What do I need to do? LOng....

[~MommyAmanda]

To get this baby out! 11 days till my due date and STILL PREGNANT! I woke up at 3 am with contractions and ended up on the commode violently ill for awhile. I am not sure if it was viral or something related to labor. Lets hope labor. I moved into the spare room and was eventually able to go back to sleep. I am starting to wonder about having this baby naturally. My midwife has expressed a concern that since I was induced 2 times with pitocin that my body make have a hard time kicking into active labor. Waiting for the pitocin.......I guess.

Becuase of the gestational diabetes I am scared to go over 40 weeks. I am not concerned about his size...yet. But the GD does carry extra risks of placental deterioration, shoulder distocia ( tend to have broader shoulders), and stillbirth. I am not sure if Beth considers any of these valid concerns becuase there is such a broad range of opinion on GD. After two previous pregnancies of worrying about these things it is hard for me to just believe it never was an issue.

3 weeks of pre & false labor are wearing me out. Walkng, sex, nipple stimulation, epo, even cohosh are not doing anything. Just to clear the air I am not starting the contractions only using these things to try and make them progress.

I am cranky with my kids and husband....like from the pits of H*LL grouchy. I think I am having a mental block here. I'll be contracting away and then it is like a surge of adrenaline will send my mind spinning and thinking of all the things that I should do to make this a perfect experience. ANd bam I have lost four hours of sleep and now am wide awake with no baby anywhere near.

As much as I am excited about meeting our son and want to be in labor I can't seem to embrace it.

Of course the thought of having to undergo a pitocin induction again is killing me.

I was thinking that maybe going out to a quiet dinner with my husband, hot bath, making love, trying the cohosh with the this ight help me go. Leaving the girls with my inlaws for the night. Some candlelight and plenty of room to stretch out in bed might help.....My cervix is 100% effaced and the baby is at +1.

Thanks for letting me vent and any practical advice except that "most baby's are born late" are most welcome.

[Lula's Mom]

Awwww,
I understand your frustration. I'm not going to tell you most babies are born late- they're born when they NEED to be, and besides, you're not even late yet!

I must say, I think it was irresponsible of your midwife to plant the idea in your head that your body "doesn't know how to go into labor by itself". That's not true! Every pregnancy is separate. Your previous inductions do not have an effect on this upcoming labor.

You have got to relax and let go of your fears, or your primitive brain will keep your body from having this child until it's "safe". It doesn't know the difference between a real threat like a sabertooth tiger, and your anxieties- they produce the same result. I think your idea about relaxing with a bath, time with your husband, a good night's sleep, etc, is a good one. Because you're so stressed and it sounds like you need it! But you have to realize it may not work because the baby's not quite ready yet. Promise you won't freak out even more if it doesn't start your labor!

I don't have GD, so I don't know all of the concerns about going overdue, but I do know you're not there yet. I would think broad shoulders have more to do with bone structure than weight, though, right? So he'll probably either have them or not, regardless of what he weighs at birth. If he does get stuck, your midwife should know ways to help him out (hands and knees! lunges!).

Again, !

ETA: Don't say all the things you've done haven't worked at all! You're 100% effaced, woman! Your body already IS working just as it's designed to.

[~MommyAmanda]

Thanks! I understand where you are coming from on the midwife thing_ I think her intention was to prevent my frustrtaion with a lot of stopping and starting. Unfortunatley that being in the back of my mind has made things worse.

I am cramping quite a bit now so ....who knows.

I need to get the girls ready for their grandparents and we are going to have a quiet dinner at Chiles! Spicy chicken & shrimp for me!

[mamamoo]

Ohh....hope the contractions get longer and stronger and bring you a babe tonight!! Thinking of you. Debi

[laurata]

(((Amanda))) I can relate. I've been having a tough time coming to grips with the fact that I am "Still pregnant" as well. (Due 12/10) Took 5W for a few weeks, have been doing EPO orally and vaginally, and "enjoying" liberal amounts of Motherwort. I've never been induced, so I know that my body WILL go into labor on its own. Yours will too. Lots of women have lots of prodomal and pre laboring. Have you tried a cal/mag supplement? I hear that can be helpful in relaxing smooth muscles, and may make you more comfortable.

I was really worried about having a big big big baby this time. I was just sure that this babe would come early, like, Thanksgiving weekend. Nope. I am PRAYING that this baby decides to come by next Monday, because if s/he doesn't I think I might just have a nervous breakdown.

[mamamoo]

Laura...I am due the same day as you and thought for sure that this babe would be born the Friday after Thanksgiving. :LOL I am wondering how big she'll be...Sam was 8#4oz at two weeks early, and I am so worried that she won't be able to wear any of teh nb dipes and clothes I have for her.

Hang in there Amanda...your body *can* do this on it's own!!!

[cinnamonamon]

s to you, woman...no practical advice except to try to work through the fears & worries you are having. A little T, but it's kinda funny how many of us thought we would already have our new little ones, when most of us haven't even hit our dates yet (I'm due 12/10 & thought baby would be over the weekend).

[mamamoo]

I know! My mom was laughing at/with me...I said the same this with dd1 and she was 4 days "late". :LOL

[~MommyAmanda]

Well we enjoyed our evening but I am still pregnant. Jason was really sweet about the whole thing. After dinner I decided to pop on the computer for amomnet. When I got to the bedroom he has drawn a hot bath for me and filed the bed and bath with candles and Dove Promises.

I soaked for awhile and took the opportunity to pray over every aspect of my body, commanding it to do its job. I feel a lot more in control and less stressed.

I actually enjoyed sex for the first time in six months and was asleep within 30 mintes. I didn't wake up unitl 5 to pee!

I am going to work on eating well for the next coulpe of days wether I am hungry or not and focus on something else......not sure what yet!

[mamamoo]

Wow, sounds like you had a wonderful night! And what I wouldn't do for my hubby to realize that is just what *I* needed. Hang in there, before you know it you will be holding your baby!!!

[rainy32]

I am so glad you had such a relaxing and fulfilling night!!