Need suggestions...doc orders sex but dh says no

[letabug]

: Well my BP was up again today but doc and me both don't want to induce unless it gets worse but he does want baby come as soon as he can so he told me to tell DH that it was his turn to help...but the problem DH is totally freaked out and won't um you know with me b/c he is petrified of hitting baby he has read and heard several things that say it is ok and even helpful in getting the labor thing started but he said he won't. So I have dr's orders to get the ball rolling but can't so what can I do to maybe get my labor started that doesn't include sex.

Any suggestions would be great!! :

[milk_maker]

Okay, I'm throwing caution to the wind and hope this isn't a little TMI. I read somewhere that it's the orgasm that stimulates the uterus, perhaps masturbation? I know sperm also stimulates the uterus so if your DH can't get into having sex, perhaps you guys can do a mutual masturbation and then have him put it in when he comes.

I can't believe I just typed that out. blush blush blush

Anyways, that way you have an orgasm and get the sperm on your uterus, but he doesn't have to have "sex" with you...just a brief penetration. Or just go it alone if he won't do it.

[Persephone]

Nipple stimulation helps too. And I've heard, but can't verify.... it also works if you swallow... though some people are bothered by that.

[the_lissa]

Other people had good suggestions. My mw told my husband that I got to pick whatever kind of sex I wanted- mw's orders. So what about non penetrative sex? I've also heard semen works good orally too.

[letabug]

this is embarrassing I cried b/c I was embarrassed and mad but thanks!!!

[Mama2Chloe]

The night I went into labor with Chloe, DH and I had had a horrible arguement because he wouldn't have sex with me. We went to bed without talking and then my contractions started at midnight. This PG, however, he is a lot more into having sex.

Yeah, I would try nipple stimulation and masterbation if DH wasn't going to help out. I didn't do that because I was too mad at DH and then obviously ran out of time.

hope your DH comes around to helping out and following the Dr's orders. Take care!

Love, Tricia

[Boobs]

I have found in the past few days that just getting aroused makes me start contracting. Probably not enough to start labor, I don't know. If I were you I'd tell dh it's his loss and have a romantic evening with yourself! See how many times you can make yourself finish! Just think of what a great mood you'll be in later, too! hehe

[heveasoul]

Soooo...I heard it was the proglandins in the semen that encourages labour...but if orgasm on its own works, too...good to know... Have fun, letabug!

Good idea, Monica, but if dh is freaked out, he may not even get into creative solutions. I don't think it's TMI, or a blushable topic, btw - you should have seen the envelopes we'd push over in ttc!

[Lisashepp]

Red Raspberry Leaf Tea & Evening primrose oil orally.

A LOT OF MASTURBATION-- buy some sex toys if you don't already have them I wouldn't do anything more then this though, if you need to do more then it means baby isn't ready to come.

[milk_maker]

Originally Posted by heveasoul

Good idea, Monica, but if dh is freaked out, he may not even get into creative solutions. I don't think it's TMI, or a blushable topic, btw - you should have seen the envelopes we'd push over in ttc!

Yeah, I hear you on the DH being freaked. I finally found out my DH's "root" though so I don't feel so bad about myself. I guess his friend had a pregnant porn mag and showed it to him when he was a very young teen. So now poor DH can't help but think of Pregnant Poppers whenever we try to get intimate. It's insanely annoying, but I can understand a mental block...I have them for certain things too.

[wtchyhlr]

I agree w/Heve... while TTC there is no such thing as TMI, therefore for pregnant ladies, there's DEFINATELY no such thing as TMI.

Hey Lisa - i thought EPO was to be inserted vaginally. Any how much do yuo take orally. i've got some i'm contemplating taking.

[Lisashepp]

Originally Posted by wtchyhlr

Hey Lisa - i thought EPO was to be inserted vaginally. Any how much do yuo take orally. i've got some i'm contemplating taking.

You can take EPO through your whole pregnancy, it will not cause you to go into labor, it will just soften & ripen your cervix EPO does not work when inserted vaginally it needs to be processed by the body to turn it into prostaglandins, so it needs to be taken orally. Semen does not work orally, it is already loaded with prostaglandins & will only work when applied to the cervix directly.

RRLT will help tone the uterus.

Orgasm will tone the uterus & may even help dialate the cervix (depending on how ready the body & baby are).

[kater07]

The proteins in semen actually act to help ripen the cervix. Tell your DH to suck it up and start doing his job. It's the doctor's orders, and you need it! If you aren't already contracting, then orgasm will probably only do as much as cause a BH or maybe a few.

You can take Evening Primrose Oil capsules or pin prick them and put them up there (at least that's what my MW told me on Wednesday). It works the same as semen, but isn't quite as fun.

I am actually baffled that your DH thinks his thing is sooooo long that it's gonna bop the baby. That's what the Amniotic sack is there for, to protect the baby as it decends into the pelvis. Sorry, it just peeves me that he's so scared of his own feelings that he can't see how important this is for you.

Hugs, hope things get rolling soon.

[Quindin]

After needing to be induced last time (I reached 43 weeks) I am determined not to wait until I past the due date to start working on getting labor going.

In my case though, DH is the one looking forward helping get labor started - He has been saying: "There is no way out - you MUST do as your midwife says" :LOL
As to me, I am just so big and in so much pain and discomfort that "being romantic" is the last thing I have in my mind right now... I guess I must get over that soon :LOL