DD is a sensitive, high strung child and not too assertive around other kids she doesn't know. We have had several instances where she has been bullied by other children and she has just sat there and taken it. For instance, once at a playgroup a little girl got dd in the closet, piled a bunch of playclothes on her, and was holding her down. DD was just lying there crying when we found her. This is just an example of instances that dh and I have seen. DD gets very upset when she is bullied and I have had to sever ties with 2 playgroups because of it.
It has gotten to the point where DH and I have told dd to fight back. We told her not to hit people first, but if they hit her that she can shove them back. I showed her how, too. I don't know if she has used her new skill yet or not, but I have seen her "practicing" when she is playing by herself and is acting out bully situations (which she does to help work out the anxiety, I think).
I don't want to raise a bully but I don't want a doormat, either. I am wondering if anyone else has taught their kids to fight back.
It has gotten to the point where DH and I have told dd to fight back. We told her not to hit people first, but if they hit her that she can shove them back. I showed her how, too. I don't know if she has used her new skill yet or not, but I have seen her "practicing" when she is playing by herself and is acting out bully situations (which she does to help work out the anxiety, I think).
I don't want to raise a bully but I don't want a doormat, either. I am wondering if anyone else has taught their kids to fight back.
