Originally Posted by mama ganoush
no. absolutely not. But, and you need to know that my sister and i are close-and we both are very aware of each other's faults-had she not recently married this man who insisted that her dc was behaving so poorly due to a lack of sleep and some simple boundaries, she still would be saying things like "well, when he wants to go to bed he will." while at the exact same time her then 2 year old dc would be screaming, crying, hitting people, pulling his mom's hair, throwing things, just literally several hours of non-stop meltdowns. And my gentle and out of love "honey, he is telling you he wants to go to bed in the best way he knows how and you are ignoring that" fell on deaf, i don't want to dampen his spirits ears.
I'm glad you don't equate her to a lazy and neglectful mother in the process of discussing her situation. Had that not been done in this thread, I'd have skimmed right on over it.