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post #381 of 454
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Originally Posted by mattjule
Food is an interesting thing. I think if you follow your child's lead, everything will be fine. Tain didn't really eat solids until around 12 months and he loves variety and ecclectic foods. He isn't a big eater, but he never has been. Ro, OTOH, is a food whore. He'll beg anything off anyone, and even though he regularly gags and chokes on things like crackers, that doesn't seem to deter him from eating them. I warmed up the carrots tonight and he ate half a jar! What a pig! He has never been that much of a nurser. Tain was a champion nurser. I feel like having such opposite children helps me see that I didn't do anything wrong with Tain, he really wasn't interested and that I am not doing anything wrong with Ro now b/c he is.
I could have written something very similar, except that BeanBean loved to eat but not very much at a time, and he had to when I lost my milk. BooBah doesn't eat a huge amount, either, but she wants to eat all the time. She loves putting the spoon in her mouth. :LOL I know she eats more than BeanBean did, and she's much more interested in food as a source of nutrition than he ever was (he used to taste things, roll them around on his tounge and spit them out. ) probably owing to the fact that she actually digests her food. I'm still fairly confident that she will wean before he does.

The last movie I saw was "Team America: World Police." Mike gave me $20 to get out of the house, and he stayed with BeanBean. I wore BooBah in the sling. She nursed twice and slept the rest of the time. It was cute, but it was kind of like a two hour long episode of South Park (big surprise, huh?). I could tell that it wouldn't be in theaters much longer, and lo and behold it was gone the following week. :LOL I liked, it, though; but I am irreverant and strange like that. :LOL

I don't feel pregnant today, but I still don't have my period... I got a BFN at 10dpo with BooBah, so today would be the absolute earliest I could test. I think I'll give it another week, though, because like I said I don't feel pregnant right now.. just slightly concerned. I wish I knew for sure, though. My discharge is ambiguous, to say the least.

Babyproofing-- we keep cleaners and stuff above the kitchen sink, and we keep our (three) glass cooking items in the higher kitchen cabinets, so BeanBean can climb in and out of the lower cabinets and play with anything he finds in there. That's pretty much it for us. We don't really have much that's dangerous or breakable, so we just ask him to avoid those things. For the most part, he does. Oh, we do have outlet covers and a fridge lock, too.

If I could do it (if I didn't live in an apartment) I'd drill another hole in the front door and put a deadbolt up high where BeanBean can't reach it. I hate the fact that he can open the front door with no effort at all! A doorknob cover won't work because the doorknob is old-fashioned and so big that the cover just makes it easier to open.
post #382 of 454
Thread Starter 
These incredibly insane pospartum doula clients I had-long, long story- had every babyproofing gadget you can imagine...I couldn't get the toilet open to pee! And they carried a handgun everywhere (even shopping, even their csections) and were severely germaphobic and didn't want their 2yo touching his penis. There was much, much more but I think of them now whenever babyproofing comes up, and I have yet to find an item in the safetyfirst section at home depot these folks didn't have.
post #383 of 454
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Originally Posted by LizD
And they carried a handgun everywhere (even shopping, even their csections) and were severely germaphobic and didn't want their 2yo touching his penis...I think of them now whenever babyproofing comes up, and I have yet to find an item in the safetyfirst section at home depot these folks didn't have.
: I like to mess with people like this. My FIL is similar, but he doesn't quite know enough about germs and the mechanics of illness and transmission to be paranoid about the right things, so he just uses those Clorox wipes on everything he can think of and freaks out if you mention sharing a towel, even with your own 2-year-old son. He even suggested that we use Clorox wipes on BeanBean's behind once when we ran out of baby wipes down there. :

Anyway, I'd totally have wanted to mess with their heads, telling them things like "Did you know that you're much more likely to kill a family member with that gun than an intruder?" and "Do you realize that every time you get into your car, you're putting yourself and your family at a greater risk than xyz?"

Of course, I can be mean sometimes. :
post #384 of 454
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Oh, I was mean. I played on their snobbery. "I don't know much about them, but everyone in Park Slope has maclaren strollers these days-" they about knocked the salesman over to get to the most expensive maclaren they had- $300 for an umbrella stroller!

