Weekly Thread 12/7 - whenever - Page 3

[schatz]

Originally Posted by wende

schatz, your job sounds amazing! When I worked my s.o. was the SAHP and I loved it. It's hard to explain to others sometimes, of course they always viewed him as a slacker who refused to work, but it worked out well for our family at the time and I'm glad to see that it works out well for others too.

I'll send sticky baby vibes your way. Hopefully the bean will stay put for a good full term pregnancy. The NICU experience is so hard!

Thanks, wende. Yes, I'm lucky to have the job I do. It has been hard to travel and leave my dd at home but everything else about it is great (and the perks before we had dd were great) so I can deal with the travel now. Dh doe have his moments when he wonders if he is just a big loser (in his mind) because he changes diapers all day. Of course, he and I both know it's a much bigger job than that so any doubts quickly go away.

Last night, dd was all stuffed up and not sleeping well. Very snuffly and coughing some. Dh and I both felt bad for her and tried to make her as comfortable as possible as she tossed and turned trying to sleep. Shortly after coming to bed, dh said "I feel bad because I made you cut off the boob (wean) and now dd's sick. You were right [that bfing helped her immune system be strong and kept her from getting sick]" I said "say that again please" He said "you were right -- is there any way you can put dd back on the boob now? I don't like her being sick" :LOL

Of course, the closer dd got to 2 years old, the more dh became wigged out by her nursing. He had been subtly and not so subtly lobbying for me to wean since last summer. But, I held firm and didn't wean until we were both ready (me and dd) this fall. I kept telling dh that part of why dd hardly ever gets sick (one very mild cold as an infant and a bout with rotavirus) is because she bfs. I think she probably would have gotten this current cold regardless of whether I was still nursing her but I loved being validated.

I'm enjoying learning about everyone too! Now that we're mostly over morning (or all day) sickness, hopefully we'll have more fun stuff to talk about. Glad to see there are a couple of 30+ mamas out there like me.

~Hope

[gingerlane]

Hi Jenn! I'm in San Diego, where in CA are you from originally? I hear you on the difficulties of being preg and not having family nearby. It would be really hard for me if I didn't have all the support and help that we do from my family.

I'm off for my first MW appointment today (yeah, a little late, but what the heck!) and she doesn't use the doppler or anything except at the birth, so I don't think I'll get to hear the heartbeat. I'm OK with that, as long as the MW hears and tells me all is good. Dd is asleep out in the car and we're enjoying some really beautiful weather. Dh (a carpenter) is finally getting to do an install of the doors he custom made for a client today and that will be a huge load of his shoulders emotionally as well as financially (yeah for a paycheck!).

Oh, as for interviewing while preggo and not telling your potential employer: I think it's smart to let them know when they offer the job. Legally, they cannot turn you down for the job based on your pregnancy, but it's a good idea to be upfront when they offer the job. Not that they can legally retract their offer at that point, but at least you're in the clear. If you'd like to feel better about it, you can always be sensitive to the size of the company as well. No worries if it's a big corporation, but it'll be had on them if it's a small operation that will take a serious financial hit when you're gone. HTH!

I have to run! Wish me great MW vibes!

[slightly crunchy]

Hi, I'm Kim, another "older mom" (on this board, at least!) at 33. This is my second pregnancy; my little boy is 32 months and will have turned three before this baby is born. He is still nursing, 1-2 times a day, but only for a minute at a time anymore. All his choice. I think it will be one of those things where I'll just realize one day that he has not nursed in a couple of days. I thought I would be sad as I was willing to go much longer, but since it is getting more painful I feel a bit relieved. Ds is just the sweetest little boy ever! He is very talkative, and funny, affectionate and curious. We are having a ball together getting ready for Christmas the past couple of weeks.

I am married for 4 years, together with DH for 7+ years. He is my rock and I am still very much in love with him. I am a SAHM, and have been since ds was born. I know I will stay home for the first year of this baby's life, but after that I am considering looking for part-time work. I'm not even sure what I want to do, I just feel a little antsy at home lately. Like I need to use my mind more, in some way. I was all set to do LLL leadership, but then at the end that didn't seem like the right avenue for me to go.

