Don't get pregnant - Page 5

[imgr8ful]

Originally Posted by foreverinbluejeans

Some people think that it is important for siblings to be close in age to have things in common and good relationships. That is a myth.

is this a myth or just your opinion? my older sister is 3.5 years older than me and my younger is just 14 months - who do i have a better relationship with? the answer is obvious. i hardly know my older sister, we have nothing in common. my younger sister is my best friend, we grew up together.

my babes will be 17 months apart (#2 due in sept 2005) and i couldn't be happier with how nature decided this for us.

[the_lissa]

Originally Posted by imgr8ful

is this a myth or just your opinion? my older sister is 3.5 years older than me and my younger is just 14 months - who do i have a better relationship with? the answer is obvious. i hardly know my older sister, we have nothing in common. my younger sister is my best friend, we grew up together.

my babes will be 17 months apart (#2 due in sept 2005) and i couldn't be happier with how nature decided this for us.

I don't think it is necessarily a myth. It can be a factor, but not the only one. The sibling with whom I am closest is 8 years younger. I polled a lot of friends in this matter when trying to decide on child spacing, and the results were completely varied.

[tryinghardmomma]

Raina, I just can't see how it was wrong for you to encourage your daughter not to pinch you. If it wasn't about nursing at all-- she was just coming up to you and pinching you, would you have allowed it or discouraged it? I hope you wouldn't let her just come up and pinch you!

Reuben was a pincher too, and I quite emphatically discouraged him from pinching me. Any time his latch is sloppy, I talk to him... Hey dude, you're hurting me, do you want to snuggle and read a book or fix your latch? CLW-- does that really mean bearing pain? There are lots of appropriate times to redirect our kids and set limits for them. Well, at least that's our belief at our house.

As for not having another baby... we have left that totally to G-d to decide. We neither TTC nor TTA. We take them as they come. I do admit that I appreciate LAM! My first 3 all weaned early, my first 4 babies came in 5 years. My next 3 nursed and my last 5 years have only seen 2 more babies. Have to admit that LAM is a nice side benefit of nursing.

[mom2threenurslings]

Here's how I look at it:
I practice ecological breastfeeding. I nurse my children "on demand". My cycle has returned at 6 months, 12 months (when tandem nursing) and 10 months (when triandem nursing). So it is NATURAL and NORMAL for me to regain the ability to get pregnant at that time. I got pregnant when my oldest was 9 months old and he nursed until age 5 when he most definitely self-weaned. (He planned it and talked about it for 6 months. He was ready a bit sooner but wanted to wean on his fifth birthday! :LOL) During the time that he nursed, I got pregnant and gave birth to his little brother, they tandem nursed, I got pregnant and gave birth to his little sister and they triandem nursed. Neither pregnancy had any effect on my children.

I know that this doesn't hold true for all mamas and nurslings. I do understand that some nurslings wean during pregnancy because the milk "dries up." If one is truly interested in CLW, then there is the option to supplement with a Lactaid or similar system and continue to breasfeed (as at least one mama on MDC has done!). This allows your child to continue to nurse, even though they are getting supplemented. (For those who think supplementation interferes with CLW...solids during the first year are a supplement to breastfeeding as well )

I'm wondering....where did the OP go?

[musicmaj]

I am jealous of all of you who were able to nurse through your pregnancy. I wanted to do that.
When dd was almost 8 months old I found out I was pregnant. We were able to keep on nursing until she was 10 months, then my milk dried up. I tried all the tricks to increase milk supply and it didn't work. DD refused to nurse and I ended up having to give her formula until she was about 15 months old. (she couldn't tolerate milk until then) She didn't eat a whole lot of solids until she was about a year. I was especially sad since she wasn't even a year old when she weaned.

Ds was nursed until 15 months old, we had to wean suddenly and adbruptly and it still bothers me soooo much. My appendix ruptured and I was so sick that I couldn't even lift my head, let alone nurse. I wasn't able to even take care of my children for 2 months while I healed.

I am now pregnant with #3 and will definitely be doing clw this time around! If I manage to get pregnant again I will try to nurse through it again too.