Confessions of a cloth diaper husband - Page 3

[Greaseball]

Ok, there are a few seriously afflicted hyenas around here who change diapers just for fun, but the vast majority of us do not.

I do! I sometimes wish she would hurry up and pee so I can put on the next cute diaper. :LOL

All the problems the OP described are ones I've had with sposies, too. They leak, they smell (especially pampers!) and they make babies' butts big because people don't change them until they swell up so the babe walks like they have a bowling ball between their legs. Only in sposies have I dealt with poop literally smeared all over the baby's neck!

And yes, I have spent hundreds of dollars on diapers only to find I wanted something completely different, so I just sold them. I've also spent hundreds on sposies only to find I wanted to use cloth instead, and there was no way to get back any of that money.

Thanks for telling me the awful truth about what my dh thinks! And to imagine he was lying the whole time. I was also informed by another enlightened husband that my husband secretly thinks my vagina is loose and baggy because I did not have an elective c-section - but of course he is just lying and pretending to think everything is still where it is. :LOL We love to hear what men think of us!

[edamommy]

My DH LOVES our kushie aio's. He rags on ME for occasionally using 'sposies when we go out! They NEVER NEVER leak! Yet, we've had a few catastrophe's w/ 'sposie dipes and poop explosions leaking out the leg hole?! Plus, our 22 month old only weighs 23lbs- so the extra "junk in the trunk" helps his pants to STAY UP! LOL!

Sounds like you are not using the right kind of dipe!

[imp&pixie]

My DH probably feels the same way Kristina's does except for the leak & smell part. He takes little interest in dds dipes. He has only changed one so far. But, he doesn't bug me about my choice and lets me indulge my hobby.

We have no smell with cloth. DDs poop & pee doesn't smell yet since she is exclusively breastfed. We have wayyyyyyy less leaks than we ever had with sposies (DS was a sposie baby and I think I had to change his bedding and all his clothes almost every day for the first year because of wet leaks.) I don't think he has ever had a wet lap from DD (I have, but that's to be expected when I don't put a cover on over her dipe.)

When I was using disposibles I didn't think twice about throwing them away or the mountains of garbage we were creating, but now it really bugs me. To me cloth is so much simpler because it is reusable. I love the feeling of ownership I have and, yes, the emotional connection I have to much of my stash. It's sort of like having a favorite pair of jeans or a favorite sweater that you can't wait to have out of the wash because you feel so good in them.

[lifetapestry]

I agree with Holli in the sense that his posting was a bit obnoxious when he claimed to speak for "all husbands" and, anticipating protest to that, insisted that he knew our husbands better than we do.

My son is PT/PL'd now, and I do know how my DH feels about CDing much better than the OP. The fact that my DH and the OP are both dads who cloth diaper doesn't give them any more similarities than me and the CDing moms on this board-- many of whom I disagree with or have a different experience from (on a regular basis).

My DH thinks:

1. Cloth diapers are like "designer" clothing, while disposable diapers are mass produced crap sold at substandard discount stores.

2. Cloth diapers are more comfortable for babe-- if we went out of town on a short trip (e.g. 3-5 days), I have usually taken disposables, because I don't want to haul all those dirty diapers around. DH would say, "does he have to wear disposables THE WHOLE TIME?" and then complain about how sweaty DS seemed to be or the like.

3. Cloth diapers are better for babe. His son's long term health may be positively impacted by using them (especially, as one study from Britain suggests, his meat and two veg won't roast for the first 3 years of his life, sharping decreasing his fertility).

4. Cloth diapers are better for the environment. Disposable diaper snakes are nasty trash items.

5. Cloth diapers are worth whatever cost I tell him that they are.

Finally, I don't have any problem with DH's or anybody else coming onto this board and saying that they hate CD's or venting about them or anything like that. It is irritating for that person to claim a universal experience with cloth diapering, and I think that's what most people who have subsequently posted have "taken it hard." When someone doesn't leave any room for differing opinions, I think a "hard" response is definately earned.

Karla

[Sustainer]

I think it's unreasonable to expect us not to defend cloth on this thread. I have no problem with someone venting about their problems with cloth, but I do think that certain statements were unnecessary, such as telling us that *ALL* of our husbands/partners feel the same way he does (as others have mentioned), and telling us that we *ALL* use cloth solely for the environment. That said, I do appreciate the way he made it very clear that it was he who was posting, not Kristina, as well as the fact that he supports her choice even though he disagrees with it.

Kristina, what kind of covers do you use? Have you tried wool?

[Sustainer]

Originally Posted by 2much2luv

Of course they are more convenient (to some people), work better (for some people), smell better (to some people), look better and fit better (for some people)...that's why like 97% if americans use them.

I meant to respond to this as well. I have to disagree that the reason 97% of Americans use sposies is that they are more convenient/work better/smell better/look better/fit better for those people. I think the reason most people use sposies is:

1) they think cloth is still limited to prefolds, pins, and plastic pants

2) they've been exposed to other myths about cloth diapering

3) they aren't aware of the health risks of sposies

4) sposies are marketed very effectively

5) they're just going along with what other people do, without giving it much thought

6) other similar reasons


I think if most people tried cloth, they would find that it's just as convenient, works better, smells better, looks better, and fits at least as well.

