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post #101 of 207
Isn't it fun to get stuff in the mail??? I already have my diapers and all I need, I think. I have a sling, I have all I need for right now so there's no more shopping to be done..... I need another project, I think.
post #102 of 207
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Originally Posted by jessitron
The BH do get harder and more frequent. When we practice relaxation, those are handy. Last night I noticed that they really make it hard to breathe.
YK, I'm noticing the same thing. I don't remember this with my other kids, and don't remember it in labor- maybe someone with a more recent pregnancy/ birth can comment. It's one of the ways that I notice the non-painful ones coming. It's worse when lying down, but I feel my breath constricted and have to concentrate on getting some good air in..... interesting you have the same experience.
post #103 of 207
Jessi- I experieance the same breathless feeling, it the worst when I have them in the car 'cause I'm all squished to begin with... But what I remember about actually being in labor was that the contractions were much lower, so I didn't feel breathless. I remember taking big deep breaths in through my nose and blowing out through my mouth. I also remeber the nurses telling me to not blow out when I was pushing...which now I wish I hadn't listened 'cause I think dd would have come out a bit slower and I wouldn't have torn.
post #104 of 207
Aaah yes, it's a whopping 55 here in Ohio, and the sun has come out for a bit. I can see shadows on the lawn! So after sleeping until nearly 10, a nice quiet morning, dh called to check on me before his meeting today and when I plopped back down on the couch I dumped a HUGE glass of juice and ice all over me, blanket, robe, couch, etc. and froze my poor butt! So I climbed into the tub and soaked for an hour, we won't discuss how ugly it was watching myself get out of the tub (I did get stuck there a month or so ago, had to wait for DH to pull me out), and got dressed into pretty pjs instead of clothing. At one point babe let me feel the entire length of it's leg, I guess it likes the bath too. And I'm thinking we're having a 22" babe now, this leg was LONG!

Am wanting some serious comfort food for dinner - something like chicken and dumplings or an open faced roast beef sandwich with mashed taters, something warm and fuzzy and yummy, and not made by me! Dh promised this morning that we'd go out tonight for dinner, I'm thinking dinner AND a piece of pie or ice cream. Or both. Yes, both.
post #105 of 207
Lisa...mmmmmmm pie ahhhhhh (think homer simpson)

Warm Apple pie with a little vanilla Ice cream...yum
post #106 of 207
Pie, yeah. Monday night I woke up several times saying "Pie, pie." DH said, "3.14159?" spoilsport! I did get up and eat some spinach pie, but that doesn't really count.
post #107 of 207
Hi Ladies,

Well, DH went back to work today. It was interesting to say the least, trying to get DD and DS out of the house so that I could get DD to school on time. Then I had to go by my office to get Will on the insurance. With the ER visits, I don't want to see the bills that might come in from that. Then we went to my office to visit and show off.

Jessitron, you asked where I work. I work for the state health department. We have a BFing policy that if you are BFing your child, you can bring said kiddo with you for 6 months. Really helps retain some great employees who might have otherwise quit. Besides, we are trying to promote BFing for at least the 1st year to our clients (WIC and Food Assistance) and figure we should practice what we preach. Will will be in my cubie with me and I get to still work and nurse and all that stuff. I was able to do this with my DD too, when she was born and it was wonderful. She is so social now as a result.

The afternoon has been a bit of a bummer though. I miss having DH around. With him here, it felt more like a vacation. This baby is so calm and easy that I don't have a lot to do right now. Maybe I'll go take a nap.

Have a good day!

Nicole
post #108 of 207
Oooh Nicole, sounds fab! I'd go back to work if I could take babe with me.

So I've revised my dinner plans. I've gone from yummy comfort food to the expensive italian place. Trading in that yummy homecooked goodness for some lobster ravioli, a big salad, and raspberry creme brulee. And a sip of dh's wine. Although at this point, maybe a glass of wine to relax me will get baby flying out and into my arms.

The little old lady who lives upstairs has been visiting in and out all day. I think being home is going to mean a lot more of her in the house. She's 85 and a retired teacher, and always needs to chat. Most days I don't mind, but a chat to her turns into an hour or more for me. And that's just a pain when you're trying to get out the door!

Currently counting down the minutes for dh to get home, I think we'll be eating a very early and very looooooong dinner tonight, I am very serious about getting in my salad and dinner and dessert, and that can take a while!
post #109 of 207
Sounds like a delicious dinner Lisa! Maybe it'll "work".

We're going out for a late lunch.... maybe I'll do the same as you- expensive italian, salad, dessert.... we'll see.

dh just said, "Karen, you better push that baby out soon, my month is filling up."
geesh.

and Nicole- sounds like a GREAT job thing. And how lucky that Will is so easy! I hope for you that he stays that way!

