WOO HOO Rynna! How old is your BooBah these days? Maybe that has something to do with it? For me I didn't start losing weight after Mariah was born until after she was a year old.
Rachel, so glad you posted, i've been thinking about you
Fern, we are going through some difficult behaviors too. We've been having all out tantrums here for the first time. Screaming, crying, the works. Over little tiny things like changing a diaper. I know partly she is struggling with control issues, and she is definetley growing in big ways. We really make an effort to let her have as much control over her life as possible, but there are some things I *have* to intervene in. Or what about when we need to go out? It took me an hour yesterday to get her diaper changed and a decent amount of clothes on her so we could go to the post office. AN HOUR! every time I would ask her, are you ready to get dressed? she would dissolve into tears and screaming and trying to kick and hit me. It is frustrating! I also recognize that part of the problem is I seem to have about half the patience since I've been pregnant. And I am taking things too personally.
I have no clue how to do time outs with a two year old so we haven't done that. Mostly what I have resorted to is pickign her up and putting her in her bedroom (most of our house has hard wood floors / tile) and letting her scream her heart out while I wait in the living room. If I stay in the room with her she gets more worked up and it takes longer for her to calm down. I feel badly about leaving her alone in such an emotional state but
that's what seems to work and I am just a few feet away anyway, she just can't see me. When she comes out I always hug and kiss her and ask is she feels better.
But what about for little things - she seems to be defying us on purpose a lot lately, and while we have stayed calm and gentle in our responses I can't help but wonder if what we are doing is working. For example, she knows and has known for ages not to play with our records. Yesterday right in front of me she took a record out of the sleeve and threw it on the (hardwood) floor. I picked it up and explained that records are fragile and we have to be soft with them. Then I asked her to put it back in the sleeve. She started screaming NO NO NO while backing up and bending the sleeve every which way, she has never done anything like this before!
: I snatched (bad mama I know) the record sleeve from her, said again we need to be soft with our things put the record back in and we left the room. What should I have done instead? I have a very difficult time with our things being treated badly because we dont have much to begin with. The records are accessible to her only because we have never had a problem with that before. Ever! So yes I know one option would be to put the records away somewhere, but please I need advice on how to handle other similar situations too.
phew. i feel better just having talked about all this....
and where are you hiding casina? hope you are well...