Ds was born via csection after a long labor, long time pushing. He weighed over 10 pounds and everyone seems to think he was just too big to come out. I have always thought that is a load of you know what. I am planning a VBAC for this baby, with a midwife in the hospital. I am also practicing hypnobirthing this time. It has already been helpful with the painful nursing. We have decided to have an ultrasound just to look at the placenta, due to the prior csection, but are waiting until after 24 weeks to avoid a false previa diagnosis.

What else? Um, we cloth diapered with ds and plan to do elimination communication with cd for this baby. I am a previous vegetarian and probably will be again after I am done bearing children. I play the piano, read voraciously, am learning how to garden, and am a yoga-lover, though I don't make as much time for it since having children. I really did used to have more hobbies than that, LOL! Time just slips away now.

I am enjoying this thread very much.

[CluckyInAZ]

My name is Deborah and I just turned 23. My husband is also 23. This will be our first baby human baby, 18weeks 4 days gestation. We have two cats who are siblings and they are definitely our babies I was going to school to be a materials science engineer, but I wasn't really enjoying it and due to a death in my family I became really far behind and eventually dropped out. DH works for his family's little business, automotive repair, he is an office manager. We met in kindergarden, but didn't date until after high school. We have been together 3 years and will have been married for 1 on Valentines Day.

We are planning a birth center delivery with our midwife. No one in either of our families have done anything like that before, but they seem pretty supportive so far. We have declined using dop tones and most tests so far, so we haven't heard the heartbeat or seen the baby or anything like that. But I think I has started feeling the baby move so we are pretty excited about that! Hopefully our midwife will be able to use the fetoscope to hear the heartbeat next appointment. She really doesn't seem sure of her skills with it though. She says she is so use to the doptone now that she can barely hear anything with the fetoscope anymore. Well here's hoping anyway :

My cousin is also pregnant. She started trying 3 months before we conceived and now it is finally official, she is 7 weeks now. I was really worried that she wouldn't conceive for a while and would hate me forever. Things were a little tense between us for a while there. Now we get along better than we have ever done before. It will be pretty fun having two kids in the family so close together. I am hoping to influence my cousin will all sorts of AP things , all of her friends are mainstream. I know she isn't going to co-sleep, but at least she is planning to breastfeed, I don't think any of her friends breastfeed. I have been trying to get her to buy The Pregnancy Book and Birthing From Within, but we will see. I will probably get her The Baby Book as a shower gift.

I plan to use a cloth diapering service, but I haven't been able to find one in our area yet. We are in an apartment and the laundromat fees for washing diapers would cost us more than just having clean diapers delivered, and it would be a lot less hassle just to use the service. I have started crocheting wool wraps to use, and hope to make it into a WAHM business soon to bring in some income.

[loveandlight33]

Hi, my name is Sommer and this is my first post here. I am 26, and so is DH. We just got married in September of this year, and found out shortly after the wedding about our little one on the way. We are very excited and looking forward to all the new experiences life is sure to be bringing us.

I never finished college, but am about 3/4 of the way through my finance degree. I just recently decided that I would like to go back to school to be a nurse, and possibly look into being a CNM or CPM. That leaves much school left to be accomplished, but I know it is what I am supposed to be doing. Better to figure it out later than never is how I see it. I currently wait tables at a restaurant, and don't exactly enjoy my job, but it pays the bills.

Before becomming pregnant, I had always wanted to have a home birth. After finding out about being pregnant, I was a little skeptical at first, but did plenty of research and met with area midwives who would be delivering at home. DH and I decided it was the best route for us, and we are very happy with our decision. We are seeing an ob/gyn in addition to our midwive, in case of the possibility of transfer. We live less than 3 minutes from 2 hospitals, so we feel very safe with a home delivery. DH's parents, however, are another story. They are supportive of our decision, but are certainly concerned for the health of their grandchild. I don't look forward to the years of having to justify my decisions as to what we feel is best for the health of our children, but they are wonderful people so easily forgiven. My parents are very supportive of our home birth decision, as I almost died from an infection passed to me in the hospital, and my mother got a staph infection when she gave birth to my sister in the hospital. She is also supportive of my question as to whether vaccination is the right route for us, so it is nice to have one parent on our side.

I look forward to meeting and chatting with everyone on the board, as I have read several posts and this seems like the type of group I am need of.

