Due Nov/Dec 2002 (part 4) - Page 6

[lilyka]

Hello everyone!

I am still with you and will probably be the last one posting. Come January I will be sitting here replying to myself LOL. I am not sue untill Dec. 25. I had some pretty serious contractions this weekend (as in reconsidering if the epidural is really such a bad thing sorta painful) but the weren't doing anything. Great, painful contractions and they aren't doing anything. Now I just have annoying cramps. It is wierd though, Saturday I was sure I was minutes away from having this baby and the thought of having another preemie terrified me. There is no way I could do that again and come out sane but there is a small part of me who wants this to be over so badly that is a little dissapointed. I feel so selfish. This has been a not so exciting pregnacy though and seven weeks (plus 2 more: ) feels like forever. I am concerned about all the antibiotics I have taken and still have more to go (had strep the week before I concieved, 2 UTI's (3 if this round of antibiotics doesn't work), treated for bacterial vaginosis once and then decided to screw that until the end but now it is becomeing a concern and then perhaps GBS - since I have so much bacteria invading down there why wouldn't I be positive) And now to top it all off I have hemroids. Will this torment ever end!!! Sorry I am having a pity party today.
Just ignore.

As for the DR. thing I did talk to the ped. and he said he would be glad to come and see us in the hospital and he has an agreement with my MW to respect her clients opinions and desicissions. However . . . He will be out of toewn the 23rd through the first. I am due on the 25th. Lot of good he does me. Dr. Evil occaisionally takes back up calls for him so with my luck . . Although my midwife refuses to let him past her unless a paitent requests it (which has happened once and that inspired the patient to change Dr. ) She has said she will just keep calling every clinic in town untill she finds someone good or will call in a favor.

At least I have a great midwife. Being in the hospital on Saturday was good for me because it helped me see that there is a level of respect (from the nurses) for my MW I had not seen at my previous stay there and noone so much as entered my personal space without asking my permission.

Oh and to whoever was doing carpet. I have three word for you ndoor/outdoor carpet. This is great for basements because it is cheap, doesn't need a pad (these just copllect dust and allergins anyway) and will stand up to all the watery messes carpet canget into in the basement. We did our attic with a nice soft indoor/outdoor carpet (24'x17' plus a few nooks and crannies) for a little over $500. If you have rooms get remnats. you can usually pick these up for not so much. I feel for you. Dh expects to get the basement finished before this baby comes. I don't see it happening.

Anywhoo, good luck to all of you as I am sure we will start having these kiddos anyday.

[lilyka]

Oh for crying out loud!! I just got a call from the MW office. My lab work came back. Even though there was still blood in my urine there was no bacteria. The absance of bacteria makes the blood and and cramping a mystery. Other lab work from the hospital did reveal that I have some strange vaginal bacteria infection so after I finish this round of antibiotics I will start another. AHHHHHHH


Any suggestions for increasing my immune systems ability to function (apparently it has forgotton how!!). Also I am very suseptible (sp?) to yeast and acidophilus does nothing for me. Any suggestions there.

7 more weeks,
7 more weeks
7 more short little weeks . . .

[Cygnet09]

Hugs to you, lilyka. I really feel for you. I wish I could give you some suggestions - all I can offer is complete empathy. With my first PGcy DD was diagnosed as having a single-umbilical artery which meant more U/S and NSTs my last 6 weeks of PGcy, then I was told I failed the GTT by *one point* and had to retake it, then I was told I had anti-cardio lipin antibodies and needed to take a baby aspirin every day to prevent a possibility of a minute blood clot making its way to the placenta and killing the baby. is right. And, in case it isn't totally obvious, that was all through Kaiser and we switched to a MW in my 36th week and had a homebirth! Needless to say, we started out with the MW from day one this time and things are much smoother. I also seem to have a hard time with my whole immune system and I am covered in hives this time. Uncontrollably, psychotically itchy hives all over my hands, feet, belly and breasts. I look like a leper and I am miserable. So that makes two of us wanting babies out soon!!

Lisa, you amaze me. How do you keep track like that? I can barely remember what I read just before this post, let alone remember 5 or 6 things! Actually, DD is going on 2 1/2, that's just me being lazy and not updating my sig line! : I really like the name Anna-Rose - classic girls' names are wonderful. DD's full name is actually Anna-Catherine Marie, after my mom and my grandmother. The name Olivia is pretty common in our family history, and Rose just seemed to go with it. Funny, I should have known we were having a girl long before the U/S because that name just popped into my head! No boy's name anywhere in sight.

