I feel guilty - Page 2

[beanma]

whoo-hoo! way to go AdrianneWe's dh!

as far as the PP who asked about friend's and family being negative about breastfeeding, in my case, no, not really, but i'm with AdrianneWe on some of them did things differently and presumably thought that was the right way to do things, so my ASSumption is that they would feel uncomfortable and maybe think judgmental thoughts :LOL about us if we were to nurse in front of them. probably some things i need to work through myself...

hoorat again for adrianneWe's DH!

[Katiemare]

"Sending a message" -- such as that a 2 1/2 year old can wait to nurse so that Mama enjoys it, too-- is an important lesson for him to learn. I believe that by this age it is important for the nursing relationship to be a two-way street.
I also agree that real friends don't think much about your choice-- its part of who u are.

[UrbanPlanter]

Originally Posted by Katiemare

"Sending a message" -- such as that a 2 1/2 year old can wait to nurse so that Mama enjoys it, too-- is an important lesson for him to learn.

I agree with you. What bothers me is that I might be sending him a message that might make him feel self-conscious, or think that he should be ashamed, etc.

A couple of weeks ago we went to our LLL meeting - we haven't been in a long while but I wanted to get back into it for a variety of reasons - and he seemed so elated to be in a room full of nurslings. He nursed a lot at that meeting.

I think he knows that when he's out on a playdate or at preschool or at a restaurant that it's just not gonna happen and he doesn't even ask. But he usually doesn't go for more than a few hours, and the zoo day was a very long, busy day, and he really did need it at that point. I was having the problem where I was ashamed or embarrassed, and I didn't want to send that message to him.

[TiredX2]

A couple of weeks ago we went to our LLL meeting - we haven't been in a long while but I wanted to get back into it for a variety of reasons - and he seemed so elated to be in a room full of nurslings. He nursed a lot at that meeting.

When DD was three she *LOVED* LLL meetings--- there was always someone I trusted to hold DS and she could nurse as much as she wanted.

[mother_sunshine]

Adrianne, I'm chiming in late but just wanted to offer my support. That's wonderful that your dh is supportive. And good for you for still nursing your ds anyway.

I agree that it's a shame we have to feel self-conscious about NIP. If people saw it more often, then it would be seen as just as normal as hugging your child in public.

I admire those who are able to NIP without batting an eye. I wasn't as brave, unfortunately, and asked dd to wait if we were somewhere that would have made me feel uncomfortable. I don't think there is anything wrong with a mother for having that feeling, given the society we live in....it is society who is wrong for making us feel that way. I do think it is very important that the child know that there is nothing wrong with wanting to nurse while out, and that it is not he (or nursing) who is making you uncomfortable.

I think that we are more self-conscious and wary than necessary though. (That is easy to say in retrospect.) Most people probably wouldn't say or do anything (though I'm sure it depends on where you live, right?).

[kimmysue2]

My son will be three on the 29th of March. I just cut out the NIP. I did not want to feel uncomfortable(I wish I wasn't but) nor make my son uncomfortable (by having him be under my shirt and not moving around). If he asked I tell him once we are home I will nur you. If we aren't close to home I will nur him in the car.