love2all> so, how did it go?? I was thinking of you last night when we went through a slight incidence with my highly disfunctional parents and myself where i was really torn between thinking maybe I shouldnt have even invited them and great love for them at the same time. My sit. is slightly different tho as my parents dont drink and ironically part of the situation involved my Dads extreme agitation in going over to my brothers home where the mom-in-law and boyfreind of my brothers sister-in-law were drunk at diner. My dad could not stand that and said next time he will find out if they will be there first. so, when the showed up at our house ways early, after having called in the morning and saying they were coming later than the afternoon, I freaked a bit. I had gone to let the dog in and saw my mom in the driveway, I turned around without saying "Hi!!" and began trying to cover up my naked daughter who was waiting for a bath and kept getting increasingly upset over not being ready since they changed plans on me in the first place and now just SHOWED UP.
--- when my son then went to greet them at the door-AND THEY WERE GONE!!! AGGGHHH!! -Im thinking how immature and unable to deal with situations they are!
... so eventually i got diner underway and was able to call my dad and talk to them and sort it out. I apologized for not being very welcoming but i dont think i got an apology or an acknowledgement on their part for not calling me and telling me they were comingearlier now. Whatever.
They came over , we had dinner and presents and they played with the kids.
It really was nice. That's one thing they do have with me is an openness over the crap we have between us. My dad said on the phone "lets just pretend this didnt happen" -and I said " no, we won't pretend Anything. We 're family and it's Christmas and we can just get on with it despite our crap."
I thought in the middle of it how i could write it all down, my emotions and thoughts, since it would make good material for the therapist, having it fresh where i could actually learn from it.
It brought so much up. christmas past and present and that which resides in the expectation department of the brain.
Anyway, I hope you all got that. kinda crazy for a short while it was, but it was okay in the end. I wanted it to be a certain way, peaceful and lacking the old famiiar chaos. but , it wasnt -oh well- maybe i know nothing about a peaceful christmas and maybe because they very rarely exist in this world.
Hope you all had happy christmases