Gun stats wouldn't've helped; they were waaaay too deep for that. The other thing was they were so germaphobic but their house was the filthiest I have yet seen.
post #385 of 454
Poor kid(s). This is a great story though...
post #386 of 454
Wow Liz, those people sound a bit freaky!

Just wanted to pop in and say "hi". My dh left this morning for an 11 day work trip to California. He's so lucky. He flew into San Fran this morning. He's hanging out with a friend until Saturday. Saturday night he's going to a Supercross race. (That is work for him. He's managing editor of a couple of motorcycle racing mags.) Sunday, he and a couple other people are picking up some motorcycles and starting a trip to LA down the Pacific Coast Highway. They are taking about 5 days, so no long days of riding or anything. Then he goes to another race in Anaheim next Saturday, then home on Monday. It's going to be a long 11 days. Bedtime is not going to be fun or easy!
post #387 of 454
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Originally Posted by LizD
Re: having opposite children, I am so grateful my first was "easy." It makes dealing with a higher needs baby much easier. I know it's nothing I'm "doing," as Julie said, and I can be more adaptable to his needs than many first-time parents of high need babies seem able to be. In some ways it's hard- it would sure be nice if he slept as well as she did, took a bottle no problem, etc. But on the whole I find I am so much more patient with him than I was with her, and he seems to be the one who needs that more.
I'd never thought of it that way before! Roland was a high need baby & I've always said I'm glad I had him first, because I could cater to his every whim. My grandma had her high need baby second & was always saying to me if she'd had her second first, she'd have been an only child! I guess theres benefits to having them in either order.

LLL was nice today.... very relaxed & fun.
post #388 of 454
I think as long as both of your kids aren't high need, you're okay. The "easier" child is usually willing to wait, whether it is the younger or the older.

Babyproofing-Tain was/is very destructive so we sort of babyproofed. Once he learned how to open DVD's we had to put them away or he would take them out of the cases and try his hardest to bend them in half or scratch them. He would tear pages out of books, I am still scared to leave him with a book, he's so unpredictable. He knows what he can't touch (like my iron and scissors) but that doesn't mean he always leaves them alone. He can take the outlet covers off. AND our outlets in the dining room are table height (lord knows why). I caught him yesterday trying to stick his fork in it. At least he only eats with plastic. He's a big experience learner so he doesn't believe our warnings, no matter how they are worded. He's a scary kid to have around. Our tools are under lock and key. Our cleaning supplies are on top of our fridge. Luckily our oven is old and gets pretty hot on the outside when it's on so he knows not to "cook" anything in it. He has burned himself on a friend's modern oven. Our bathroom cupboard has a child lock on it but our kitchen cabinets are metal and we rent so we keep our canned goods and tuperware in the bottom ones and anything breakable/dangerous up high. He's the type of kid that would put oatmeal in the VCR so that stuff is up high too. I am running out of high places-a big reason our apt looks so cluttered.

I am wondering if Tain isn't getting poor vision. He sits really close to the TV. Usually on the computer chair (which is right next to it) Since I am in it right now, he is standing really close to it instead of sitting on the pillow 5 ft away from it. I have bad vision, got glasses in second grade, Matt's is fine but his dad's is horrible. Tain has really light colored eyes. I wonder how long I have to wait to test him?

HBH-I can't believe they cancelled his appt! Glad you had a great time at LLL. I miss that.

Carrying a gun everywhere! With a small child! I can't believe some ppl feel protected like that. I would feel paranoid and scared, what if my child got a hold of it? If it is in a purse or something, all you have to do is have a curious toddler (which toddler isn't?) and a few seconds of inattention. *Shudder*

Rynna-OMG! Clorox wipes on a baby bum?! That's a little frightening. Germaphobes make me kind of sad. I have a friend whose mom was like that and she is like that too. As a child, she would play in the dirt at the edge, with only her fingertips. Meanwhile, I am in the middle stripped down to my skivvies eating it. I think I had a lot more fun. My immune system is a lot stronger than ppl who grew up with paranoid parents. I am a big advocate of childhood illness (not that I want my kids sick all the time, but it is better than chronic sickness as an adult). Maybe I am just overconfident in my breastmilk. Plus all I have to do is swim in a chlorinated pool for half an hour and I am sick, I can't imagine what it does to you to be exposed to that much bleach/toxic cleaners every day of your life.