So there are some missing mamas today..... Andy?
post #110 of 207
Ooooh - right click! right click! How cool! I'm here. Been veeeery busy last 24 hrs. Weird...all happens in a rush. Still pregnant, of course, nothing on that front, but went from bleeding all over the house (ugh) to getting dd to dance, to chinese food (been craving that one all week!) to birthing class (once again the only couple to show - was it the 1/4 inch of snow???) and didn't get home till nearly 10. Pooped, I crashed hard and slept till alarm at 6:30 (which wakes us to radio) and listened to school closings and school was closed so I pulled the plug on the radio and went back to sleep. I can't believe how well I'm sleeping! Last 2 nights have been great! I haven't napped at all (or less than 10 min) during the day last couple of days, and I have been eating better... except for today when I wiped out an entire row of Thin Mints (G-D Girl Scout cookies!)...but also ate a bunch of salad and whole wheat and mixed grain pasta with organic cheddar... ummm borderline ok I'd say (if one doesn't count the cookies ). Anyway, didn't manage to do the car yesterday, so I did that today and then ran a bunch of errands with dd. Got home and made 'lunch' at 3:30pm, and it took like 45 minutes to read through all the posts! I feel caught up but completely behind in comments... overwhelmed... gulp ... but RIGHT CLICK! Lisa is so smart (that was you, wasn't it!?)

Ok - so I'm going to approach this by topic, instead of person... see how far I get that way.

Husbands. They are wonderful nincompoops. They love us (and probably won't leave us!) and yet they so TOTALLY do NOT understand the first thing about being US. And to be honest, I don't really get what it is to be him, either. Different. Big. Hairy. Kind of smelly in a different way. He sleeps holding his penis, and doesn't care who hears him fart. He's really particular about some things that I just don't care much about, and other stuff is REALLY important to me and he just doesn't get it . So I think we need to just live and let live there. I know that creatures with 6 and 8 legs also belong on this earth, and I HAVE to share it with them (even my bed!), but I don't have to like it when I actually NOTICE them... so that's where I'm leaving that one.

I think our level of irritation with them is another issue. Once in a while I take some kava kava because it really calms down those nerve endings. I walked in the door last night, late, with chinese food and like 15 minutes to ENJOY it before the babysitter came, and DH is home (which he wasn't supposed to be, he was supposed to meet me at the class, so now I'm supposed to have enough food for him, too, which I didn't) and he's wanting to help and I've been running ragged for like 4 hrs. with dd and I'm feeling pretty wiped and grumpy and he's like "what can I do"? I want to tell him to make himself some food so we can just get on with getting out of the house, but I just looked at him, handed over the bags and said "I'm totally grumpy and need a few minutes. Can you get this stuff ready to eat?" and I took off boots, coat, scarf etc., went to the kitchen and put about 5 drops of Kava kava into a glass with a little water, drank it, sank into the Lazy-Boy, kicked my feet up in the dark living room, and was better in less than 10 minutes. By which time dh and dd had cleared and set the table, gotten drinks out for everyone, and dd came in a put her little hand on my cheek and said "come eat, mama. The table is ready". I was SO feeling better. I didn't expect dh to understand how I was feeling, I just kind of put it out there that I needed him to do X and then left him to do it. They did great! Our class that night was awesome and we snuggled and smooched alot when we got home. Ahhhhh.

On readyness: It seems like every day is very different. Some days people are cool and don't ask a lot or say a lot, and other days it's an inundation of retarted people who can't get it through their head that I have no intention of having a long conversation with them about when the baby is/was due, whether it's better to let the baby stay in longer or go in and have an induction (yeah like THAT would work for me), or any other topic related to my infant/pregnancy. Huff! I do get grumpy about it. I am also feeling like a real fence sitter, not wanting to end the pregnancy (although the end really isn't as beautiful as the rest has been), and I feel badly knowing there are some of us mamas who are not holding on to this the same way I am. Sorry - I hope my vibes aren't holding anyone else up! I think mostly that when the body/baby are ready, they do make it happen.

On breathing: I think the breathing that is typically LaMaze, but also a bit Bradley, is somewhat unrealistic for late 1st stage (transition). If you have a great coach (partner, mw, doula) who is with you through each contraction and staying on top of your breathing, it's possible to do it, but I had a tight feeling in my whole darned BODY with dd, and breathing was no less problematic then relaxing my forearms. If I focused on just that I could do it, but it was hard work just staying with the rush through to the end and not tensing up my whole body (gotta focus on the lower part, as that is what really needs to be Ooooopen). This time around I am hoping to use more visuals to keep me in a more relaxed place. It's hard, though!

