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post #21 of 547
Arta WON'T nurse to sleep. Mostly eating just makes her cheery, not particularly sleepy; if she does fall asleep while nursing, it's very light and won't last.

If she's not overtired, I'll etiher lay her in the bassinet and sing and read to her (with or without paci) while stroking her head, or more successfully, lie next to her in OUR bed and do the same, then maybe put her in the bassinet once she's asleep (she starts off the night in the bassinet, then around 2am I bring her to bed - I get more qualilty sleep that way!).

HOWEVER, if she's completely cranky and crying out of overtiredness, I'll rock her and sing songs to her in a dark room until she's asleep or calm enough to try one of the above methods. Sometimes I'll put a blanket over both of us, to make it really dark.
post #22 of 547
Welcome Ladybugs Mom! Where in NC do you live? I'm in Chapel Hill. DD is dear daughter, DS dear son, and DH dear husband. It took me forever to figure those out.
post #23 of 547
Welcome Ladybugs mom. I am on the NC/GA border if you are anywhere close.
post #24 of 547
Welcome Alicia.
Desmina rolled over today! She rolled over for the first time a while back, but didn't do it again. Today, DH was on the bed with her and she rolled! She rolled once more. I'm so happy. I hope she does it again. Now I have something to brag about in playgroup tomorrow.
You mamas are making me feel better about Desi having to nure to sleep. I try to have a night time ritual for her.
post #25 of 547
I need to add a complaint. I was watching TV last night and the stupidest commecial came on. Girls gone Wild. The commenter asked a girl to show him where babies fed and she lifted up her shirt. STOP sexualing breatfeeding!!!!!!!!!
post #26 of 547
Hi all, it's nice to hear how everyone is doing. Wow, Heather, moving, that would be so overwhelming! But it would make for a nice new start with decluttering. Jen, just to chime in, my babies have all nursed to sleep a lot. I just go with the flow -- if they want to nurse, fine, if they want to walk fine, whatever works. But Miriam's schedule is a balance of what she needs and what happens in our family. She stays asleep at night as long as there is someone in bed with her. I was feeling sick on N Y eve, and she had stayed up with us. The next morning I slept in until 11:30, and she slept as long as I did. She occasionally has a long nap in the daytime, but mostly it is several cat naps of 15-30 mins. Amazingly, she sleeps better with noise around her, so she usually sleeps on the couch or somewhere like that. Occasionally she's even one of those babies who falls asleep on their own -- usually if I'm changing Solomon's dipe or bundling the kids up to go out, she'll be fussing a bit and next thing I know, she's zonked out. I couldn't believe it the first time it happened. It just depends on the kid. Darwin couldn't unlatch and stay asleep before an hour of nursing at night for a few months.

MamaAcorn, I don't know about cradle cap itching. My 5 and 3 yo kids still have it a bit, and they don't complain. My hubby is obsessed with grooming it off Miriam, since he thinks it must itch, but it seems to bother her more that he's doing it.

ladybugs_mom, DH is dear/darling husband, DD and DS are dear son/daughter. Welcome!

We're doing well. Miriam is a bundle of smiles and squeals and laughter. She's strong and energetic. We aren't using the sling much as she tends to try to launch herself out of it. We have been visiting family for over a month now, and dh spent some of that time trying to complete our kitchen renovations. He's certainly learning a lot doing it all himself. We melted part of our car, so we decided to go ahead and look for a van, since 3 carseats are a pain in a car. Miriam has outgrown most of the clothes I brought here for her. We're just using sposies now to help them fit better.
post #27 of 547
Welcome ladybugs_mom!

Along the same line of questioning as ladybugs_mom......what does NAK mean? I can't figure it out! It's driving me bonkers!
post #28 of 547
Mel, NAK = nursing at keys.

Neither of my boys falls asleep without help. Gabriel has always been higher needs and worse at sleeping than Iain. The only way Gabriel, at 2.5yrs, falls asleep "on his own," and without actually CIO (which doesn't work for him, even at this age), is to keep him up so long that he's too fried to behave well, then send him to his bed for "time out." He fusses a bit because he's in time out, but as soon as he lies down, he's out! Not ideal, but it worked a couple of times (unintentionally! :LOL) when DH was out of town. Our normal routine for him is to read a book while he lies down, then sing to him while he's curled up with his eyes closed (generally holding the book - reminds me of a cat ). We have to wait for him to be sound asleep to sneak out. Sometimes he'll wake up crying during the night - more and more, he'll wake up calmly. Then he comes to sleep with us.