We went to Whole Foods today and ate lunch. We gave Ro a teething biscuit (we can't eat a meal now unless he eats too) and he just about had an ecstatic fit! I thought he was going to try to inhale the thing! He is taking to foods well, sleeps the same, is less fussy. Doesn't seem to have any allergies. I am going to try to give him cereal in the morning and foods of various sorts at dinner. I told dh today I will be shocked if he hasn't self weaned before his 2nd birthday. I'd like to see him make it, but he just doesn't get much out of it besides nutrition and he'd rather eat than nurse. I guess I have to honor that, as foreign as it is for me.

Oh, this morning I shortened the pocket. I couldn't help myself. It wasn't as hard as I thought and the result is better looking (and shorter) than it was originally so I am glad I did it.
post #389 of 454
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Originally Posted by mattjule
I am wondering if Tain isn't getting poor vision. He sits really close to the TV. Usually on the computer chair (which is right next to it) Since I am in it right now, he is standing really close to it instead of sitting on the pillow 5 ft away from it. I have bad vision, got glasses in second grade, Matt's is fine but his dad's is horrible. Tain has really light colored eyes. I wonder how long I have to wait to test him?
Julie- Lily will be getting her eyes checked just after her first birthday due to Lauren's eye condition. Maddie was tested at 2 1/2. Our eye doctor said that they can actually test newborns if necessary. FInd a good pediatric eye doctor. Ask around. The one we go to is the same one our family doctor takes his son to and who several of our friends whose kids have glasses take their kids to. Oddly enough Lauren's eye doctor also deals w/ the elderly. Anyway if you are concerned have him checked out.
post #390 of 454
I wonder if I could get glasses on him at this age...
We'd have to pay out of pocket for everything so I'm hesitant to do it if he wont wear them/break them. That is probably why my parents waited until I was older...
It was weird the way he was standing so close. I don't know. I'm not that concerned.
post #391 of 454
Julie, is he doing anything else that makes you wonder? Because standing/sitting too close to the tv is kind of universal kid behavior imo. DD does it. And I remember when I was a kid being told over and over and over to move away from the tv b/c I'd "ruin my eyes". I do wear corrective lenses now but I really didn't need them until college and my vision was fine as a little kid.

I have recently started to worry about the fact that Flora is showing no signs of mobility. She fusses everytime I put her on the floor whether she's on her tummy or her back. The only way she's happy not being held is in her excersaucer or her high chair and less and less so, her bouncy seat. She's okay with sitting right beside me on the floor and is becoming more and more stable with sitting and has actual started to correct herself with her hands when she's about to topple. But she will *not* tolerate being on the floor laying down. She's rolled only a handful of times. She's doing everything else she should be doing at this age. I suppose I should be happy b/c I have so many of Isabel's toys to get out of her reach before she starts crawling in earnest. But I'm not. I'm a fraction worried.

Well, the house is quiet. I'd better get some work done while I can.
post #392 of 454
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Originally Posted by mattjule
I wonder if I could get glasses on him at this age...
We'd have to pay out of pocket for everything so I'm hesitant to do it if he wont wear them/break them. That is probably why my parents waited until I was older...
It was weird the way he was standing so close. I don't know. I'm not that concerned.
My understanding with toddlers & glasses is that if they need them badly enough, they will keep them on. Having blurry vision is frustrating!!

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I have recently started to worry about the fact that Flora is showing no signs of mobility. She fusses everytime I put her on the floor whether she's on her tummy or her back. The only way she's happy not being held is in her excersaucer or her high chair and less and less so, her bouncy seat. She's okay with sitting right beside me on the floor and is becoming more and more stable with sitting and has actual started to correct herself with her hands when she's about to topple. But she will *not* tolerate being on the floor laying down. She's rolled only a handful of times. She's doing everything else she should be doing at this age. I suppose I should be happy b/c I have so many of Isabel's toys to get out of her reach before she starts crawling in earnest. But I'm not. I'm a fraction worried.
Caitlins at about the same level as Flora, I think. She can roll from front to back, but has only gone fromback to front once or twice. She doesn't like being on her front much. She can't sit up one her own. When I put her in a sitting position, she usually just slumps forward, or goes as stiff as a board & falls backward. She's stayed in a sitting position just long enough for me to snap off 2 pictures.... thats it. I was starting to worry a bit until my mom told me that my sister didn't walk until she was 16 - 17 months... she is totally fine. She was on the volleyball team & in dance class in Elementary school. Now, she's going to technical school to be a biomedical engineer... so maybe our babies are going to be the intelectuals in the bunch Do they have public health nurses where you are? Here you can call them they answer baby questions... it doesn't cost anything. Maybe I should call for both of us... ? Find out when it *is* time to worry... ?
post #393 of 454
Julie, your carriers are GORGEOUS. Makes me feel like doing something creative, but wow that sutemi-style is so intricate.... thanks for the tips on sizing, I will use them.