On beads: this was such a great idea. Next time one of us has such a great idea let's figure out ahead of time HOW to do it! I think Karen's envelopes were probably the most successful, as it seems that most people are getting her beads. Feels like someone hasn't gotten someone else's beads for just about everyone else... guh.

Wounds: my finger is much better today. Probably I should've gone and gotten stitched, as the site of the wound is totally numb (although there is feeling in the tip of the finger, so I don't think there's permanent nerve damage) and it's still not 'together', but it's not bleeding (much) and the pressure bandage is now off and just a band-aid is doing the job. Sorry about your finger, Lisa! Someone mentioned that at least we do have all this extra blood, which really made me laugh! :LOL As far as timing goes, it WAS good! I also got a splinter in my big toe (from wood floor), which dh operated on. That, as we were putting on boots etc. to go to class... sheesh.

Weather: very weird weather. Snowy, icy, rainy, sunny, very weird. still pregnant. can't comment further. everything feels weird!

Banana bread: I made a super yummy bread, well, at least I THOUGHT it would be a super yummy cake, with carob chips etc., but I think the oven was too hot because it was super crispy on top, the middle folded in on itself when I took it out of the oven and the inside was still raw. Ugh. Chucked the whole thing and will make a new one with dd in a little while. I don't want it so much, now, though, after all the GS cookies.

My baby is very low now (mw commented on that last night), which is kind of nice because there is less rib kicking happening - baby does this kind of tickling thing that gives me the shivers sometimes, like running a stick along a fence... I think it's a foot or a knee along the lower ribs. Very cool. I love to watch the movement, blankets rippling, shirt poking, I think it is just SO amazing! I was walking the dog this morning and the babe was so active and lively! I do hope it is not a portent...but I do love love love these pokes!

Ok, I think I am running out of steam and am still pecking, instead of typing, and I've been at this for like 30 minutes! I promised dd I'd put my feet up and then we'd do the banana bread, so I'd best get to getting my feet up! We are listening to book four of the Spiderwick Chronicles (not bad, check them out at the library - not for the little ones, but my 6 1/2 yr old loves the stories), so I think I shall go and enjoy a few moments while dd dresses/diapers her bears with baby's clothes and diapes. I guess it's just a little more laundry

Have a great evening out ladies going out for dinner! I hope you enjoy! I wonder if Pam&Abs have had a baby???
post #111 of 207
What is with everyone trying to rush these babies out? I can understand us poor abusedm underappreciated mamas but everyone else needs to back off. Do that think that harrassing us will get these babies here any quicker? Its like I told DH to say when people are asking when that baby is going to come; "when you stop asking" Maybe I'm over reacting...

I really feel like this baby is never going to come. I already feel over due and I'm not even 38 wks yet. Today though I am really convinced that I'm not really pregnant, its all just a dream. I've just been eating too much I've given up already

On the breathlessness. I've been having that a lot lately. I don't get it so much with the bh, which have been infrequent since that baby scooted down, but I notice it mostly after I've eaten.
post #112 of 207
Oh yeah - on easy babies...I really wouldn't know. I'm so happy for you Nicole, as it sounds like a pretty full load already to add a weeny one to...good thing he's cooperative! Probably a measure of self-preservation :-)
post #113 of 207
Hi everybody-

Well, the bone numbing exhaustion has set in for me...I think I slept like five minutes last night. I jst kept turning from side to side nursing Violet, then Makai. I know everyone tells you this pregnant mamas- but- sleep while you can!!! Actually, vIolet is easy. Its my 2yo that is the hard one.

I did manage to go to LLL today. I have no idea what they really talked about, though, since I kept spacing off... There were a couple mamas who were due around the same time as me, so we got to see each other's babes and commiserate about birth and stuff, yk?

Anyway, they are both sleeping, so I'm gonna get my butt off the computer now and try and rest before I have to pick up Kobe from school!
post #114 of 207
Hang in there mama! I hope you are getting a bit of sleep now - remember the mantra ... sleep when the baby sleeps... or in your case, sleep when the babies sleep! I think there are a bunch of mamas among us who will be in your spot, with 2 nurslings and lots of needy little voices/arms/mouths and tummies. You are doing a GREAT job! It's not an easy job, but noone could do it better for your family than YOU! Hour by hour, morning by morning, day by day it will get better. Lotsa loving mamahugs!! Andy
post #115 of 207
Aaaah, that was nice. Love love love going to that restaurant. And did just what I had planned - salad, lobster ravioli, stole 1/2 of dh's wine, rasp. creme brulee and a cup of decaf. Then we went walking at the new outdoor mall (who in their right mind builds these things in places like Ohio that get snow?!!) and oohed and aahed at all the places we won't be shopping.