[iamama]

Hi its nice to meet everyone! I'm 30 and my husband Justin is 30 too. We have a dd Ella who turned 3 on October. He is a self employed carpenter and I am an upholsterer. I used to have a shop but closed it when Ella came along and now I just work on the side and teach classes at the local University. I also have a college degree and my major was art. I miss being a creative arty person but someday I will be again. We live in Ashland, Oregon and are forever remolding our house. Rather dh is forever remolding I just plant flowers and grow stuff! But we're proud of what we've done and hope to really be done by the time #2 pops out. And am trilled its going to be my favorite time of year spring!!

I am having a home birth this time around after being scared off by hospitals by birth #1. Long, induced and full of intervention. Both babies have been unplanned by us but we are totally happy to of not had to plan pregnancy! I am almost 18 weeks and think I feel the babe move quite a bit but I also have had pregnancy gas so its hard to tell sometimes what the flutter is. I like to think it is the baby. Which I think is going to be a boy. This is most likely going to be our last child so I am really wanting to absorb the whole experience. Which kinda sucks bc I have been so stressed lately that I forget to be happy that I am pregnant. That I have a growing belly and I am starting to need to waddle when I walk. I think my hormones are out of control and somedays I'm just not happy or nice. Today was a really good day and dd and I had a good time...she was in a really good mood from sleeping over 13 hours due to coming down with a 102 temp, but I'll take what I get. She was back to a normal temp this morning.

The town I live in is super liberal and a nice place to raise a family. Unless you love the W... I think even dd knows the difference between a vegan and a vegatarian...lol. Its a very common thing aroung here. I was a vegatarian for 12 years or more and have gone back to meat which is weird but we have a great source for humanely raised meat so I feel like its okay now and I still love to eat lots of veggie meals!

I really love my midwife and think about my homebirth everyday. With dd my epi didn't even work so I know that I can handle a lot and that I become very centered and focused when I need to really get to business i.e pushing!

I hope to get into the wide world of cd and look forward to glaoting about my fluffy mail. I was ever so impressed that all this existed. My mom talked me out of spending lots of money on cloth with dd. WHY DID I LISTEN TO HER? Oh well I may of never found MDC.

I have a dog and a cat. I drive a Saturn. My hair is brown my eyes blue. I can't believe its almost 11. Good night!

[Debstmomy]

Gingerlane, will you be attending the LLL So CA/Nev conference this year? Would love to meet MDC mama's IRL.

[Eaglevoice]

Hey Gingerlane,

I'm a little late with wish you good luck with the mw... but how did it go? I'm from Lake Forest, originally. My fam is still all down there. I'm so excited to see them in a month!! Well, I got a job at a huge corporation,which is so different than what Im used to... I didn't tell them about me being preggo. My first day was yesterday. I'm just barely starting to show, so I'm planning on mentioning it by the end of the week. I know they can't fire me because of it, but I'm still nervous. Good luck with the rest of your pg!!

Jenn

[gingerlane]

Originally Posted by Debstmomy

Gingerlane, will you be attending the LLL So CA/Nev conference this year? Would love to meet MDC mama's IRL.

When/where is it this year? I'm currently working full time and who knows what I'll be able to do after May!

Eaglevoice: thanks for asking about the mw! I actually did have her use the dopler to have a listen to the heart. There was this little part of me that was worried I wasn't really preg... like I'd been inventing it somehow or the test was wrong. SO, I just had her give me a quick listen. It was awesome. Until the birth we'll just use the fetalscope from now on.

Anyway, it was a great visit. She's really wonderful and gets along great with my dd. I'm looking forward to future visits.

[Debstmomy]

Here is a link to our conference website.
www.lalecheleaguescnv.org
Check it out. We would love to have all of you MDC mama there!

[gingerlane]

Debstmomy: I'm due that weekend, so I'm pretty sure I won't make it! :LOL

Have a great time!

[Debstmomy]

Gingerlane, that is close to my EDD too. I am on conference comittee so I have to go. We keep joking that I will just deliver in the presidentail suite that our board gets & have Dr. Sears do the newborn exam! (Just a joke!) But I may take my midwife down there with me, or if labor starts I will just drive back home. It would be an hour drive & I usually have long labors.
Take Care, and if you have had the baby come. If not, come we can deliver together, LOL!