Erotica is so subjective....
I found that the Sleeping Beauty series did much more to treat my insomnia than to melt my butter, but it may be just me, as I look at the previous posts......
Anthologies (try searching for ones edited by Susie Bright, or the even Herotica series) are a good place to start, because there's bound to be an author in there who is bringing what you're hungry for to the table, you know?
alsoSarah