Aaack on the people who are being pushy about babies! I got a collective email from my department at work today, specifically asking if I had any contractions, cramps, pain, or dialation yet. And another from dh's step-dad's mom (does that make sense?) who happens to be one of the most crunchy and earth lovin gals I know, telling me I better make sure my midwife has a plan for induction because my babe is going to get too big.

Going to lounge in bed and read my book, and think relaxing labor thoughts. Good sleep to all of you!

Lisa
post #116 of 207
I realized from another post that I have another block in the way of this birth: not feeling ready to let go of baby #1, feeling like I'm losing that baby, and my dd will grow up during birth.
And I have a theory, as it seems a lot of moms on our list are still hanging on to their babes: Jan 25 is the full moon. I bet we'll see a rash of babies that weekend!
post #117 of 207
double post! sorry...
post #118 of 207
Ok, Jan 25th is good for me!!!! I'm in if anyone wants to have a massive collective baby birthing day!!! WAHOO!!

Az - you are DEFINATELY pregnant. Hang in there! You will not be pregnant forever (even if you DID want to!). I know it's hard at the end here, just be good to yourself, enjoy DS and DH, listen to good music, get a pedicure... time will play out the scene just as it is supposed to be. XXXOOOOXXX andy
post #119 of 207
wow andy- can't believe you pecked such a long and good post! "glad" to see you're still around.

I got dh to take me out to lunch, but we left extremely late because he was supposedly waiting for someone. by the time we left I was very hungry and trying my hardest not to be angry/crabby. I take rescue remedy to calm me down when i need it, and it helped some, but the food helped a lot more. Then after lunch we had to rush around doing some errands (I am not a rusher) because he supposedly had someone coming to meet him here- who didn't come of course.... 2 flakes in one day. Don't these people understand he has a pregnant wife?!?!?!?

Anyhow, I came home and watched the Wizard of Oz because I just finished reading this book about the wicked witch of the west (called Wicked) and I couldn't remember the movie at all. SLept through a good portion of it, of course.

to you Az. Your baby will come. You know it!!! and if you're not even 38 weeks, you know your baby could probably use a little more cooking.

mamamaya- your post is a good reminder of how exhausting a newborn (well and a toddler can be). I can't remember all the details since it's been so long, but I remember the intensity of caring for a nb. Still, i'm ready for it!

Part of the reason I'm so anxious for my baby to be born (which i know is so lame) is that I'm needing my moods to even out a little. I know the PP time isn't an even time, but the sooner it's born, the sooner I get over this. My poor ds#1 is just so tired of me- I try and be nice with him, and some days i really pull it off.... others He's been sooooo helpful and i tell him that, but i fear it's not enough. And he really wanted this baby, so he deserves a chance to hold it already!!!

Anyhow, late lunch= not so hungry for dinner and I have 2 kiddos to feed..... I'll have to figure out something easy and filling for them.
post #120 of 207
wow andy- can't believe you pecked such a long and good post! "glad" to see you're still around.

I got dh to take me out to lunch, but we left extremely late because he was supposedly waiting for someone. by the time we left I was very hungry and trying my hardest not to be angry/crabby. I take rescue remedy to calm me down when i need it, and it helped some, but the food helped a lot more. Then after lunch we had to rush around doing some errands (I am not a rusher) because he supposedly had someone coming to meet him here- who didn't come of course.... 2 flakes in one day. Don't these people understand he has a pregnant wife?!?!?!?

Anyhow, I came home and watched the Wizard of Oz because I just finished reading this book about the wicked witch of the west (called Wicked) and I couldn't remember the movie at all. SLept through a good portion of it, of course.

to you Az. Your baby will come. You know it!!! and if you're not even 38 weeks, you know your baby could probably use a little more cooking.

mamamaya- your post is a good reminder of how exhausting a newborn (well and a toddler can be). I can't remember all the details since it's been so long, but I remember the intensity of caring for a nb. Still, i'm ready for it!

Part of the reason I'm so anxious for my baby to be born (which i know is so lame) is that I'm needing my moods to even out a little. I know the PP time isn't an even time, but the sooner it's born, the sooner I get over this. My poor ds#1 is just so tired of me- I try and be nice with him, and some days i really pull it off.... others He's been sooooo helpful and i tell him that, but i fear it's not enough. And he really wanted this baby, so he deserves a chance to hold it already!!!

Anyhow, late lunch= not so hungry for dinner and I have 2 kiddos to feed..... I'll have to figure out something easy and filling for them.
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