Hello there

[kathma26]

I am mom to 5 children. Expecting another one in May. My last child was born at home and dh called 911. I waited to long despite a 14 hour labor. The more I read the more I do not want to go back to a hospital. I have a midwife now who makes home visits. I am having trouble gaining weight and seems everyone tells me not to worry, but I do. I also am disbuting my insurance claim if anyone has anything helpful I can add to my letter. I have copied several articles from gentlebirth.org to be included. It would help if they would actually give me a copy of my insurance or say WHY I was denied. It is more difficult because it is Union and I am not in the union so they won't talk to me. I am feeling well except for that lack of gain. I am also worried just because I feel I have been to lucky with the kids I already have. My oldest is multi-handicapped, but undiagnoised. Most of the time I try to stay in denial so I don't think about it and worry more.

Kathy

[Mamabeakley]

Hi, Kathy -

It sounds like you've got a lot going on in your life right now! Take a deep breath, let it out slowly, and know that you are not alone.

Congratulations on your new little-one-to-come. I can imagine having a hard time gaining weight if you are running after 5 older kids! But there are other possible reasons, too - why do YOU think you are having this problem? What small steps do you see that you could take to deal with whatever the issues/causes/problems are that are at the root of it? (Like, for example, if part of the problem is that you never have time to sit down and eat uninterrupted, maybe you could set aside time when your partner is home to prioritize doing that.)

Are you disputing insurance for the birth where you called 911 or for the birth you are anticipating in May? Either way, one thing that I found very helpful when I was trying to get a straight answer out of an insurance company was sending a copy of my written correspondence to the state agency in charge of overseeing health insurance. *I* never did get a straight answer - but they sent one to the state agency, so then I knew what was what.

I hate it when people won't talk to me on the phone about stuff my dh has delegated to me! Maybe if your partner/dh/whoever is responsible for the insurance wrote them a letter giving them permission to talk to you then they would?

I know nothing about living with a multiply-handicapped child - but I do know that there is a Special Needs forum on these boards. Perhaps you would find it helpful to visit them.

Take care.

[kathma26]

The 911 call was suppose to be a hospital birth. I gave up trying to figure out why dh called. He has said on seperate occasions that he was neither worried about me or out dd. Then he started getting offensive when I questioned him so I stopped asking. Of course they did pay for that. Even paid the doctor. I am trying to get them to pay for the midwife I have now.

I am not running around to often. Walking now hurts my pelvis. It is also cold most of the time. I don't seem to be warm like I am use to when pregnant.

Kathy