ok. i just reread http://www.mothering.com/discussions...&highlight=clw
it was a great thread, & i am willing to backtrack & say ok, screw the potential divisiveness of the thing, a subforum is an excellent idea. (but of course i am saying this, not knowing ebf was going to bite the dust! those of us who were bemoaning the need for a name change, are you feeling guilt in retrospect like i am? if i'd known i might've laid off my desire for 'sustained' etc & lived with 'ebf'.)
Originally Posted by mother_sunshine
I don't think it's a big deal that you weaned your child at age 7. I think that's awesome that you continued that long, and even better that you did it without much support. But I wouldn't call it child-led because you ultimately decided when it was time for your child to wean. Child-respectful weaning, yes. But child-led weaning is just that, logically, child-led-weaning. Not sure why it's such an issue here? You did great.
it was albeit sweetly said, but i did think it was still clear that i am not 'in the club'.
is everyone that calls themself clw comfortable with this? if your 7 yr old is still nursing, you can be certain you wouldn't sigh & start a little mother led weaning? but because you are adamant now, not knowing what the future may hold, you can join in.
i do not feel welcome in participating
. *that* is why it's such an issue here.
i did not have a lot of questions to ask in ebf, but i hoped on a few occasions when mothers were frustrated with their *cough* more 'mature' nurslings, that i was able to help them work through a rough spot *without* weaning (i have never really thought much about weaning techniques; with teeny tinies like two and four yr olds, who needs to think of such far off concerns, lol? for that i have no advice.)
all i can think of is firemom's little girl's weaning party. the place to celebrate that belongs with helping new mamas with cracked nipples? (talk about scaring off the newbies!) it seemed to belong in ebf... but along with my posts, is excluded from this replacement forum.
sigh. i really, really do have things to share- my feelings when the dentist is shocked at nightnursing, weirdness about ebf my four yr old in front of relatives, telling him to wait- things that we have in common, all of us that ebf. i even love clw as a philosophy; i just feel excluding women who might, one day,choose to gently wean their 7 yr olds (and acknowledge that fact) is very... limiting.
btw, am i the only one who thinks it is weird that the two seperate issues of a) name change, & b) clw subforum, have been combined? there was not a pro-clw'r in the joint that advocated *killing* ebf. they just wanted their own forum (as i said before, i now agree- coolness.) was there some confusion?
(btw, there was no sarcasm in my last post, trust me.)
i hope it all gets straightened out to *everyone's* satisfaction, ciao, suse