"third baby syndrome" ? - Page 2

[mitzumama]

Oh my goodness.. Thank you!!!!

Is this a real thing???? I mean, I thought it was only me!! I even went to a therapist because I thought I was just going bonkers. I am pregnant with my third baby and for some reason I am experiencing all the fears you might imagine I'd be having if this were my first. We planned to get pregnant, but then once I was I thought, "Have I made a mistake"? Honestly I am becoming really delighted with the thought of having another baby, but it's taken me months to feel the least bit positive. I worry about labor and delivery, despite having experienced two absolutely awesome deliveries with my older children. I worry about my mental health, "will three put me over the edge!!!??? Will this be the time I get postpartum?" I told my midwife how I was feeling and she said its pretty normal to feel this way when your family is growing and you know good and well how much things change mentally, physically, and emotionally when theres a new person in the house. With a third baby we aren't in a land of fluff and daydreams, we know about late nights and no sleep and orange poop and drool and we know how labor feels and we know about loosing weight after and we know about all the other stresses and strains of motherhood. We also know how wonderful and worth it it all is, well most of us do, and that is what I have to focus on.

[sparklemom]

how neat that you posted. i started this thread, and it was neat to read my original post since it was written before the birth of our third child.
i gave birth to our fourth child 4 1/2 months ago, so it's been busy here!
personally, my transition from 2 to 3 ended up being very smooth. i had a lot of anxious feelings before she was born as is reflected i my post. but everything was really relatively easy with adjusting to three. it really really helped that my other two children were older, even though they were still young at 4 and 5 1/2. transitioning to four has been the slightly tougher ..i didn't get especially nervous during the pregnancy, but wow i can feel how i have had to learn to juggle a lot more since his birth, not surprising since dd3 was only 2 1/2 when he was born. so the transition has been bigger since his birth, but in a very wonderful worthwhile way. it all goes by so fast really, that in a way i almost savor even the hectic moments.
rest assured, your feelings are natural and normal.