I need your opinions...PLEASE!!Don't get me wrong, my midwife is really nice, sweet, and informed, but something is really bothering me.......She doesn't remember things I tell her, and keeps asking me the same questions almost every visit, and it is really bothering me. The main things she keeps asking me are:
What is your plan for labor?
Who is attending the birth?
and the worst is the fact that she keeps forgetting I'm having a girl, so she keeps asking me about circumcision. I know I have only seen her since the 30th week, but I had two interviews with her, and like 6 or 7 visits. She only writes down the medical stuff, and nothing else I say. As for the birth plan, I could have written one out and given it to her, but it was so simple, and mostly everything I wanted was things they normally do anyways.
See, I wanted this to be more personal than a regular doctor, but at least they keep notes on what you say (at least mine did), so that you didn't have to repeat yourself all the time, and at least it seemed as if they cared about you enough to remember what you said. When I was working at Jenny Craig as a weight loss consultant, I had like 50-60 different clients I saw every single week, and I managed to remember things about their personal lives that I didn't write down, and could ask them about at their next visit......like if they said their child was sick, I'd ask them how the child was doing. Right now I don't think she sees any more than like 20 women.
So my question is, should I bring this up to her, or let it go since I am so close to delivering anyways. The problem with letting it go is that I probably won't come back for another pregnancy (which means I'd have to go to a hospital next time because it's the only birthing center in the area). Another thing is that if it's bothering her other patients too, she might like to know. The simple solution would just to be to take notes, or have each patient write out a detailed birth plan to keep in the file that she could refer back to.
If she acts funny about me telling her, though, it could make it uncomfortable to be around her, and then what would I do?
Any feedback on this would be soooo great!
Just in case anyone reads the midwives and doulas posts, I think I am going to put this same message on that board too, to get some midwives opinions.