Iain, thankfully, is already easier than this. He always has "help," but that may be in the form of a pacifier and our "water tape" (recorded bathwater running) in his bassinet. It's funny, but he really wants the structure of familiar things already (where Gabriel just wouldn't sleep no matter what! :LOL). Sometimes he'll give me all the signs of being tired and being ready to take a pacifier (refusing to nurse anymore), but won't do it in my arms. Put him in his bed and . He does surprise me sometimes by falling asleep with almost no intervention, which is quite a blessing too. Then there are times like yesterday when he was so tired but we were at a friend's house and he would just NOT settle down. Perhaps laying him down in our friend's bed would have helped, but DH did eventually get him to sleep by cradling him tightly and bouncing him, along with the pacifier. Of course, then he only slept for 30 minutes!

Shannon, it's good to see you again! I'm glad to hear you all are doing well. How long will you be visiting family?

Welcome, ladybugs_mom!

Chrissy, how is Noah doing these days? Was your juice and Starbucks outing just the two of you? I bet he's loving that!

Samantha, the Haba water bottles sound neat! Where did you get them? I just love the Haba teethers Iain got for Christmas! Thanks for the tips on packing and storing! Coming up with a method for packing/labeling/etc. is going to be interesting. I HAVE to have everything labeled to the nth! The first move we made after we were married, I numbered each room/closet in our new place, and had corresponding labels (with content) on each box. The idea was for each box to be delivered to the right spot - which of course didn't happen! :LOL But at least I knew where it needed to go once I got to it.

I just checked an email from DH's boss, who seems to think it's highly likely that the company will OK the move. We need to check with our landlords about breaking our lease and see what they'll do for us. We've been here nearly three years, so I hope they'll be gracious. But DH and I both are feeling like we should pursue it, including trying to get out there in only a few weeks. One great thing is Gabriel keeps saying, "Go to California! Go planeport!" Of course, we'll drive, but I'm glad that he's excited about it. It will mean a LOT of changes, obviously, and a lot of good things will be lost while we're gone - like being a 2 minute drive from my parents. But, it seems like such a good opportunity, financially, experientially (is that the right word? is that a word? :LOL), etc. The drive out there will take us past Jeremey's dad, my dad, one set of my grandparents, and three of my sets of aunts, uncles, and cousins! We're just praying that everything will fall into place - from timing to packing to a place out there and a new place when we get back. We've never bought a home, so that's a whole new bundle in the midst of the adventure! I think I'm going to try to acquaint myself with the area so I have some idea of where things are when we're talking about homes! And lists...must start lists!!
post #29 of 547
Welcome ladybugs_mom!! Let us know if there are any other abberviations you don't know. I remember being confused by many at first myself.

HeatherB- Aaaah yes the best laid plans of mice and men. :LOL It's always great when you find bedroom boxes in the kitchen. Even the ones labelled in BIG letters.

HERE is where I got the Haba hot water bottles, they are at the bottom of the page. I got the Cat one through a co-op and it was the best $15 I ever spent, didn't mind having to pay full price for the other two known they worked so well. :LOL I'll bet one would help Gabriel settle at bedtime a bit. Certainly works for Tori. :LOL
post #30 of 547
HeatherB..I have been throught the moving because of a job thing. Most leases have a clause about moving due to work that allows you to get out of it.
post #31 of 547
I have one! What is ETA????

TIA!
post #32 of 547
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I have one! What is ETA????

TIA!
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post #33 of 547
Thread Starter 
my mantra today: i love my son, i really do. i love my son, i really do. He went to sleep really nicely at 8 last night, woke up to eat at 12:30 and again at 5, but after the 5:30 nursing, he wouldn't go back to sleep! Jo had to walk him around and rock him until he did. She's sick as a dog with some sinus crap and tristan's got a major stuffy nose too. I'm trying to convince my right breast that it really, really doesn't want to have mastitis. It's tender, warm and has red splotches on it. I can't feel anything plugged, it feels nice and soft, and nursing doesn't particularly hurt. And I don't have a fever. So I'm working on it with echinacea and garlic and hoping that I can avoid the antibiotics... my doula is bringing over an herbal breast compress mixture today, too. How convenient to have a doula who lives 1/2 block away!! (2 of them, in fact!)

