Well, HBH, I am definitely committed to natural birth, breastfeeding, etc. But I also believe that women have the right to choose whatever they want to do. I'm with you, when people just accept blindly it drives me up the wall. I am a zealot in terms of wanting everyone to have accurate information. While it doesn't seem ok to say this a lot on mdc, "zealots" here disseminate plenty of misinformation themselves in an effort to get others to make the same choices (I am of course not referring to anyone present on this thread). My sister-in-law stopped nursing because she went on antidepressants and was told by her doc she had to wean. That was bad information, and she should have researched it, but the truth was she never loved breastfeeding and was so depressed and exhausted it was probably a relief to be given permission to stop nursing. So she should have had the confidence in herself to decide breastfeeding, while best, wasn't for her, and it should have been ok for her to wean without needing an "excuse." Of course the problem is good info is *not* getting out there and women are making decisions based on poor or biased information. Regardless of the resulting decision, bad info is bad info.
I was following the UC thread for some time but felt that anything short of blanket agreement was not considered "supportive" enough to be welcome there. Yet I really enjoy the discussion and do believe UC should be a valid choice. But I don't think all birth complications are a result of professional presence, as some there do. I considered UC, but I really think if I had not had my mw, I would have gone to the hospital and had a c/birth, or something worse would have happened at home.
I don't see why elective c/birthing, bottlefeeding and disposable diaper using women can't fit under the umbrella of "natural family living." Every choice should be tolerated and respected, because we can't know all of a person's biography that contributes to the choices they make, or when, in the future, we might have to eat crow by making a choice we once scorned. I have a friend who uses sposies because she feels it's a better environmental choice in her area, and she is also the only person I have ever met IRL who follows the disposal instructions and puts the feces in the toilet.
Anyway I am getting OT here. Just wanted to give Julie some support!!
My guy is in terrible pain from his teeth, which are both coming through faster than I thought possible. He has bitten me a few times but it is usually scarier than it is painful. His nights have been difficult, and I am trying to get up, nurse or carry him, and put him back in his crib. Between a pillowtop mattress, really high off the ground, and dh in the bed while FIL is here, I don't sleep when Rowan is in bed with us. I am afraid one of us while squash him or smother him (we each have a big puffy comforter and many pillows) or he will fall out. Also he manages to get me moving closer to the edge of the bed. FIL *and* dh leave tomorrow, ahhhhhh. I intend to put some routine-inducing methods inspired by NCSS into place while I have total control over my house.
I am getting kind of concerned about my anxiety. I worry a lot about Rowan and I check on him many times during the night. I think I am contributing to his frequent waking by my checking on him and worrying about him. I might try to get some exercise, and get out of the house more, so that I will find it easier to relax. I am so tired at this point it is a huge effort to be good to anyone other than the baby.
My daughter cut all her hair off! We all had hair appointments yesterday and she picked some style on Sharon Stone from a mag and has a short haircut-not a bob, either, which would have been easier for me to handle. She has such pretty hair I was a bit sad, and hope she grows it back soon, but she is so delighted. It is interesting how much it takes to get used to a drastic change in a loved one's appearance. She also got glasses the other day and so far prefers them to the contacts, so she just looks completely different and it's like, "who is this person?" I find I actually get kind of upset about her hair when I am away from her for a while and wish I could have prevented it, but then I see her and it's ok. I think the hair and the glasses in just a few days is too much for me all at once.
Everyone says she looks great but people are also pretty shocked. We never even trimmed her hair until she was past 6 years old! She looks taller and a lot older.
I have tried using seventh generation sposies at night and I must be doing something wrong, because the pee has missed the diaper entirely more than once. But if I put them on tighter the top seems to form a very tight band around him. I try to point his penis down, too, but I never have seen how that would work for long becuase it just shrinks and grows and does whatever it wants, like all others of its kind.
Anyone have any advice about sposies at night? I am just trying to get him into the habit of sleeping longer, because mostly he is getting used to a very wet diaper by morning and it doesn't seem to bother him much. So I thought I'd give them a try while using NCSS and yet they are so far making things worse.....?