R howls on the floor too, and she can roll and scoot and everything. She hates being on her belly and stiffens her legs rather than bending them under. I guess I'm not worried because she's moving, but I wanted to comment because it seems like she too does not like to be laying still.
post #394 of 454
Balanchin-I sent you a pm!

Ro is a mover-he always has been. His sleep is really scary-I used to be able to leave Tain for naps on the couch without a rail or anything b/c he laid there like a brick, but Ro rolls and moves so much in his sleep! He's not crawling, though he can get somewhere super fast. Tain wasn't much of a crawler. He would stay where you put him and didn't crawl til around 8 months. He much preferred to cruise furniture or be held. Maybe your girls will walk and never crawl. It isn't unheard of. Ro sat so much later than a friend of mine's baby who was born 2 weeks earlier. He just didn't have the muscle control that she seemed to be born with. It's really hard to be patient and not fuss over developmental stuff, especially when you have other babies to compare yours to.

Seedling-I think you are right. He watches TV just fine in the living room on the couch and he can see TINY airplanes when we are outside. It must just be his TV.

Anyone else find their children captivating? I find myself just staring at Tain a lot, I think he is so beautiful. I feel kind of bad about Ro, b/c to me he just looks like a baby. A pretty one, but I am not the kind of person that thinks every baby is pretty or that baby=beautiful. So I have been imagining what he will look like in another year. His face will look a lot like Tain's, but his hair is red, his eyes are darker. He has dimples and Tain doesn't. He's going to be beautiful too. I think dh and I are average looking, but our kids are so beautiful. Maybe I am just a typical mama and only think they are gorgeous when they are average looking...
post #395 of 454
Okay, well I MADE her lie on her stomach and didn't pick her up when she started fussing. After about ten minutes of me laying face to face and encouraging her, she rolled over onto her back. We did this twice. But I felt so mean! I think I'm just going to start doing this a couple times a day though so she will practice rolling.

Julie, I think my kids are beautiful too. I look at them and think, "now where did they come from? they are too good looking to be my children".
post #396 of 454
Julie-- My sister has had glasses since she was 9 months old. Mom thought there was something wrong with her eyes *at birth* and couldn't get a doctor to write a referral until she was 9 months old (when she crawled, she would crawl right into table legs and walls); when she got to the opthamologist appointment he glared at her and said "what the heck took you so long?" At any rate: my mother rigged up a kind of harness to keep her glasses on her face from that age, with elastic bands. I think you can buy them commercially now (being a clever seamstress you could probably rig one up yourself). My sister's glasses were thick and heavy until they invented those fabulous plastic lenses; even the ultralight versions of her glasses are fairly thick, but they're not heavy anymore.

As far as I know, sitting to close to the TV isn't at all universal kid behavior. I never did it, BeanBean doesn't-- the only kids I've personally seen do that are all wearing glasses today. I could be wrong, though.

If you're not into the harness look, you might look into contacts. That's a lot of work for you, but Tain probably won't be able to hurt them. I know they can fit even a newborn for contacts. It's amazing, what they can do these days!

Just this morning I was staring at my kids. BeanBean woke up this morning and *whispered* "May I please have a nursie?" And last night, he wouldn't sleep with daddy-- he wanted his Mamma for cuddles. He was so adorable! BooBah has also been super sweet this morning. They're just being total lovies.

