Looking Forward to Sharing
Hi, all! I am new to the forum, and just wanted to tell everyone how happy I am to have found somewhere we parents of G/T children can share our triumphs, frustrations, and hard-won advice.
I am the mother of two children, a 5-yr-old dd and a 4-yr-old ds. Dd is in Kindergarten, and has been recently placed by the school in their off-site program for gifted children. Ds is in pre-school, but seems to be doing not much above average with his classmates, though this loving mommy *knows* he is very bright.
Reading through these posts, I notice many of the mothers out there have young gifted children. I am so amazed! When dd was small, I never imagined her intelligence was significantly above average. (Bless you all for noticing your babies' special talents so early.) Dh and I are still reeling from the news that dd is so exceptional academically, and I have been scrambling to do as much research as possible. It is proving both frustrating and exhilarating; there seems to be so little information out there for young
gifteds, yet so wonderful to finally not feel so guilty for birthing a child so obviously "outside social norms".
I giggle over many of the antics and questions your children have surprised and delighted you with, especially the discourse on the nature of God. Dd confines her inquisitiveness to more esoteric topics, like astronomy and the exact mechanics of radio waves
, so I have not had the joy of explaining the existence of the divine in a concrete fashion. I am wondering if anyone else out there has shared some of my experiences in Gifted Motherhood? For example:
Dd knew how to get over, around, through or under every single child-proofing device on the market by the age of 18 months.
Dd's favorite Terrible Twos pastime was sneaking downstairs at 3am to break into the kitchen cabinets and "cook" with ketchup, cocoa powder, honey, salt, popcorn, etc.---on the middle of the kitchen floor.
Dd never seemed to need half as much sleep as her exhausted mommy & daddy.
Dd consistently climbed onto the highest piece of furniture possible, no matter what method of discouragement used.
Dd would have an emotional meltdown promptly at 7pm every night, almost without fail, with little or no provocation.
Dd comes home from a long day at school and promptly immerses herself in any number of subjects like math, geography, astronomy, Japanese, for hours on end.
Dd finds it almost impossible to tear herself away from any activity if she does not percieve it is finished. Attempts to do so may result in temper tantrum.
Dd complains she has no friends at school, though she talks about other students and teachers mention no socialisation problems.
Ah, I think I'll stop there. Dd has been tested by a child psychologist after given a diagnosis of AD/HD, so there are no other emotional/developmental issues at work. (Actually, the more research I do into giftedness, the more I wonder if she was not misdiagnosed in the first place.) I just mention these things because they are the behaviours that nearly drove my husband and I to the edge. It is such a release to be able to tell other mothers the challenges and despairs your child's incomprehensible behaviour presents, without them viewing you with pity/disbelief/embarrassment.
On the other hand, ds is not so emotionally intense. He has his own challenging quirks, but after dd...
His intellectual level seems much lower than dd's at the same age, but I think I may either be skewed in my perceptions by dd's development, or am just secretly hoping for a more "normal" (ie. less exhausting) child. And that makes me feel incredibly self-centered and guilty.
I think I've rattled on long enough. Mommy doesn't get to have adult conversations (with other adults, anyway) that often, so I let myself go for a bit.
So, again, I am really ecstatic about finding this meeting place for parents challenged as we are. So lovely to have an understanding and empthic sounding board for all our worries and cheering section for our little blessings that the world at large seems to view with an eye of misunderstanding.