Feather, I just wanted to commiserate. While I do have a few friends who share the same parenting ideals, they aren't very close friends and I know they won't be around to help after the birth. I'm so sorry your MW brought up (unintentionally, of course) such painful feelings. I tend to become very isolated if I can't get out of the house and I know just how you feel. But you know what? You don't need a HUGE group of friends - just one or two good ones will keep you healthy and happy. I see DD2 as being a second way for me to try to connect to more moms out there. I'm planning on taking her to a mommy and me yoga class - do you have anything like that available? Obviously won't help you right now, but maybe having something to look forward to would help ease the painful feelings. {{hugs}} I'm so sorry you lost your mom.

As for me, I am huge, uncomfortable and tired of waking myself up because I tried to roll over in my sleep. : Painful pelvic area, contractions every time I move (short ones, tho) and seriously intense BHs whenever I nurse DD. Yeowch! EDD is 12/8.

I'm just so glad I'm not alone out there - thanks to everyone for being candid and sharing all you are going through. With DD1 I was on a more mainstream message board/journal and everyone thought that deep conversation revolved around how little weight they gained and what color to paint the nursery. Ugh. Thanks for being real!

[feather]

Lilyka~
I wouldn't dare attempt to suggest something for fear it wouldn't be safe for pg, but do you have a naturopath you can go and see?? My nd always has the answer to problems such as this - yeasty overgrowth and immune boosting type things. They are always very safe and solid solutions too. I would try it if you haven't already.

Alis ~ thanx for the kind words...........
And you are right, all one really needs is a good close friend or two. Now if only they weren't BOTH completely pg and miserable themselves!!!!!!!!LOL. I just have to laugh at it I guess. We all had to go and be pg together. Now none of us can do a DAMB thing for each other!

~Jenn

[tea olive]

lilyka, i have been keeping yeast at bay all year. first and most annoying is diet. keep away from refined sugar and sweet drinks. for the third month preg i managed to keep away from these plus almost all fruit, bread, cheese refined snacks, vinegars, beer pickled things only because i though yeast was ruining my family and had to set a good example. unfortunately not able to keep up this severe a diet for longer than that but did help me find better things to eat. pistachios, sundried tomatoes, etc etc. of course eat yogurt.

systemic yeast makes me irritable and confused. a regular yeast treatment (3-7 day) in the vagine would help me even though i showed no classic symptoms. i had a friend that would get mastitis regularly and it was because of yeast.

things that helped, well i tried everything at once so i don't know which ones were better. i have a colloidal silver spray that i spray in the mouth. i have probiotics from shaklee, it is a powder and a tiny tablet that go together. for the thrush the only thing that worked was the gentian violet.

ask for some nystatin to inhale through the nose or liquid to drink, it only kills yeast, the yeast proliferates whenever you take antibiotics so i try to ask for it everytime someone gets antibiotics.

i think i have a slight bacterial problem too but i'm counting on the acidity of blood and mucus protecting the baby. antibiotics mess me up too much and i feel that they hamper my immune system.

i hope they are trying different antibiotics for you, some just don't work. first baby i had mastitis three times in a row with antibiotics, the third time i went to the emergency room to get some but my fever skyrocketed to 105 and then i was perfectly fine in two days, my body had managed to heal itself.

i'm beginning to realize that all of us aren't going to go early though i think we are all thinking about it, now i know why women go get induced. trying my best to keep occupied and enjoy the family the way it is. it's good to hear y'alls rants, i guess i don't have the energy to roar.

[lilyka]

As a general rule I would skip the antibiotics but early in preg. the infections were causeing spotting and cramping. For my sanity I needed it to stop. No we are doing it because it is actually starting labor and as much as I want this bean out of me I will not have her this early.

thanks everyone for the sympathy. I realy needed to whine to someone who cared. You guys are great.

Alis - i am so sorry you are having such a hard time. Heres a few more of these on your behalf

And a couple of these

May your sweet baby not be a minute late.

[ekblad9]

Are you guys getting the "oh my gosh she's gonna blow" look? Everywhere I go that's how people look at me. It's starting to drive me nuts!

[crzymommy]

I get the "she's gonna blow" look

ALL the time. I have 6 weeks 1 day (not that I'm counting or anything) to go and everyone just assumes that I am due any day now. It's quite frustrating. My 3 year old said to me the other day, with a big grin - "Mommy, your belly's gonna pop!" Of course, I can forgive her, because she's three. It's the stangers in the park, supermarket, you name it, that I really want to STRANGLE.

