Originally Posted by Pynki
You can practise Natural Family LIving with out being AP........... The two ideals often times over lap, but AREN'T necessarily synonimous..
For me, CIO is a deal breaker in AP, even if you cloth diaper and are vegan and never bought a "baby bucket". I firmly believe you cannot be AP and CIO, period.
I'm not talking about letting your older child cry because they want to stay up later or they want another cookie before bed. If it's 9 c'clock on a Saturday and my 7yo wants to stay up until 9:30 and I leave the room while he screams in his bed, that is not CIO, that's ignoring him while he throws a tantrum.
I'm also not talking about putting a screaming baby down for a moment to recenter yourself. If your 4 month old has been crying for an hour and you need to put her in the crib for a minute or two while you go in the hall and take a couple deep breaths, that is not CIO. Shaken Baby Syndrome is not AP either.
CIO is where you make a conscious decision that, at 8:30, the baby's getting a clean diaper and then going to the crib until he falls asleep and you sit in the living room while he cries. The difference for me is the ability for your child to understand. If you can tell your child "sweetie, it's time to go to sleep now. You've had water and a story and now I'm going to leave the room so you can go to sleep, but I'll be right in the other room and I'll leave the door open...." at that point, cries from the room can be manipulative. Your child knows you haven't abandoned her and understands what "bed time" means.
My 4mo doesn't understand "bedtime" or "I'm right in the other room" - if I don't respond to his cries, he thinks I've abandoned him and he gets scared. If I inflict that feeling on him on purpose for my own convenience, that's not AP. It's the opposite of AP, in my opinion.