Originally Posted by Pom
oops. I didn't mean multiples. I just meant anyone who already has a child.
Binah - does your DH have people to talk to / help with the stress? Do you?
I didn't think you actually meant multiples, as in twins, etc. I thought you meant more than one other child (e.g. two kids and pregnant with the third and so forth).
To answer the second question, no, I don't think we really have anyone to talk to about what we're going through. We just moved to Australia one month before I got pregnant. It was a planned pregnancy, but I don't think my dh would have purposely planned it to start during such a stressful time for us (I had a m/c in July and we had been ttc again as soon as we could after the m/c). I don't know anyone here. We spent the first month here moving in, etc., and since then I haven't been feeling so hot so I've just been staying in and not meeting anyone. Dh used to live here, so he knows some people, but I don't think he's really close with any of them. My dh's grandmother and mother live here. MIL has decided that she doesn't like me (long story), so I never see them either. Dh has a job, but it is only part-time, so we are stressed about money. Dh is trying so hard to find a job, and he wants to be able to focus on that, but feels he cannot because I need to be taken care of.
If I'm irritable/feeling sick, we fight about the stupidest things. This morning, for example, dh woke me up and told me to get ready to go to the Medicare office (Medicare is the national universal health coverage plan in Australia. It isn't based on income, like Medicare in the US; everyone gets it.). I got up, got ready, and tried to find something to eat. Nothing in the house looked good, so I decided just to ride to the Medicare office. We were planning to go grocery shopping afterwards, so I figured I would just eat something from the store. We didn't have all the right paperwork we needed so we ended up having to come home to get the papers. I hadn't eaten so the car ride home made me feel really sick. I told dh I couldn't go back out, so he went back to the Medicare place alone. Before he left, he said, "Bye," but I did not respond, since I was trying to cook myself something while gagging/dry heaving at all the nasty smells in our dirty kitchen. So he said, "BYE!", and I screamed, "BYE!!!" back at him. How stupid is that? I just didn't feel good, and I couldn't take one more thing, so I acted badly.
Sad, isn't it?
I've lost a little more weight (I am down 14 pounds), so I'm not feeling very well right now. I guess I will be going to see someone now that I have Medicare. Dh will probably make me feel guilty about the money I spend at the grocery trying to find foods that appeal to me. I have to eat, don't I?