I saved the e-mail for the HMN open house, but I hadn't decided whether or not to go. I'll check the date again--the Barnes & Noble is right by my house (the leader lives in North Brunswick too). If it's not one of my work days, maybe we can meet and say hi! I did like the leader and the few other women I got to know, a lot actually. It was just hard because of my health stuff and the age of the kids. How old is Kyle?
It IS great to have a supportive community, even online. I've been on an attachment parenting board since Bella was born (not MDC affiliated), but it's a standalone, so I was SO happy to find the due date clubs here. I was on a mainstream board when I was pg with Bella, and it was fine then because what did I know about parenting at that point? It wasn't until after I had Bella that my beliefs really solidified. I could never go back to a regular board now!
I had the same feelings about my playgroup that you did. The women were nice, and were totally supportive of how I parent Bella, never judgmental (wish I could say the same for me!). We just didn't click at all, and there were the occasional incidents that really highlighted how we had nothing in common. I was at one group meeting where the entire conversation was about giving cereal in a bottle to help their babies sleep, and sleep training (which actually, not one of them did, but some of the talk got too close for comfort for me). And there I am, sitting, nursing my 20 month old. At that same meeting, one of the toddlers kept playing under the kitchen sink, where the cleaning products were, and they made kind of a half hearted effort to keep him out. But then when another toddler had climbed on a chair and was kneeling at the dining room table (I could see him the whole time, he was fine), they all converged on him and hustled him off and told him how dangerous it was. About 5 minutes later I was like, "You know, I have to run, it's Bella's naptime..." I know they were all relieved when I left the group. I still do the occasional Moms Club event because I want Bella to be more social that I am, LOL, but we've got a lot going on now, and with Bella in school and doing storytimes and spending time with my friend's kids, I think we do OK.
I'll get back to you about the HMN event.