babysitters wrong?

[byfaith]

Is it wrong to leave your child with a babysitter if youve been blessed to be able to stay at home withthem? Just curous

[L.J.]

I don't believe in "right" and "wrong."

There are some times when it is nice as a mom, to have a break & let someone else watch the kids so I can do something else. We all need a break from time to time.

I guess it really depends on the situation and the person involved.

I also know people who had full-time nannies to watch the kids so they could continue their volunteer work, lunches & spa dates with girlfriends etc.

I guess, it's to each, their own.

[Rainbow]

Well, working moms can be blessed for their position to... staying home isn't the only "lucky" avenue.

There is nothing wrong with babysitter or spending time away from your child- though I have yet to do it, I think it is perfectly healthy thing to do.

[bec]

What do you mean by leaving with a babysitter? Do you mean in like a daycare situation, every day for most of the day? Or for the occassional break for a few hours? Or for an evening out?

I also am very hesitant to use the words right/wrong. And, while I do stay at home with my kids, I think that it does a disservice to working moms to call staying at home a blessing. It's pretty judgemental.


Bec

[hhurd]

No, It's not wrong, whether you SAH or not.

BTW, I'm making the assumption you mean using a babysitter for the occasional time away, not that it would change my answer if you didn't mean that...

[KermitMissesJim]

I SAH and pay for my son to go to preschool 3 afternoons a week.

I also use babysitters as often as possible to nurture the marriage.

I don't see anything wrong with it.

[crunchy_mama]

I think everyone needs a break now and again. I think that leaving your child with strangers is definitely not ideal when they are newborn, but sometimes circumstances dictate that you must. However, you always have to take care of yourself- babies need sane mommies

[TranscendentalMom]

No. I think its normal & human to need a break. Some people feel ok with a few hours to themselves in the evening after they put their kids to sleep...others need more time. I don't think its wrong at all. I don't think kids were meant to be raised by just one person. I think its healthy for them to see that they can have fun with other people. My son calls his babysitter "his friend, Erin."

I think most SAHMs need babysitters MORE than working moms. My working mom friends feel like they want to spend as much of their off work time with the kids as possible as they aren't with them all week. I think SAHMs get more burned out from ALWAYS being with their kids.

[jeca]

I don't think so but it depens on what you mean. I fyou mean full time care while your a sahm then that woudl make me a little iffy. But the occasional break to get out and do things for yourself or thinsg that a child makes it hard to do)like taking all trhee of mine grocery shopping makes me want to pull my hair out) thneI have no problems with it since we use a babysitter or a mom's day out.