There have been times when I've asked ds1 not to do certain things with ds2, but then another adult does it. For instance, ds1 wanted to 'help' ds2 roll over, but he was getting a little too rough, trying to roll him when he wasn't wanting to, etc., so we told him to just let ds2 do it on his own. Ds1 was totally fine with this. Then later my dad comes over, and while playing with ds2, appropriately helps him to roll over when he got a little stuck. Ds1 starts saying "Don't do that, let him do it himself", which is exactly what we told him. And then they both kind of look at me, and I'm not sure what to say. It feels unfair to say that ds1 can't do it but grandpa can, but then again there is nothing wrong with the way grandpa is doing it. But it feels insulting to try to explain to ds1 that the way he does it is wrong but the way grandpa does it is right. I don't want ds1 to feel discouraged from playing with ds2.
Any ideas on how to handle this kind of situation? It seems to keep happening!
Any ideas on how to handle this kind of situation? It seems to keep happening!