I think BeanBean is prettier than BooBah, though. Is that mean to say? : It feels extra cruel to me because BeanBean actually bears some resemblence to me but BooBah doesn't, so it feels like I'm saying "I'm prettier than Mike" or "my family is prettier than your family." : I do feel like my daughter is a beautiful girl, but I think half of that is her sunny, sweet personality. *sigh* Argh, I should stop now!
post #397 of 454
I just have to chime in on the beautiful babes comments. I always feel like my children are so cute. They are a pretty good mix of my husband and I. Though any of the good looks they have definetely come from me . ha ha ha. No, seriously though, I stare at my children all the time and just want to squeeze them. I know I am biased and proud of it. I learned that ppl are most attracted to others that look like them, so it's know wonder we find our kids so attractive .

I am just loving the way my kids interact. Logan and Gavin are so in love it just kills me. Tonight we were all jumping on the bed and squealing together and I just thought to myself, it can't get any better than this.

On a different note, I have not used my sling in a while. It is too cold for me to wear it out and with all the stuff Gavin wears he would not fit into the sling well. I hope we can get back into slingin' this spring. Gavin is just so into doing things by himself that he really doesn't want me to hold him much. It's sort of nice.

Today I organized Gavin's clothes and have two totes of clothes I can get rid of since he won't wear them again. Do any of you keep any outfits for keepsakes? I don't really have anything I am attached to, but just wondering. I tend not to get attached to anything material, which seems like a good thing, but sometimes it's to the point where I never keep anything and feel bad like I should. Oh well.
post #398 of 454
I'm saving everything, but that's because I'm planning on having several more kids. Honestly, though, I think I'd hold onto pictures of my kids in favorite outfits rather than the outfits themselves.

Its snowing here! We already have two inches, and its supposed to continue till tomorrow afternoon. As long as there's no ice I'll be happy!

Killy was feeding himself little bits of apple at dinner tonight. Sadly, since he only has two bottom teeth he wasn't getting it chewed up very well, but I cut it into really small pieces. He developed the pincher grasp overnight, it seems. I think his top front teeth are about to come in because his gums have been swollen on and off all week and sleep has not been going well at all. He's also finally starting to crawl - he's now going a few steps at a time before falling over. I had to go buy him some new clothes today - he's wearing 18 month pants/overalls now! We got tons of onsies and sweaters for Christmas, but not a single pair of pants. Figures, huh?

I think my son is beautiful, too, of course. I feel a little arrogant saying that, since he looks a lot like me. He looks so old for his age! But ever since he was born people have commented on how expressive his face is and how that makes him look older. I just can't imagine how much older he'll look when he has his top teeth, too....

So, am I a freak? Everyone I know just drilled it into my head the whole time I was pregnant that I COULD NOT depend on breastfeeding for birth control. Even my mom who was in her thirties when she had me used birth control until her and my dad tried for another baby when I was one year and suceeeded the first time (she weaned me during pregnancy, so she was breastfeeding the whole time, too). Why am I not fertile yet? I actually want to get pregnant again, but I'm beginning to worry that I won't be fertile again till Killy stops nursing at night, and I have NO idea how long that will be, but I don't think it will be any time soon. (Wow - as soon as I typed this he started crying and I had to run upstairs and nurse him!) Of course, I would like to loose 20 pounds before I get pregnant, so maybe I should just focus my energy on that. But, I'm also a little worried about loosing too much weight. I'm very muscular, and when I'm at the weight that I like to be at my cycle isn't regular. I'm just so conflicted about all of this! (Gee, can you tell?) Well, enough of my babbling...
post #399 of 454
QoC - I am no fertility expert, but I really, really think this is a time to "let go and let God." We will get pregnant again when our first babies are ready for us to get pregnant again and our bodies have rebalanced themselves. I had one period and was very excited, but no period this month and I know I am not pg since I have an IUD. But my body did such a great job with James that I am trying to just trust it now.

WRT beautiful babies, well, we just signed James with a modeling agency. : We are hoping that he will make some college money and give grandma something to brag about. The kid looks nothing like me, but I still think he's very attractive.
post #400 of 454
Rationally, I know that, Smithie... But I can't seem to be rational! I'm totally new to this whole issue, as I got pregnant about 13 days after I quite taking the pill last year. So, my whole life I've only had unprotected sex for 13 days, and I got pregnant... until a couple months ago, when I put away the diaphragm. Its just really weird for me! Plus, my sister and I are 20 months apart in age, and I really really really want my kids to be less than two years apart, too.

How excited about James modeling! I hope that it goes well for your family.
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