Do I have less of a chance???

[papaya rain]

With the upcoming flufflymail stocking, do I have less of a chance of getting something simple because I don't know anyone to try to help me get some diapers? This is something that I have been thinking about. I participate on the diapering board but am not nearly involved as some, so when I see threads about people helping each other get something makes me think that I don't have a chance Takes me back to gym class when all the popular kids got picked first. Just something I have been thinking about....

[Sugarwoman]

I don't think so. I have collected all of my FCBs (a small amount) by myself. You can do it!

[Sustainer]

I feel like I don't have a chance because my computer's so slow. Also, I don't know if I have the patience to sit at a computer for 48 hrs straight hitting refresh...refresh...refresh...refresh...refresh... knowing that in the time it takes my computer to refresh the screen, all of the diapers will sell out!

[jessicaSAR]

I completely sympathize with your feelings on this. I was never good at the popularity contest stuff. Heck, I have almost 800 posts and still feel like no one knows me. I think the chummy clique thing is more prevalent on diapering than on other forums. Maybe its just the level of traffic here.

I think it is true that you have less of a chance. There will be people shopping for others. And, it is hard to beg for help when you don't feel as chummy. I think everything will be gone in a matter of seconds, and people will probably buy as much as they can get their hands. It won't be pretty, lots of people will be unhappy, and that's why I am staying away. I would love to try an aio, but I don't like what these things bring out in us.

[binxsmom]

don't feel bad. i don't have a date for the fluffymail stocking either. i'll be going stag. if i go at all.

honestly, i do feel that lots of mamas will be working together on this. and it is a popularity contest of sorts, imo. and, like gym class, it sucks.

[kindmomma]

Not only does it suck to the mommas that just want to try one, but it also sucks for the WAHM. It all gets very confusing and quite a bit of work when "I bought this for so-n-so" or "she will be paying you"
That is very confusing......VERY

[gottaknit]

IRL, no one knows or cares what's on my baby's butt anyway. It's only on MDC that it makes any sense.... So I plan to brag that I got everything I wanted and more and I'm not sharing! Even if I don't get anything. :LOL

They're just diapers. Perspective. And I'm going stag, too.

[SEEPAE]

well they just sent an announcement saying you cant do that anymore... get something for so-n-so... it all has to be shipped to the same addess and that address has to be the one on the invoice... so unless everyone gives out their username and password then I dont think there will be as much of it.

[jessicaSAR]

Originally Posted by kindmomma

Not only does it suck to the mommas that just want to try one, but it also sucks for the WAHM. It all gets very confusing and quite a bit of work when "I bought this for so-n-so" or "she will be paying you"
That is very confusing......VERY

I agree. Wisely, the fm mommas have said they won't do it. So people will just have to mail stuff twice.

[sli124]

Originally Posted by binxsmom

don't feel bad. i don't have a date for the fluffymail stocking either. i'll be going stag. if i go at all.

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[mamaroni]

I sympathize with you on the popularity contest thing, and I felt that way quite a bit when I first started coming to diapering about a year ago, and now that I've been around a while, I don't feel that way so much.

I've NEVER once been successful at a stocking! And while I do have a partner this time, we are both seeking the same things, so who knows.

good luck

I love your username too!

[kindmomma]

Back in the day I won the title of "most diapers bought in one stocking" I bet I have been beat by now but I wore that badge proud :LOL

[jessicaSAR]

What really bugs me more than the helping each other part are the public comments people make about how they would never try for something because they know so and so wants it for their baby for such and such a reason. It always just feels like they are saying "I won't compete with my "friends," but screw the rest of you." Lets face it, any time you are participating in one of these hyena stalkings, you are buying stuff that someone else really wants. Why is it ok to beat out some, but not others?

[Logan&Laina]

I think anyone has a chance. I have never had a "helper" at FM stocking, and I usually score.(except the last one ) Just a matter of being there at the exact time they stock!! GL!!

[amysuen]

Good perspective!

In my short time here it seems that a lot of hyenas turn over their stashes rather frequently, so we non-hyenas can stalk the TP for a chance to try the hyena dipes. (What animal gets hyena left-overs? Field mice? Are there any field mice sites out there for us non-hyenas?) :LOL

[Yummymummy74]

Originally Posted by jessicaSAR

What really bugs me more than the helping each other part are the public comments people make about how they would never try for something because they know so and so wants it for their baby for such and such a reason. It always just feels like they are saying "I won't compete with my "friends," but screw the rest of you." Lets face it, any time you are participating in one of these hyena stalkings, you are buying stuff that someone else really wants. Why is it ok to beat out some, but not others?

you know what? this is so true, especially on the heels of the mosaic moon ebay soaker dealio, I mean many many people said they would not bid and "I hope you get it" ect ect without stopping to think.. hey wait a minute, that was another mama who had been bidding on it initially .. sometimes these things just get ugly and there will be unhappy people left in the wake, it sort of reminds me of survival of the fittest.

I sometimes even wonder if its ethical or wise to stalk for other people... I dunno I suspect I need to think more on that one.

I do think sometimes that diapering can be a little too cliquey and at the end of the day these are just diapers and there are real people and feelings behind all the user names.

[spatulagirl]

Well, I can truthfully say my inbox has been FILLED with people wanting to be my friend and offering me all their pickings from the FCB stocking. FIRST DIBS even! I am so dang popular around here. I can thank my sparkling personality, my ability to spend money, and of course the fact that I have a hottie husband in uniform!

It's a cross I have always had to bear but I do it with a smile on my face. You wouldn't believe the PMS I get, people offering to GIVE me their BBB pants, their Elbee spots, heck even the stuff them self with their own money!



What are you looking for my dear? If I am on when they stock and can grab it for you I will.

Really I don't need anything (cuz you know everyone give stuff to me anyway!) so if you want a friend I can be yours

[spatulagirl]

:LOL

I can take you laughing at me because I am popular and have many friends. Yes I do. Yup. That's me. With the friends. All this talk about what people want to score at FluffyMail? Really presents for me.

PMS and all!

[JohnnysGirl]

Originally Posted by jessicaSAR

I was never good at the popularity contest stuff. Heck, I have almost 800 posts and still feel like no one knows me.

I know you! Who else will really dig into economic and social theory debates with me? : :LOL: :LOL: :LOL: :LOL: :LOL: :LOL: :LOL

[vkberes]

the sad thing is that this is all over diapers. yes, i love our cloth very much and it is fun but it is just a piece of clothing. i would be happy to try one out and at first i got caught up in the excitement of stalking for one. i have been thinking about it more though and i know my girls could care less about a diaper and rather have a fun and happy mama rather than one sitting at a computer and hitting refresh for 48 hours - not that they or my dh would stand for it! :LOL let's just keep it all in perspective in the big realm of things. i am going to go hide under my chair now ---> : ah, what do i care, i am not part of the diaper divas either so