Amy
Due 12/22

[BabygirldueNov25th]

Menstral-like cramps...shooting pains (sound like cntrctns?)

spyiispy,

About Thanksgiving.......I know my mom is cooking, unless I go into labor before she starts to prepare anything. So, I plan to go there, baby or not. Even if I deliver right before, I am still going. They don't have a dining room, so big dinners are eaten in livingroom on comfy couches, and I can do that even if I'm recouping. This is my husband's and my first Thanksgiving married, and my original plan was to make the whole meal at home and invite all who would come, but since I can't plan that, I am making the whole shabang for just the two of us tomorrow....minus the pumpkin pie so we can save that for the actual holiday.
We usually spend Thanksgiving alternating parent's houses, but his parents normally go out of town to grandparents for big family thing. They said they aren't sure if their going there or not, but I would think they'd want to stay home to spend it with us, so who knows......I don't care anyways.....it doesn't seem the same without my own family.




ekblad6,

I don't just get the "She gonna blow" look.....people say it to me all the time........"You look like your ready to pop!" Complete strangers say this, and they've been saying it for over a month now. My mom just looks at me with pity and says I look uncomfortable. Right now I have a major cold, and I sound horrible. As much as I've been saying..."I want this baby out now!" This would be an awful time to deliver her besides the fact that my voice is almost gone. I can't sleep at night now for the normal reasons, and I hack like nuts when I lay down.

[feather]

Ekblad -
Funny you should bring it up. Dh and I were out in the stores today and both of us turned around the same time and wondered out loud to one another *why in the heck is everyone staring at me?* I was going to ask him if I had food on my face or something!
People just cannot help it. I probably look like I am struggling to even be out and about walking-which I am. So I guess I can't blame them all for staring.
~Jenn

[tea olive]

well, at least you are getting out, something i am having a hard time doing. i am officially miserable. my legs instantly go numb when i stand up, so i have a window before i keel over. even that's okay, it's my attitude that has diminished. for the first time this round i said today, i'm ready for this to be over. what, am i nuts? my kids and dh are more than enough to handle and my house is a wreck. i suppose this is the natural course of things, otherwise i would never be able to let go of the pregnancy. BLEAH.

[lilyka]

)My baby has shifted perhaps even dropped over the last couple of days (perhaps all the BH contractions are confusing the poor little bean and she thinks it is time to start getting ready.) so people notice the change but can't pinpoint it I guess. So today I got a lot of "attention" at church (as if it hasn't been obvious for the last 6 months ). There was a whole group of us who had babies with a month or two of each other 2 years ago and then all came up pregnant again at the same time. The first one has gone so now everyone in impatient for the rest of us. Guess who is due last. Thats right, me. I hate being last.

I was at K-mart the other day and had a warter bottle in my purse (big purse) which my dd's had gotton into and not closed. All of a sudden a guy taps me on the shoulder and whispers "ma'am, I think your leaking something." I had about a hundred foot trail of water behind me. I am sure he thought my water had broken (as if I wouldn't have noticed). I almost fell over laughing. Assured everyone (we were all waiting for perscriptions) it was neither me nor my 2 year old and then found someone to clean it up (I would have done it myself if i could have bent over )

[spyiispy]

C'mon girls....you really didn't think I remembered ALL that stuff, all by myself, did you??? LOL I made little notes on a piece of scrap paper and then typed out my post. Although I'm flattered that y'all think my mind is that sharp this late in pregnancy....I cannot tell a lie.

casina & lilyka.......I might offer one suggestion to deal with your bacterial infections....GARLIC!! You seriously cannot OD on the stuff. Here's a little blurb about some of its benefits in pregnancy:


"New research shows that taking garlic during pregnancy can cut the risk of pre-eclampsia (raised blood pressure and protein retained in the urine). Studies reveal that garlic may help to boost the birth-weight of babies destined to be too small. The research was carried out by Dr D Sooranna, Ms J Hirani and Dr I Das in the Academic Department of Obstertrics & Gynaecology at the Chelsea & Westminster Hospital in London UK.


They concluded that although pre-eclampsia and growth retardation are complex multifactoral conditions, taking standardised garlic tablets (for further details please contact us) throughout pregnancy may decrease the chances of these types of complictions at birth. They focussed on growth retarded babies and pre-eclampsia, a potentially dangerous condition for mother and baby which occurs in about one in ten pregnancies. Experiments by the research team showed that adding extracts of garlic to cells from the placenta of women likely to suffer from these conditions was able to quickly stimulate growth. Furthermore, the activity of key enzymes that are reduced in the abnormal pregnancies were significantly increased when garlic was added."

Here's some interesting facts about is anti-bacterial qualities:

"Garlic is the only antibiotic that can actually kill infecting bacteria and at the same time protect the body from the poisons that are causing the infection. It is known that the most sensitive bacterium to garlic is the deadly Bacillus anthracis which produces the poison anthrax. Even the forefather of antibiotic medicine Louis Pasteur acknowledged garlic to be as effective as penicillin and late studies showed similar activity to a more modern antibiotic, chloramphenicol. Even the blood of garlic eaters can kill bacteria and it is also reported that the vapour from freshly cut garlic can kill bacteria at a distance of 20 cms!! Another once common, and apparently returning disease, tuberculosis was treated with garlic very successfully as the invading organism Mycobacterium tuberculosis is sensitive to several of the sulphur components found in garlic."

lilyka.....tooo funny about your "water" breaking in Kmart. I wonder how long it took that guy to say something to you! Hee hee hee!