[Kristina]

Originally Posted by Sustainer

Kristina, what kind of covers do you use? Have you tried wool?

nak
ds soaks wool, we use bummis for him. but i love, love, love my wool on dd.

due to this thead i have been trying to figure out what might help our super soaker not to leak. i can't afford more dipes right now. but i have been wondering how using reg. pf's with a doubler would work. although, i am going to try pl'ing next month so hopefully that will end our dipering issues.
:LOL

[MamaTT]

to Sustainer. So much of what people do is because of the perceptions created by marketing in the media. We are, like it or not, (and I don't) a nation of consumers, and oftentimes ones who are not very skeptical of what it put in front of us to consume.

[MamaTT]

HEY KRISTINA! (yeah, I am shouting, but I want you not to have to deal w/ leaks anymore) You must try the motherease covers. They may not be cute or whatever (though I kinda like the new prints) but they are bulletproof.

Bummis really sucked for us. I mean really.

Also, I have found there is a huge range of reliability with wool. I love my fuz easy covers but they do not hold up to heavily wet dipes. My BBH cover on the other hand, doesn't even feel damp even with a saturated dipe underneath.

HTH!

[bluey]

Originally Posted by Kristina

Kristina here: (not dh)
ETA: My dh is saying this in a lighthearted manner. I am surprised so many of you are taking this so hard.

I think it might be because he made it sound like he *knew* what other's dh/dp's are thinking. As it happens, my dh thinks disposable diapers should be illegal. His words not mine. We have yet to have a leak in cloth, though we did in disposables. He is also the first to advocate cloth and it has little to do with what I do, he was an cd advocate even before I started my little biz. Now he is even more bossy about cloth if you can imagine

[BrownSugaMama]

LOL I actually liked what he had to say - well to speak for all husbands is silly but I've heard my husband say some of those things - about the leaks (which isn't often) and them being unsanitary. This really made me LOL Thanks

[Siennaflower]

The only time dh hates dd's diapers is when I ask him to change her in the middle of the Playoffs :LOL

Seriously though, we changed to cloth from sposies because of the issues you listed, stink and leaks. I often wonder what the heck I was thinking before I swtiched. And for the record, my dh purposely puts dd in fitteds and covers because he thinks her lil JLo booty is cute!

[thismama]

What an offensive thing to post. I don't think mamas were too harsh... I think many of us would not have been as nice if it had been a woman who posted what the OP did.

[proud mama of 2]

Originally Posted by Sustainer

I think the reason most people use sposies is:

1) they think cloth is still limited to prefolds, pins, and plastic pants

2) they've been exposed to other myths about cloth diapering

3) they aren't aware of the health risks of sposies

4) sposies are marketed very effectively

5) they're just going along with what other people do, without giving it much thought

6) other similar reasons


I think if most people tried cloth, they would find that it's just as convenient, works better, smells better, looks better, and fits at least as well.

I want to second this, as a newbie to CD's, I was under this impression. I now LOVE CD's. Although I have only tried fuzzi bunz and kushies AIO, I know I will definately use them if I have more babies. And I hope to try different kinds !!!

TRACY

[Kristina]

Originally Posted by Kristina

Second I thought I tell you how YOUR husband feels but won’t share.

Yea, this is not a fair statement. I agree with that and I appologize to anyone that was offended by it. But I thought most of what he said was funny. Ds soaked threw his dipe again all over his pj's this morning, and he woke up dry. So after breakfast he peed right threw with one shot. That is what did it for dh. But I am going to stand by my man as far as the leak things go. I HATE those leaks. Like I said before, ds is a super-duper-soaker.

[apcanadianmamma]

I'm not insulted by the Dh's comments...but I'm pretty sure not all DH's share his belief (said as my DH is currently downstairs sewing up VB diapers for the kiddies :LOL )

[shibababy]

Originally Posted by SEEPAE

:
another reason Im glad Im single

me three!

[WickidaWitch]

Originally Posted by Kristina

and trust me, most of your husbands feel this way, or they just don't change diapers unless they have to.

In this house my money pays for the cloth, his money for the sposies
So I think my husband loves the savings of not having to buy disposables
(1 bag in 10 months).
Sposies or not I would be doing all the changing anyway.
The only time he ever got pissy (pun intended) about her cloth is when she was wearing a fitted with no cover. He didnt know this and felt the pee on his arm when he picked her up.

Thanks for the laugh!

[Frogmorest]

And as mine JUST finished changing a poopy diaper and is in the bathroom swishing and dunking as we speak

[Piffle]

Have you tried wool doublers? I bet that will do the trick for your super soaker. Baby softwraps also worked awesome for us when DS was smaller and was a super heavy wetter!

My son is pt and I miss his cloth diaper butt!