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post #101 of 126
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Originally Posted by Blessed81902
That worked! Thanks!

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Originally Posted by journeymom
But I did keep one testimonial, "The Myth of the Happy Messy Home". It pretty much hit the nail on the head for me. I wish I could cut and paste the whole thing here for everybody to read! And I don't know how to make a link to it, it's in my own private email. Ah well.
Can you PM me that testimonial? That sounds like one I'd like to read.
post #102 of 126
New email from the lady who invented CLeanHome. I'm only pasting part of it because I don't think I'm allowed to past the whole thing. Although she did say to pass it on:

"CleanHome, the program has birthed a new program, it's
called ADDing Routine.

As you may have guessed by the play on the caps in the name of the
program, it is geared towards people with ADD/ADHD, since I have
recently been diagnoased with it myself.

I have been tweaking the CleanHome Program for myself and I have found
some changes really worked for me, so I created a new program and
reminder email list that anyone wishing to check it out can take a
look. ADDing Routine will work for anyone and is great for anyone ADD
or not, who doesn't like staying in one room for a whole week to
declutter."

Here's the new, easy-to-read website (because several ppl, including myself, found the first site to be too complicated): http://www.addingroutine.savedme.com/

HTH!
post #103 of 126
I'll second the recommendation of the www.organizedhome.com website. A woman on a list I'm on suggested it when I told her FlyLady irked me.

I've found that keeping the clutter down has really, really helped. I now appear to be the wonder of my friends since I have so little stuff!
post #104 of 126
I did ok for a while and then quit and then came back and I couldn't even figure it out. all of a sudden it was complicated. comand journal and highly structured days. and mounds and mounds of e-mail holy crap. but the command journal alone. I didn't have enough ink in my cartridge.

I still shine my sink though
post #105 of 126
Journeymom.could you email me the "Myth of the Happy Messy Home"
at mikesa3@aol.com
Thanks
nancy
post #106 of 126
YAY! I AM NOT ALONE!

I couldn't stand all those emails! Also, since I work full time outside of home, I would have had to invent hours in the day in order to keep up.
post #107 of 126
Hello,

I am new here, but I just had to respond too by saying that I am a flylady reject.

What REALLY disturbed me, and upset me, was the testimonial from someone whose relative died, and she had to very quickly drive to another town, to organise the funeral and what-not.

In the midst of the death (of her husband or son or someone), one of her major concerns was remembering to pay the bills on time. But all was saved as she had the "Office in a Bag", with the all the bills due the next month, stamps, cheque book and envelopes, so she was able in to schedule in, amongst her grief, paying the bills.

I sent FlyLady an email suggesting members pay their bills over the internet, or through Direct Debit, so you basically can "forget" about physically paying a bill, and she responded!

Her response was along of the lines of "our members don't trust banks" so prefer to have to 1) remember to pay the bill and 2) PAY (through postage) for the privelege of paying a bill!

I was really saddened and sickened by this - obviously is it no money to HER if we use modern conveniences, instead of paying out money for the timer, the dusters, the CJ, and the Office in a Bag.

She lost me pretty much straight after that....

Ingrid
post #108 of 126
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Originally Posted by jacksmum
I sent FlyLady an email suggesting members pay their bills over the internet, or through Direct Debit, so you basically can "forget" about physically paying a bill, and she responded!

Her response was along of the lines of "our members don't trust banks" so prefer to have to 1) remember to pay the bill and 2) PAY (through postage) for the privelege of paying a bill!
What the...? That makes no sense to me, either. One of the things that saved me as far as paying the bills is because I can do so over the internet. The payment posts almost immediately. Also, since we move so much, I don't have to worry about missing a bill due to address changes.

Is it me or is anyone else just getting MORE turned off by Flylady, the more they find out why so many people DON'T follow her?
post #109 of 126
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Originally Posted by Starflower
I like some of her ideas, but I hate the term "flybaby" .
as a friend of mine said, another word for 'flybaby' is 'maggot'.

susan
post #110 of 126
I did alreight with flylady for a while before ds was born, but I hated the shoes, get dressed bunk and the 5 million emails. she seemed too fake to me in the end, but I will admitt, I stupidly bought her dusters and timers, now they just sit gathering dust along with everything else lol
post #111 of 126
I was completely bugged by the emails and the info just kept repeating itself again and again and again. She wanted you to feel like you weren't behind, but how can you help feeling that way when there is no way possible you can keep up with everything she wanted you to do?

