Originally Posted by jessitron
Az, are you going back to work after the baby comes? Or is the lack of pay just for part of FMLA? Tell DH that being present at his child's birth is worth way more than a few nights' pay at plowing. He'll regret it his whole life if he misses it, and so will you.
I'll be going back to work after the baby is born but I'm hoping on September when ds goes back to school also. I get 6 wks paid maternity. It used to be 3 mths full pay 3 mths 1/2 pay, so finding out I only get 6 wks blows. At least I can have up to 1 year, its just unpaid, unless I get disabled
then I would get what little bit disabilty pays for the time that they pay it.
DH plans on being at the birth he and his cousin's husband both have cell phones when they go out plowing. So he keeps saying he be there, however, I think he'll be useless. As was already proved a couple of weeks ago when I thought I was in labor. He kept nodding off at home and I oculd tell he was very tired at the bc which of course pissed me off. I keep trying to explain to him that he needs to be here, physicall, mentally, and emotionally.
I really think with him it is fear of the unknown. He's never really known life with a newborn. All of his younger brothers and sisters were adopted and they didn't come until anywhere from 6 mths to 3 yrs old. The one bio-sister that he can really remember being a baby was a preemie and didn't come home from hospital until she was a few mths old. DH had been really supportive and we were always talking until a couple of weeks ago when we tought it was "the night" So I really think he's overwhelmed.
|Az - sounds like you are doing better today, dhs can be such dickheads instead of dear husbands sometimes
Lisa thats so funny becuase when we got the flyier about the ergo there's quotes from people raving about it and one woman talks about her "DH", well when my dh was reading it he asked "whats dh, dickhead?"
Oh Lisa I hope you like the visiting nurse. I had one come a few times after ds was born and I loved her. I think everyone who wants one should get one. I wish she could have come more.
Nicole, my MIL has expressed no interest at being at the birth. Thank goodness. She and I, well its not the best relationship though things are getting better. My mother however was at the birth of ds and nephew #1, she wanted to be at the birth of nephew #2, but never asked and my sister would have said no anyways. She wants to be present for this baby's birth. But she is just so unrelible. DH and I had talked about her being there but desided against asking her becuase of this. Part of me still wants her there but part of me thinks not inviting her was the best choice.
Andy I'm sorry about your wool. Have you tried giving dh laundry lessons? I had to do that, now he has everything sorted out. He's more likely to wash something on gental & lowheat that doesn't need it than put something in for a reg wash that needs gental. Then again dh is way more domestic than I am.
Delfina, I'm sorry to hear things turned out so badly with the il's about the reunion. Its great that dh supported you though. Hopefully things will calm down, and if not they are the ones losing out.