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My sister's autopsy results. . .

post #1 of 19
Thread Starter 
We finally got the results of my sister's autopsy (I posted about her sudden passing in October)~ INCONCLUSIVE. No reason whatsoever. No drugs in her system, no physical signs of anything. They ran pretty much every test there is & NOTHING. So frustrating! Her 21st birthday would have been this Sunday. I was really hoping for some closure.

post #2 of 19
Im so sorry Mama. Sending you & your family all of my love.

post #3 of 19
Oh AmiBeth...I am sooooooooooooooooo sorry!
post #4 of 19
I'm sorry.
post #5 of 19
i'm really sorry to hear about both your loss and that they couldn't figure out why it happened.
post #6 of 19
I am at a loss for words. I am so sorry that you did not find out why she passed. God bless you and may you find some peace.
post #7 of 19

I'm so sorry...

the same thing happened to my uncle. Never found out why. IT does make it harder. I pray you find some peace.
post #8 of 19
Thread Starter 
Thank youall for your kind words. Since they found no cause of death herdeath is now being investigated as a police brutality case. It breaks my heart that her 2 1/2 year-old son lost his Mommy & even when he gets older we may never be able to explain to him why. And why did it take them almost 3 months to tell us NOTHING?

post #9 of 19
I am so deeply sorry. ((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))


post #10 of 19
I'm so sorry!

post #11 of 19
(((((((hugs)))))))) to you, and hoping you find closure. So sad.
post #12 of 19
I'm so sorry, Amibeth. Losing a sibling is a horrible experience, isn't it? I lost my brother when he was twenty. Please take the time to be gentle with yourself and ask for help when you need it. {{{{{{{HUGE HUGS}}}}}}}
post #13 of 19
Oh my gosh, what a terrible thing. I am so sorry.
post #14 of 19
Im sorry
post #15 of 19
I'm sorry to hear that the report wasn't able to ease your heart sweet mama. Thinking of you...
post #16 of 19
Thread Starter 
Thank you all. The initial autopsy the week after her death showed her tobe a "perfectly healthy 20-year-old" with no signs of a cause. We had to wait almost 3 months for the toxicology results, etc. I think the fact that her birthday is tomorrow makes it even harder. Before we found out I was pg we had planned to have my mom watch the boys overnight so we could go down to Hayward & go dancing with her for her 21st~ how could any of us have known it would never happen? I am thankful that we were able to see her in July & get our boys together & get a picture of us all together. . . . but my new bean will never have a picture with her aunt. I have 2 brothers & 3 sisters (with the same bio-father as me) and she was the only one I was really close to~ we just had a special connection. . . I have a brother & sister with my same mom & my dad (who adopted me when I was 4) that I am very close to, though. But Lisa was my closest sibling in age & she was the one who searched me out (we met when I was 15 & she was 12)~ we grew close so quickly. Every time we visited her last year we would both cry when we said goodbye~ god works in mysterious ways b/c if Colby had never gotten sick we wouldn't have gone to Stanford & we probably wouldn't have been able to spend so much time together this last year. I keep picking up the phone to call her & thewn remembering. . .last week we had to go to SF for a dr appt for Colby & I called her fiance to see if he & my nephew were home so we could go by & see them. He didn't answer & when the voicemail picked up it was Lisa's voice! It so shocked me to hear my sweet sister's voice again. . .I would have loved hearing it had I been expecting it. . . I miss her so much. Sorry if this is rambly, thanks for reading.

post #17 of 19
So sorry, and lots of 's.
post #18 of 19
How horrible for you.
post #19 of 19
I hope you can find a meaningful way to celebrate her birthday anyway.
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