post #81 of 103
12/16/04 at 9:33pm
Originally Posted by newlife
I doubt after, nursing for a year that a mother won't be able to pump her breasts.
|And in my opinion a baby becomes a toddler at 2 years old, a toddler becomes a child at 4 years old, a child becomes a teenager at 13 years old, and a teenager beomes an adult at about 20 or 21 years old. These are my guidelines. I base them mostly on age, but if you are talking about maturity well that of course depends on the child.|
|What brings on wisdom. Not age, not motherhood, but knowledge. Now where this knowledge comes from is a whole different story. So not all wisdom is true wisdom, so I never take anything that anyone ahs to say at face value, whether they be mothers, grandmothers, great grandmothers, or even scientists.|
|I am glad you and your brother are healthy and happy. But the problem is number one you and your brother were living in a different world when you were 3 years old, not today. And that is where I believe this whole issue lies.|
Originally Posted by newlife
First it is unlikely that I will change my mind because I stand firm in my choice, but when I actually do breastfeed I may see, the point of some to still want that closeness with their child.
I am not ignorant to the fact that ignorant of the fact that extended breast milk NOT BREASTFEEDING is natural, beneficial, and desirable. Not at all. But you as many others, are being ignorant to the fact the extended breastfeeding may be detrimental to a child's psychological health.
There is nothing wrong with a toddler having BREASTMILK, but again in MY OPINION there is something wrong with a toddler ebing BREASTFEED. And I do think that it is inappropriate for a child to be BREASTFEED. No maybe there aren't many people nursing 10 years olds, but from what everyone is saying here nothing would be wrong with it. It is nutritional and continues the bond doesn't it?
Truth be told I don't care that people may find something wrong with my opinion. Since I am the person finding something wrong with what theyare doing, I would assume that they would look at me a little bit funny. I could give various examples of this,but it is off topic so I'll leave it alone.
I think breastfeeding will become a problem when a child gets to an age where he or she can recollect, or even ask to be breastfeed.
I have no facts to base any of this on, and I never said I did. I have stated from the start that is is my opinion. I have seen the webpage that you got the references from, and true those are there but the page mostly talks about breastmilk, which is not the issue here.
Originally Posted by aira
I don't have time to read every word in this thread, but I wanted to add my 2 cents to the pot...
Strangely, my pregnancy ideas about nursing were that I'd read every quality resourse on the planet, plan for any contingency, and of course, have no problems because I had prepared so well. I'd BF until DS decided to stop and he'd be perfect b/c of my milk and nurturing. Ahhh, the luxury of thinking you know stuff before you've been there!
Like stafl, My DS had latching problems after we were in a car accident in the 35 week of pg. His head was engaged and he sustained a jaw injury. I can't begin to describe what hell it is to see your newborn starving and not know why. So I pumped and cried all the time. It took 12 weeks to find a ped chiro who eventually healed his injuries, thank God. But even with the best LCs in the world, he absolutely REFUSED to have anything to do with BF. He has consistently screamed anytime I remotely suggest latching. My milk supply has dropped steadily since 6 mo. mostly b/c of my chronic pain from my injuries and I'm sure from PPD.
My point: I have truely and profoundly *grieved* that I couldn't nurse my son. Do not underestimate how powerful it is. I admit it's really hard for me when I read about people taking that bond so lightly, or sexualizing it, or whatever. But I do remember well the pregnancy fantasies of how things will be, and I hope that you never have BF go so painfully wrong that your biggest wish is for for nothing more than to nurse your child.
Good luck to you and baby!