happy monday. j
post #34 of 547
Jen, your day sounds like our weekend. Christopher has had a nasty cold and he passed it on to David, my mom, my sister, and DH. Also I had a heartattack for a brief moment last night when David spat up and it was brown! I took David to the Ped today and after a lengthy discussion with her, she feels that David is suffering from Reflux. My poor baby will spit up and then cry unconsolably for 5-10 minutes afterwards. I was going to bring it up at his 4 month baby well check but after yesterday with the brown spitup, I called the office today. She has prescribed Zantac for him and will see how that works. I have to keep him vertical so I went out and bought a Snugli carrier at a consignment shop. I would rather have a UBW or a Moby but I need something immediately. I am keeping an eye on my babywearing lists to see if someone is offering one used for sale.

Jen, David will only nurse to sleep or sometimes he will pass out if I rock him but that is very rare.
post #35 of 547
OH! I forgot to ask! Is is safe if I were to expose David to chicken pox now? I have a friend whose son was exposed and she is waiting to see if he breaks out.
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post #37 of 547
Heather~ I don't know if their old enough to be exposed. I too was concerned about this because my sister has the shingles and was around Desmina for the holidays. I don't think she has had an outbreak yet.

Today was her 4 month appointment. She weighed 9lbs 13 ozs. She is still such a slow gainer. I don't know what else to do. I still don't want to give her formula. What's so frustrating is the doctor uses a chart that includes formula fed babies. And doesn't understand why I want to look at an exclusively breastfed baby chart. Her doctor also said that Desmina looks malnorushed...but earlier she said that Desi looked hydrated...so I think she is contradicting herself. My husband thinks that she is doing this as a scare tactic. I am nursing her on demand. We co sleep so she has access to the breast at night anytime she wants. If I'm not holding her, I'm wearing her so she can nurse anytime she wants too. It's just been very frustrating for me. I've been crying all day today.
post #38 of 547
Cynthia, I'm so sorry you had such a rough day. Kate is in the 25% percentile for weight gain, she's small too. My doctor said that it doesn't really matter what percentile they're in, just that they don't drop percentiles. Do you know what percentile Desmina was in at her 2 month appt. and her 4 month? Maybe you can look at that comparison and give yourself some peace of mind.

Guys, Kate is killing me! Every night since Saturday has been a struggle..down, up, down, up, etc. She does not want to sleep. She just cries and cries. I feel horrible and exhausted. Please help. What can I do?
post #39 of 547
Phew, I finally caught up! Hello ladies! Good to see you all! Welcome to the new mamas and welcome back to the mamas just resurfacing!

Lots of great conversations happening here lately, I probably have a reply for everything, but let's see what I can remember.

Falling asleep: Nessa nurses to sleep very often, maybe 75% of the time. Most other times I will dance/sing her to sleep. If I know she needs to go down and has nursed recently or doesn't want to, I'll put on some music that I can dance her around to and sing along with. This has worked quite well. Sometimes she will just pass out in arms if she's tired enough, this is usually if we are out somewhere. Once she almost demanded that I sing her to sleep, I started off singing and rocking/pacing and everytime I stopped she would fuss, but if I began singing again she'd calm down, so I just kept it up till she was out. I need to learn some new songs...

I'm glad to hear (only for my reassurance) that others are experiencing more frequent night wakings lately, I was getting really spoiled with long stretches, one to no wakings per night, and now we're back to three wakings per night. And sometimes I am up for an hour or two during these, this is no fun. I feel more sleep deprived than I did back in the beginning! Argh! I got used to not needing naps, but I really need to make sure I get them now...

Chickenpox: It could be too early for exposure now only because the baby may not get sick enough to get the immunity needed to never get them again. I don't know a whole lot about it, so would advise more research, but that is what I have seen with some other babies getting them early.

OK, that is all I can muster, I am so tired. Gonna go try and catch the rest of this nap with my little peanut.
post #40 of 547
Thread Starter 
cynthia it sounds like you need a new dr! My friend had an exclusively bf'ed boy who was always off the charts on the low end, he's fine now, if still a lean fellow.

Any suggestions for helping stuffy nose? Can't be something that is shared with everyone (e.g. eucalyptus in a humidifier), should primarily be in baby's area. Couldn't find anything exclusive to babies at the co-op.

Both Jo and T are still sick. The sneezes coming out of T are GROSS. But at least they're coming out.

I am tired and probably getting sick too, now. sigh.

j
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