Originally Posted by sprinkle pocket
i'm wondering if it would be helpful, even if it's not used, to have someone who's birthed, much less uc'd to call and say "am i ok?!", or to know that if you needed to call them, you could? i'm trying to heed the advice and prepare for the intensity that people say cause 1st timers to transfer. my uc-supportive mw friend, said that 2 mw's she knows planned to freebirth and both transferred b/c they weren't prepared for the intensity. she offerred this advice: dh should be prepared that if you get to the point that you just don't think you can do it (she tried to avoid using the word 'transition' and said some women don't experience it) and it's just too much, that dh should say, "good! that means the baby is almost here! you're doing great!
Anyway, I agree with the advice sprinkle pocket's friend gave. If it is just that it is really intense and you are just feeling like you can't go on, then it's probably almost over! It is so, so common for women to feel like this in transition. I felt that way too. At the end of my third birth (1st UC) I was wailing about how I couldn't do it anymore and Scott said, "you know, it was just like this last time and the baby was born soon after." He meant I was acting the same way. And, he was right. Once I got to the really hard part where I thought I just couldn't go on, it wasn't more than an hour until she was born. Same thing with my fourth, and we both said similar things at the end. Me expressing doubt and a desire to give up and have someone else take care of it, and him telling me that it was so familiar and he was sure it was almost over. And it was.