dh and I were soo tired. Cooking, cleaning, baby, putting together toys, putting together toys, putting together toys
, I was like man this is just hard! But I have to remember that this baby is 7 weeks old, and they do grow up so quick. I'm really glad we had a third, b/c I know it does get easier. And since Matt and I don't have great families, or close relationships with our siblings (all half-siblings), we want the big, happy family we didn't have.
Good luck what ever you decide
On the topic, for those with three, do you notice your middle child getting left out often? The past few days Spencer has wanted me to play his new games with him, and I always have the baby. Preston also goes to bed before Spencer, so Spencer gets more time with us too. I think I really need to start paying attention to this...