I have one question......is ANYONE still having sex???

Lisa

[ekblad9]

No sex here. No matter what the promise is of it putting me into labor. I know it doesn't work and I can't stand the thought of stuffing anything else up there! Sorry so graphic. Dh is bugging me but I just feel so yucky as it is. I've never quit this early before but I'm just not feeling up to it. He tells me to just lay there and that I won't have to do anything. That's how I got into this pregnancy in the first place as I recall!

[spyiispy]

LOLOLOLOLOLOL..........good one!! I sat here, eating my cereal, laughing to myself. DH wanted to know what I was laughing at.........."Ohhhh, nothinnng!"

Lisa

[crzymommy]

Sex? What's that?

BWA HAHAHAHAHAHA! We haven't had it in I don't know how long, but poor dh is being very understanding. I was thinking maybe we could try it just for old time's sake. :

Amy
due #2 12/22

[ekblad9]

Well, I just got back from the midwife and the baby is breech. Anyone else have that problem? I don't know what to do. She gave me some excercises to do. I did schedule to have him turned b/c I'm afraid if I don't, he won't turn on his own and I'll have to have a csection. I don't think I'm strong enough for that. Any advice?

[feather]

Eckblad -

My slightly alternative chiropractor says she has turned MANY breech babies successfully. Maybe you could ask around for a chiropractor that understands about such things.
Oh, and NO sex here either. Dh isn't happy about it. He said something along the same line as your dh said -- *just lye there, you don't have to do anything*. Oh yeah, THAT sounds appealing.........NOT!

Jenn

[IfMamaAintHappy]

37 weeks 5 days here. More pregnant than Ive ever been, since DD came 3 weeks early.

Not that it matters, but Im dilated 2 cm and 50% effaced as of last Wednesday. The only curious thing to me is taht baby is at +1 station. Grace wasnt that far dropped into my pelvis till I was 7 cm and totally effaced and about to hit transition.

The pressure is insane, I poop every time I pee, and apparently my poor tush thinks Im straining 24/7 and I have internal hemmorhoids already.

I am ready to be done, but I dont feel like labor is coming anytime soon. I finished nesting about a week and a half ago.

But Im just hanging out, doing my usual cooking and cleaning and toddler chasing. Baby will come when she wants to.

[mcimom]

Ladies,
I've been lurking so long, but I'm SO in need of co-miseration that I had to post no matter how tired I am or how many other things I *should* be doing!

I'm 39 weeks - due next Thursday. I am so getting the "she's about to blow!" looks and of course, the comments! I've also had a horrible head cold the last week-lost my voice, horrible cough, even more stuffed up than usual. What fun! And to top off the cold, last DR appointment they told me I tested + for GBS. Yay, one more thing to look forward to! Though I'd rather be put on the antibiotics myself than have to have the baby put on them. I'll probably wimp out and get the epi anyway, so I'll already have to have an IV, what's one more thing dripping into it? I'm trying to be positive, b/c of course I do have something wonderful to look forward to, but it's so hard right now!

My H (no D today) is being an A if you catch my drift. We came home from playgroup today w/one of those big cookies that said "Good Luck Leighanne" on it and he seriously asked - "good luck for what?" Oh, guess what honey? - I should have told you first, must have slipped my mind - I'm pregnant! What a jerk. He so could care less or at least acts that way and I'm sick of it. I was just bawling tonight b/c I've been so sick for a week and of course such a grump to my kids and I'm just worn out and he's all put out like *sigh* "what's wrong w/you now?!?!?" Wow! Thanks for the support, honey. It's just great how nice you can be and obviously so concerned as he's flipping through the channels while I bawl on his lap and sighing like "shut up already so I can hear the TV." I made him take the girls out this weekend on his own so that I could try and get rid of this cold and he was so put out like "when do I get my break?" Nevermind that 99% of the time I have them both to myself and constantly give him breaks when he's not even sick. So, of course, he calls his mom up and she's sick so he's stuck entertaining them both and later when she and I were talking she was like "I felt so guilty." I mean how ridiculous that she and I - who watch the girls on our own 99% of the time - should feel *guilty* b/c we're both sick and he's stuck for one 4-hour period of his life having to actually parent both of his daughters. We so baby him, we've got to stop, it's just ridiculous. People keep saying, what do you think it will be like w/3 kids and I just laugh and say, I've already got 3 kids, this will be my 4th b/c my H is so a child. Ugh. I could go on and on, I am just sick to death of his attitude and selfish f-ing personality.

Ok, I'm done. I'm sorry! I have (almost) 3 girls and so much to look forward to. I am so lucky to have them even if I can't appreciate it completely in my current state of complete fatness.

Thanks for letting me whine. Look forward to hearing all of your birth stories soon!

Leighanne