I mostly joined because I was interested in finding out easy ways to declutter. There was no new info from her, though, it was all the old tips.

The real thing about decluttering is learning to "let go". I found that I needed to declutter an area, then go back about 2 weeks later and do it again. There was stuff that I kept the first time that the second time I could "let go" of. It was just a process of letting go for me. My house is now clutter-free, with the exception of an "eBay" room. Everything in there is slated to go, but it needs to be sold instead of being given away.
post #112 of 126
So funny!!!! I feel the same although thank you flylady for giving me the cleanest sink in New England! I am obsessed with keeping a shiny sink now!
post #113 of 126
No shoes and no shiny sinks here!!! What is up with that? I have an adverse reaction to drying out my sink so it will shine...I took care of a family like that...they also have WHITE carpet...can't even go that route....drying out the sink gives me the willies!!!
post #114 of 126
Me me IT's too much for me... Of course I just get overwhelmed with anything that is too much. Too much clutter or mess just stays that way because I can't figure out where to start. Too many emails, don't know where to start. And we don't wear shoes inside!
post #115 of 126
It was way too structured for me and the emails became overwhelming very quickly. It just didn't seem compatible with being an AP mama to a toddler. I'm going to check out some of the other sites posters have listed here - hopefully I'll find something that "fits"!
ETA: Also, as much as I love the idea of giving away all of the cluttery stuff that we have - some of it was expensive and we simply can't afford to just give it away. So we will be having a garage sale instead. Having adopted a simple living philosophy, I have really stopped my tendency toward impulse purchases and make a point of only getting what we truly need. It's saved me money and time.
post #116 of 126
Well, I just signed up for Flylady just to see what it's like. I have it set for Daily Digest so that I'll just get one e-mail per day with all of them compiled as one. That I can deal with because I can just scan through to see the suggestions for working on "hot zones", etc.

however, I'm sitting at 1:46 pm still in my PJs wearing my slippers and I don't wear shoes at home. I also refuse to use bleach so my sink may be shiny (I just scrubbed it) but with Bon Ami only.

I think I'll be in this thread more but I'll try her stuff out a little bit before giving up and see what I can get out of it.
post #117 of 126
I emailed her once and she sent it out to everyone-It was something like 'Now that I'm all caught up with my laundry, what do I do with an empty washer? I've never had an empty washer...do I close the lid, should I be concerned about mold??" I was trying to be funny, but two people from there emailed me to let me know that they have never had any problem with keeping the lids closed on their washer.

I picked up a few habits that I can thank her for, I fill my dishwasher rather than shine my sink, and I've let go of a lot of junk. I think if the reminder emails were cut down to maybe a third (I don't mind a reminder for a hot spot, but to find my shoes or go to bed??), and stop the daily ramblings, I might have stuck to it. I did feel kind of like it was just one big ad campaign for her duster.
post #118 of 126
I can understand why some people are bothered by the FL but I like her. I got the book and no e mail and it seems like a workable soulution for me.
post #119 of 126
Flylady makes me feel like a failure. I try to do my morning routines, but when I have a toddler following me around undoing everything and I am 8 months pregnant I feel so defeated if my bed doesn't get made or the dishes don't get done. And dammit, I feel like whining!

This is probably my issue, but when I try to get through a simple morning or evening routine and it takes me hours to complete because of constant interruptions I just want to curse Flylady!

And what are you supposed to do when you have a SO who is extremely messy? I get the impression you are just supposed to smile like June Cleaver. I can polish the sink all I want only to have DH come along after working on the car and splatter grease everywhere : .

I have a yellow lab that is destruction on four paws also. My Toddler is probably the neatest person in the house besides myself if that tells you anything!

oooooooh, I am cranky tonight .
post #120 of 126
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Originally Posted by zipworth
I feel so defeated if my bed doesn't get made or the dishes don't get done. And dammit, I feel like whining!
Nat, my grandmother used to always fold the beds down to air once or twice a week. I do it everyday, because folding the quilt down is so much easier than making the bed, and I can call it "airing the bed" and pat myself on the back, rather than feeling like a failure because the bed isn't made!

I gave up on receiving flylady e-mails ages ago, but I do still try to make sure the sink is empty when I go to bed. That's about it. Everything else can look like a dump, but if the sink is empty when I first see it in the morning, then it's like an illusion that fools me into thinking I'm doing okay on the housekeeping front!

Alison
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