Again, as has been stated over and over (on this thread and many others) its NOT a case of "just say no". They LIE to you. They tell you that your, or your child's life is at risk.
Can any of the "just say no" mamas PLEASE tell me what you would have done in my case? The doctor saying you have pre-eclampsia (and you are only seeing a DOCTOR on top of your midwives because they thought the NST's were a "good idea"), you have to be induced now, you KNOW pre-eclampsia is a REAL dangerous thing, you try to stall to get a chance to get your bearings, ask to go home to pack so you can look up a few things on the net and call your midwives, and the doctor is freaking out on you, "I'm not responsible if you leave, you could start having eclamptic seziures" ect, ect ect. you call your midwives who basically tell you "yeah, sorry, get induced, see ya later" EVEN THOUGH THEY KNOW YOU'VE HAD BLOODY SHOW ie protein that ended up in your urine!
*What* would you have done? Come on, make a rush decision, you could die here if you make the wrong decision! It could get worse this very instant! Make the wrong decision and go into seizures, cut off oxygen to your baby, yourself, you could die! No time to go home and spend a day or three on research. Just remember everything you've ever read about pre-eclampsia while thinking "MY BABY IS GOING TO DIE!!!!!!!!" and then call your midwives, because you TRUST them and they would never EVER just leave you to birth in a hospital if it REALLY TRULY wasn't neccisary, now would they?
: Don't remember in the heat of all of this the fact that you've been having bloody show that could affect the protein levels of your test strip because you're freaked out, think you or your unborn child may die, your Dh is calling you in TEARS begging you not to DIE and he's NEVER cried in his life. Come on come on, can you rush a little? Can you churn your brain faster, faster, faster?? 2 lives are on the line! Quick quick quick now! (can you see how I was feeling? the pacing of the whole thing?)
Because really, the mama who can think more levelheaded that I, that could go beyond calling their midwives whom they really truly trusted in that situation is really amazing. Really. Its WONDERFUL you had the births you wanted and you were able to say no and be heard and that's awesome and validating and you must feel very powerful and in control because of your experiences because of it. I don't want to take ANY of that away from you, but its not cut and dry.