FlyLady saved my marriage :LOL
DH was really really sick of our apartment being a total disaster. And it was BAD, and it was MY mess, and I freely admit this.
My problem was, I had no CLUE where to start. My mom always ushered us to our rooms or outside, to play, while she cleaned. So, I had no idea what she did. I only knew that our house was ALWAYS clean. (Her house is STILL ALWAYS clean :LOL)
Then, she'd tell me to clean my room. Uh, okay...how? :LOL
Anyway, DH and I fought constantly about the house. At the time, I wasn't working, and we had no kids, unless you count the cat. I literally spent ALL DAY in front of the TV. In the meantime, DH was out working his tail off, first at his regular full time job, and then at his own electrical contracting business that he was trying to get off the ground.
He thought I was lazy. I thought I was lazy. Now, I know the truth is I just didn't know where to start.
So, when I stumbled upon FlyLady one day, I said, "hmmm...I can shine my sink. Sure."
I went to the kitchen, did the dishes that had been collecting there since the Reagan administration and put them away. Then I followed each of her steps for shining up my sink. And I was so proud of my sink.
It seemed that the shiny-ness spread around my entire kitchen of it's own accord. Next thing I knew, wow, the bathroom was clean too, and the living room, and HOLY CRAP! MY BED IS MADE! WHEN DID THAT HAPPEN!
I was doing routines, I was doing a five minute room rescue in my office every day, and I found myself unable to settle down for bed if something was out of place. It would nag at me if a dish was in the sink, for example. :LOL
Yes, I burned out, and just recently got back on the FlyLady wagon.
Now, I'm even more excited about it, because I'm FLYing in my OWN house, instead of an apartment.
My tips? I do NOT get the emails. I just check the site everyday for Kelly's missions, which I love to do. I know what zone we're in, I know the basic FLYplan for each room, so I really don't need the extra emails. Besides, if anything is going on that's "special", it's always on the homepage, so I dn't think I"m missing a darn thing by not getting ALL those freaking emails LOL
My other tip is to get your spouse and children as involved as possible. My DH works his tail off (not that I don't, please don't misunderstand me), so I certainly don't want him to feel that he needs to come home and clean something after dragging wires through someone's 115 degree attic all day :LOL
He does, however, have his own daily and weekly routines. Mostly the daily stuff involves leaving things the way he found them (ie don't leave the toothpaste on the sink :LOL) But, his weekly stuff is a bit more labor intensive :LOL Mowing the yard and such.
It makes such a HUGE difference in how much time you spend actually cleaning, doesn't it? Before I starting FLYing, I'd reserve an entire weekend to clean. I'd crisis clean when someone was coming over.
Now I spend so little time CLEANING, because it's all KEPT up with! I have time to read books! Time to take my dog for long walks! Time for BUBBLE BATHS!!!
And what's really great, is that I'll have tons of time for my baby in a few months.
And I'll never shoo my kids out of the house so I can clean. They can HELP!!!